Instant Turn-Offs

Lyte · 01-22-2018, 06:55 PM

*mental note ... nix the wink if ever you meet Anya*

A wink is a very delicate expression ... gesture ... whatever. I can go very easily wrong ... or pretty darn right! It should be used with the utmost of caution and with much forethought!

Yes, I've been known to wink on occasion ... on occasion.

<-- not winking!

Quote:

Originally Posted by *Anya*

I just saw a guy do this on TV and it reminded me of this: a winker.

Someone that winks at me in the middle of a conversation. People that are winkers tend to do it no matter how serious the conversation. I don't even like it if someone is flirting and does this.

I think it is kind of creepy.

*wink, wink*

Ooh.

Lyte · 01-22-2018, 06:59 PM

Lacking even the minimum ... a modicum of social grace ... aka manners! I don't expect her to know what fork goes with what course but I do need her to be attuned to when "please" and "thank you" are appropriate.

Ascot · 01-22-2018, 07:09 PM

Treating anyone in a service capacity with anything less than respect. That's a major no-no with me!

EnchantedNightDweller · 01-22-2018, 07:18 PM

Here's my top 3:
You're a racist.
You don't like kids.
You don't like animals.

*Anya* · 01-22-2018, 08:00 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lyte

*mental note ... nix the wink if ever you meet Anya*

A wink is a very delicate expression ... gesture ... whatever. I can go very easily wrong ... or pretty darn right! It should be used with the utmost of caution and with much forethought!

Yes, I've been known to wink on occasion ... on occasion.

<-- not winking!

Ha!

Gemme · 01-22-2018, 08:42 PM

Winks can turn into twitches and ticks surprisingly fast.

Lyte · 01-22-2018, 10:16 PM

See! A good wink requires a serious workout regimen! Winking is not for amateurs!

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gemme

Winks can turn into twitches and ticks surprisingly fast.

Medusa · 01-22-2018, 10:42 PM

Instant turn-off = Fakery and disingenuousness. Like, that thing where you meet people who are bullshit artists. They aren’t even themselves, just bits and pieces they’ve gleaned as “special” from other people’s experiences or personalities.

No no no!

cathexis · 01-23-2018, 02:22 AM

Lying is something I despise (the main offense).
Excessive swearing (especially when unnecessary)
Impolite behavior to anyone. I don't care if it's the janitor, they deserve acknowledgement.
An individual is not equal only to the job they hold. Even professors can be schmucks.

clay · 01-23-2018, 08:38 AM

Someone who "plays" others

Racism

Disrespecting others who may be differently abled (superficial/shallow mindedness)

Sweet Bliss · 01-22-2018, 08:44 PM

being rude then pretending they were "just kidding"

being dismissive to ANYONE (including pets)

failure to communicate, covers HUGE area.

01-22-2018, 07:09 PM	#3
Ascot Member How Do You Identify?: Preppy Butch artist Relationship Status: Riding solo Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: North of the Emerald City Posts: 1,135 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 179 Thanked 2,487 Times in 549 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	Treating anyone in a service capacity with anything less than respect. That's a major no-no with me! __________________ Now, if I could just find a way to get paid for what I can do with my tongue and a cherry stem.

01-22-2018, 08:42 PM	#6
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01-23-2018, 02:22 AM	#9
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01-23-2018, 08:38 AM	#10
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01-22-2018, 06:59 PM	#2
Lyte Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: Meh... I'm not very particular about this. Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Aug 2016 Location: The south... bleh! Posts: 1,744 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,316 Thanked 5,113 Times in 1,504 Posts Rep Power: 21474847	Lacking even the minimum ... a modicum of social grace ... aka manners! I don't expect her to know what fork goes with what course but I do need her to be attuned to when "please" and "thank you" are appropriate.

01-22-2018, 07:18 PM	#4
EnchantedNightDweller Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: her, she Relationship Status: Being single is a good thing and I like it. Join Date: Jun 2014 Location: Texas Posts: 1,492 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,907 Thanked 2,462 Times in 803 Posts Rep Power: 21474849	Here's my top 3: You're a racist. You don't like kids. You don't like animals.

01-22-2018, 08:44 PM	#11
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