How many femmes are attracted to butches?

[*Anya*]

Originally Posted by Deborah*

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I've never dated a feminine woman.

Deborah

My first "real" girlfriend was a femme. She was my best friend and we just fell in love and took it from there.

There was always a sexual charge missing for me but I never could put my finger on what it was exactly.

Then I reconnected with a butch that I had met in NOW after the femme and I ended our romantic relationship and went back to being best friends.

One date with the butch.

She said: "Come here, I want to kiss you".

Knees weak.

Then I knew what it was that I had unconsciously been missing.

Femmes are friends and sisters for me. They always will be.

I always chuckle at the title of this thread: How many Femmes are attracted to butches?

Uh, most all of us that are on this site.

[girl_dee]

i’m attracted to both but only can only be in a relationship with a butch woman

[introverted1]

Me. I'm attracted to butches.

[introverted1]

Originally Posted by *Anya*

My first "real" girlfriend was a femme. She was my best friend and we just fell in love and took it from there.

There was always a sexual charge missing for me but I never could put my finger on what it was exactly.

Then I reconnected with a butch that I had met in NOW after the femme and I ended our romantic relationship and went back to being best friends.

One date with the butch.

She said: "Come here, I want to kiss you".

Knees weak.

Then I knew what it was that I had unconsciously been missing.

Femmes are friends and sisters for me. They always will be.

I always chuckle at the title of this thread: How many Femmes are attracted to butches?

Uh, most all of us that are on this site.

I experienced the same sort of thing. I've been with femmes before, but once I experienced the butch/femme dynamic? It's all I want, now.

[Signmypapyrus]

But aren’t there degrees of butchness? Like today I saw a photo of Kate Spade, and jeez, if she were just a bit more masculine.... ugh yes! Or Cherry Jones is another one.
Granted, it’s down to personality. Like the butches I’ve liked are confident, smart, kind, and carry themselves in a certain way.

Maybe?

[JDeere]

Originally Posted by Signmypapyrus

But aren’t there degrees of butchness? Like today I saw a photo of Kate Spade, and jeez, if she were just a bit more masculine.... ugh yes! Or Cherry Jones is another one.
Granted, it’s down to personality. Like the butches I’ve liked are confident, smart, kind, and carry themselves in a certain way.

Maybe?

Ive heard many non butch femme folks talk about degrees of butchness. To me having degrees of anything negates someones identity.

[Signmypapyrus]

Originally Posted by JDeere

Ive heard many non butch femme folks talk about degrees of butchness. To me having degrees of anything negates someones identity.

But isn’t this just socially constructing a binary then? The same could go for femmes. I’m not super femme-y, which dismantles social hierarchies and gender distinctions. I think that’s the beauty of what Judith Butler was getting at when she was talking about gender being performative.

[JDeere]

Originally Posted by Signmypapyrus

But isn’t this just socially constructing a binary then? The same could go for femmes. I’m not super femme-y, which dismantles social hierarchies and gender distinctions. I think that’s the beauty of what Judith Butler was getting at when she was talking about gender being performative.

Idk about constructing a binary. I just don't really care what others outside of the glbtqia community think about gender.

[Signmypapyrus]

Originally Posted by JDeere

Idk about constructing a binary. I just don't really care what others outside of the glbtqia community think about gender.

Oh! Thanks for letting me know. For reference, this is Judith Butler: https://vcresearch.berkeley.edu/faculty/judith-butler