Cancer Support and Caregivers Who Are Trail Blazers!

Chained Daisy · 03-29-2018, 07:38 AM

Hi Wrangler,

That`s tough your Mom wasn't able to complete her chemo just yet, I`m sure you are both waiting for the treatment to be done with, yes, chemo is indeed a bitch.

As I read your post it I was reminded just how that conflict of emotions feels, having a Mom who rewards, care, concern and devotion with cruel words and thinks they are entitled to say anything they wish regardless of the hurt inflicted, I have been there so often. When you have had a similar relationship with a parent you understand just how that feels.

It sounds like she is very blessed to have you around, in her life and caring for her. Remember you are entitled to feel hurt and want some breathing space from her when she behaves this way, I`m telling you that as I wish I had told myself that more often years ago !

So here`s hoping she can get the last round of chemo soon, the scan results bring what is hoped for and that her pain eases too.

Stay strong and know you and your Mom are sent positive thoughts for brighter days.

Daisy

Gayandgray · 03-29-2018, 09:27 AM

My spouse’s oldest daughter who lives in Indiana had told us she has liver cancer. We were waiting for all her tests to come back. Today she called and said it’s stage 4 and they are giving her maybe a year. My spouse is heartbroken and is not taking this well at all. Her daughter and her husband are flying out here a week after Easter to see us all one last time. I feel so helpless.

Chained Daisy · 03-29-2018, 11:04 AM

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Originally Posted by Gayandgray

My spouse’s oldest daughter who lives in Indiana had told us she has liver cancer. We were waiting for all her tests to come back. Today she called and said it’s stage 4 and they are giving her maybe a year. My spouse is heartbroken and is not taking this well at all. Her daughter and her husband are flying out here a week after Easter to see us all one last time. I feel so helpless.

I am so sorry to hear this, the worst news.

Thoughts are with all of you, life can be so cruel.

easygoingfemme · 03-29-2018, 03:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Gayandgray

My spouse’s oldest daughter who lives in Indiana had told us she has liver cancer. We were waiting for all her tests to come back. Today she called and said it’s stage 4 and they are giving her maybe a year. My spouse is heartbroken and is not taking this well at all. Her daughter and her husband are flying out here a week after Easter to see us all one last time. I feel so helpless.

I am so very sorry to hear this. My heart goes out to your whole family...

Wrang1er · 04-10-2018, 12:55 PM

Mom got her CT scan today. We'll know next Tuesday if the cancer is gone. If it's gone I will be throwing her a "Kicked Cancer's Ass" party!

clay · 04-10-2018, 04:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Wrang1er

Mom got her CT scan today. We'll know next Tuesday if the cancer is gone. If it's gone I will be throwing her a "Kicked Cancer's Ass" party!

Sending you both gentle hugs & positive energies for an "all clean" report! Know you are in my thoughts always my friend!

Wrang1er · 04-10-2018, 07:11 PM

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Sending you both gentle hugs & positive energies for an "all clean" report! Know you are in my thoughts always my friend!

Thank you, Clay. It is much appreciated. Everyone here has been super supportive.

JDeere · 04-10-2018, 07:49 PM

Good vibes sent to all caregivers and kudos for doing what yall do.

My birth mother had hospice care along with one of my sisters helping her last 2 months of life. I have a ton of appreciation for how yall handle and do what yall do.

03-29-2018, 07:38 AM	#1
Chained Daisy Member How Do You Identify?: OFOS Stone Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Join Date: May 2017 Location: Usually underneath a cat Posts: 827 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,673 Thanked 1,811 Times in 531 Posts Rep Power: 21474845	Hi Wrangler, That`s tough your Mom wasn't able to complete her chemo just yet, I`m sure you are both waiting for the treatment to be done with, yes, chemo is indeed a bitch. As I read your post it I was reminded just how that conflict of emotions feels, having a Mom who rewards, care, concern and devotion with cruel words and thinks they are entitled to say anything they wish regardless of the hurt inflicted, I have been there so often. When you have had a similar relationship with a parent you understand just how that feels. It sounds like she is very blessed to have you around, in her life and caring for her. Remember you are entitled to feel hurt and want some breathing space from her when she behaves this way, I`m telling you that as I wish I had told myself that more often years ago ! So here`s hoping she can get the last round of chemo soon, the scan results bring what is hoped for and that her pain eases too. Stay strong and know you and your Mom are sent positive thoughts for brighter days. Daisy __________________ Formerly known as Daisy Chain I am half agony, half hope, Jane Austen

03-29-2018, 09:27 AM	#2
Gayandgray Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme-ish, tomboy lesbian Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Together a really long time Join Date: Jan 2016 Location: In my mind? On a tropical island Posts: 4,862 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,584 Thanked 12,884 Times in 3,081 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	My spouse’s oldest daughter who lives in Indiana had told us she has liver cancer. We were waiting for all her tests to come back. Today she called and said it’s stage 4 and they are giving her maybe a year. My spouse is heartbroken and is not taking this well at all. Her daughter and her husband are flying out here a week after Easter to see us all one last time. I feel so helpless. __________________

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Wrang1er Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Me, myself and I Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Here Posts: 1,526 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,112 Thanked 7,042 Times in 1,354 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	Mom got her CT scan today. We'll know next Tuesday if the cancer is gone. If it's gone I will be throwing her a "Kicked Cancer's Ass" party!

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