Caregivers and Stress

Chad · 12-30-2017, 08:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Chad

Update:

Mom's exray was good, no broken bones.
She has her leg up and iced for the swelling.

I am relieved.

X-ray not exray. Haha!

~ocean · 12-30-2017, 08:30 AM

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Originally Posted by Chad

X-ray not exray. Haha!

snigglet EXRAY a way you can now see into prospective lovers to BEWARE of lololol ** hello Webster's **

Chad · 12-30-2017, 08:36 AM

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Originally Posted by ~ocean

snigglet EXRAY a way you can now see into prospective lovers to BEWARE of lololol ** hello Webster's **

Haha! Good one ocean. 😆

Chad · 01-04-2018, 05:46 PM

I took mom to the psychological exam today and I charmed the doctor into shortening the visit by half the time. I think mom passed her test and is elligible to move forward with the pain treatment.

For me, I worked 2.5 hours and drove 6 hours round trip to take mom to her appointment. We did have a little time for lunch.

Back to work tomorrow for another 12 day. Ugh

Chad · 01-16-2018, 09:37 AM

It looks like my mom is going to get the procedure to give her some pain relief. I will take her to the hospital for the surgery.

Funny thing, she called last night to ask me if I would take her to a birthday party in southeast Texas. The party is for her old hair stylist from Houston. My mom used to spend 4 hours every Saturday getting her hair done. I guess the bouffant hair style took that long. Haha!
Her friend will be 100 years old. I said of course I will take you to her birthday party.

girl_dee · 01-26-2018, 05:48 AM

my mom has done a complete 180. i’ve recently had some long talks with her, and wanted to tell her about Mel and my plans to move. i’ve been bracing myself for months.

She said she is so super happy for me, to RUN to Cali and not waste time. She said the fam will have to get over it, that i am entitled to a life, just like they have. (Easier said than done).

We were on FaceTime and she looked away fighting the tears saying not to live a life like her, she regrets not doing things that she wanted to.

i think my mom is a closet case, she’s been without someone in her life for over 25 years, and the two marriages she had were horrible.

Now she’s fighting COPD and having a hard time breathing. i want her to live so i an have many more talks with her. Now i’m being selfish. She is about to move herself back the same facility she hated a year ago, and moved herself to without thought. She’s been in a black hole of misery since. 79 and still trying to find happiness, moving her meager belongings from one government run housing facility to another. Her Social Security payments are a joke, so it’s all she can do.

She’s been so so miserable and unbearable, i’ve not always wish for her to live a long life, i just want to see her at peace.

Now i want her to stick around, i’m enjoying being the daughter.

girl_dee · 01-29-2018, 05:05 AM

my mom is not doing well. Her COPD is bad and my sister reports that she can’t get up out of her chair at this point. When i talk to my mom it sounds like she’s run a marathon.

i hope it’s just the stress she has put onto herself. If so it will settle down.

my sister said she’s worked herself into a tizzy over her move and looked like she was about to have a heart attack.

i’m checking in each morning and evening, and trying not to get sucked into the drama that’s she’s created with my sister.

01-04-2018, 05:46 PM	#4
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01-16-2018, 09:37 AM	#5
Chad Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: OFOS Stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Loved Caregiver Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Texas Posts: 6,164 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,746 Thanked 20,312 Times in 5,677 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Caregivers It looks like my mom is going to get the procedure to give her some pain relief. I will take her to the hospital for the surgery. Funny thing, she called last night to ask me if I would take her to a birthday party in southeast Texas. The party is for her old hair stylist from Houston. My mom used to spend 4 hours every Saturday getting her hair done. I guess the bouffant hair style took that long. Haha! Her friend will be 100 years old. I said of course I will take you to her birthday party.

01-26-2018, 05:48 AM	#6
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,829 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	my mom has done a complete 180. i’ve recently had some long talks with her, and wanted to tell her about Mel and my plans to move. i’ve been bracing myself for months. She said she is so super happy for me, to RUN to Cali and not waste time. She said the fam will have to get over it, that i am entitled to a life, just like they have. (Easier said than done). We were on FaceTime and she looked away fighting the tears saying not to live a life like her, she regrets not doing things that she wanted to. i think my mom is a closet case, she’s been without someone in her life for over 25 years, and the two marriages she had were horrible. Now she’s fighting COPD and having a hard time breathing. i want her to live so i an have many more talks with her. Now i’m being selfish. She is about to move herself back the same facility she hated a year ago, and moved herself to without thought. She’s been in a black hole of misery since. 79 and still trying to find happiness, moving her meager belongings from one government run housing facility to another. Her Social Security payments are a joke, so it’s all she can do. She’s been so so miserable and unbearable, i’ve not always wish for her to live a long life, i just want to see her at peace. Now i want her to stick around, i’m enjoying being the daughter.

01-29-2018, 05:05 AM	#7
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,829 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	my mom is not doing well. Her COPD is bad and my sister reports that she can’t get up out of her chair at this point. When i talk to my mom it sounds like she’s run a marathon. i hope it’s just the stress she has put onto herself. If so it will settle down. my sister said she’s worked herself into a tizzy over her move and looked like she was about to have a heart attack. i’m checking in each morning and evening, and trying not to get sucked into the drama that’s she’s created with my sister.