Butch visibility

Kosmo · 01-13-2018, 10:08 PM

It's the "otherness" that I embrace. I'm not overtly butch looking. Not the typical gay romance novel butch who's 5'-8", slim, blue eyed, long fingers, deep voice, and on, and on.

Like everyone here, I navigate the straight world every day and my butchness may or may not be recognized or acknowledged. I'm visible to myself and my sweetheart and it's that "otherness" that makes me smile.

cathexis · 01-14-2018, 02:02 AM

Weird one, my Partner is the calm. cool, collected butch who needs not be in someone's face about (except as it pertains to family), She just has this aura . She will walk into a room (really not meaning to), and be the center of attention without even wanted the attention. It's like a Butch (or I think it's her Alpha bubble) and Her aura just walked in. She never makes anyone else feel any lesser. Often comes in and helps with whatever project is being done.

This was just for comparison. I am the one on T and top surgery. She doesn't seem to need the validations of the world, but encourages me to pursue them for me to validate to myself , the fact of butchness.

JDeere · 05-22-2018, 01:22 AM

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Originally Posted by cathexis

Weird one, my Partner is the calm. cool, collected butch who needs not be in someone's face about (except as it pertains to family), She just has this aura . She will walk into a room (really not meaning to), and be the center of attention without even wanted the attention. It's like a Butch (or I think it's her Alpha bubble) and Her aura just walked in. She never makes anyone else feel any lesser. Often comes in and helps with whatever project is being done.

This was just for comparison. I am the one on T and top surgery. She doesn't seem to need the validations of the world, but encourages me to pursue them for me to validate to myself , the fact of butchness.

I don't see anything wrong with seeking validation at all. I think its awesome that your partner encourages you to be your true self!

homoe · 03-24-2019, 08:33 AM

I suppose in this day and age, Miss Hathaway could be mooning over Ellie May instead of Jethrow...

homoe · 03-24-2019, 05:35 PM

visibility and attitude a winning combo IMHO

homoe · 03-24-2019, 05:53 PM

Visibility with a smile, can't beat that IMHO

CherylNYC · 03-25-2019, 09:36 PM

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Originally Posted by homoe

visibility and attitude a winning combo IMHO

Well, now. That's exactly what I wanted to see before I turn in for the night. Thanks, homoe.

DAMN, she's hot.

homoe · 03-28-2019, 10:06 AM

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Originally Posted by CherylNYC

Well, now. That's exactly what I wanted to see before I turn in for the night. Thanks, homoe.

DAMN, she's hot.

You're most welcome Cheryl...

01-13-2018, 10:08 PM	#1
Kosmo Member How Do You Identify?: just me Preferred Pronoun?: he Relationship Status: This seat is taken Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Buckeye Posts: 210 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 180 Thanked 274 Times in 119 Posts Rep Power: 227089	It's the "otherness" that I embrace. I'm not overtly butch looking. Not the typical gay romance novel butch who's 5'-8", slim, blue eyed, long fingers, deep voice, and on, and on. Like everyone here, I navigate the straight world every day and my butchness may or may not be recognized or acknowledged. I'm visible to myself and my sweetheart and it's that "otherness" that makes me smile. __________________ Kosmo (fka ZRider)

01-14-2018, 02:02 AM	#2
cathexis Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Trotskyist, Anarcho-syndicalist Preferred Pronoun?: They, Them, Their, Sir Bitch Relationship Status: open Join Date: Sep 2016 Location: Great White North! Posts: 4,332 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,812 Thanked 4,706 Times in 1,604 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	Weird one, my Partner is the calm. cool, collected butch who needs not be in someone's face about (except as it pertains to family), She just has this aura . She will walk into a room (really not meaning to), and be the center of attention without even wanted the attention. It's like a Butch (or I think it's her Alpha bubble) and Her aura just walked in. She never makes anyone else feel any lesser. Often comes in and helps with whatever project is being done. This was just for comparison. I am the one on T and top surgery. She doesn't seem to need the validations of the world, but encourages me to pursue them for me to validate to myself , the fact of butchness.

03-24-2019, 08:33 AM	#4
homoe Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: ..... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: 30 minute ferry ride from Seattle Posts: 38,565 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 20,811 Thanked 33,548 Times in 14,914 Posts Rep Power: 21474889	I suppose in this day and age, Miss Hathaway could be mooning over Ellie May instead of Jethrow...

03-24-2019, 05:35 PM	#5
homoe Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: ..... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: 30 minute ferry ride from Seattle Posts: 38,565 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 20,811 Thanked 33,548 Times in 14,914 Posts Rep Power: 21474889	visibility and attitude a winning combo IMHO

03-24-2019, 05:53 PM	#6
homoe Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: ..... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: 30 minute ferry ride from Seattle Posts: 38,565 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 20,811 Thanked 33,548 Times in 14,914 Posts Rep Power: 21474889	Visibility with a smile, can't beat that IMHO