top surgery

Femminator · 05-27-2018, 07:25 PM

My Partner is going in July for theirs. It's been a long trip and I am glad that we are finally doing this. Just to see them finally be their self will be awesome.

I would like to ask what do you need most from a partner after our top surgery? I guess I would love to know how to make this easier for my partner.

SleepyButch · 05-28-2018, 08:25 AM

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Originally Posted by Femminator

My Partner is going in July for theirs. It's been a long trip and I am glad that we are finally doing this. Just to see them finally be their self will be awesome.

I would like to ask what do you need most from a partner after our top surgery? I guess I would love to know how to make this easier for my partner.

I'm sure others will chime in here and give their opinion but since I just went through it, I'll tell you from my own perspective. This compression garment has made me pretty irritable lol so be patient with them if that happens. I didn't bind before this surgery so that's probably made it worse for me but try to keep them from wanting to rip the damn thing off. lol

Make sure they stay hydrated and also eat something with their pain meds, even if it's just crackers. Taking that stuff on an empty stomach can cause nausea and no one wants to feel like that after surgery. Make a schedule for their meds because it's hard to keep track of what to take when if you have several.

It's really hard to use your arms so they won't be able to reach for things so just be mindful of that. Lastly, just be loving and supportive, probably what you do on a daily basis anyway.

Hope that helps some.

Martina · 06-02-2018, 12:23 AM

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Dean Thoreau · 06-08-2018, 11:57 AM

So next week I see the plastic surgeon... discuss the construction of male chest.
( I had bilateral mastectomy due to cancer, so I get top surgery done in 2 stages.)
I am pushing pretty hard for some liposuction in the gut area as well as skin removal... basically get rid of the pizza gut.
since all that extra fat can mess with my T and therefore my gender dyphoria will worsen etc. body image issues, Yada yada
it seems to be , being agreed upon I got the referrals and Recommendations for it from my gp, my endocrinologist, and the transition shrink...
So we shall see

SleepyButch · 06-08-2018, 06:46 PM

I had my two week follow up with my surgeon yesterday. Everything is looking great and no more wrapping my chest with ace bandages. I only have to wear a compression shirt, which I can certainly do. I feel so much better. Just sleeping lying flat is a huge relief lol. I love seeing my flat chest. It's something I've wished for forever.

cathexis · 06-20-2018, 01:24 AM

Been awhile since I've been able to get online with the house becoming condemned and bouncing around motel to Social Service apt and back to the Red Roof. My doctor left state, and haven't had T for 2 weeks past due. Have a gender appt. on 6/24 having to start over. TG we are moving to a larger town as there's no gender doc here.

Need to get a new PMD too. Loved the doc who moved away; though she ordered a renal US and a 24 hour urine test for glomerular filtration and creatinine clearance. She found me to be in Stage 3 renal failure. My brother died from renal failure at 60. I don't care. Sure his situation was far different.

The supposed easy cardiac clearance...ha...ha...ha
He is sending me for a stress test. Totally blindsided!

After all these hoops, who knows when I'll be able to get top surgery. Truly thought I'd sail through the clearance!

No T, no top surgery, the gender dysphoria is getting worse.

JDeere · 06-26-2018, 09:16 PM

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Originally Posted by cathexis

Been awhile since I've been able to get online with the house becoming condemned and bouncing around motel to Social Service apt and back to the Red Roof. My doctor left state, and haven't had T for 2 weeks past due. Have a gender appt. on 6/24 having to start over. TG we are moving to a larger town as there's no gender doc here.

Need to get a new PMD too. Loved the doc who moved away; though she ordered a renal US and a 24 hour urine test for glomerular filtration and creatinine clearance. She found me to be in Stage 3 renal failure. My brother died from renal failure at 60. I don't care. Sure his situation was far different.

The supposed easy cardiac clearance...ha...ha...ha
He is sending me for a stress test. Totally blindsided!

After all these hoops, who knows when I'll be able to get top surgery. Truly thought I'd sail through the clearance!

No T, no top surgery, the gender dysphoria is getting worse.

Holy crap! I am sorry you are going through this, however keep your head up, you never know things may change!

Vincent · 10-13-2018, 10:33 PM

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Originally Posted by cathexis

Been awhile since I've been able to get online with the house becoming condemned and bouncing around motel to Social Service apt and back to the Red Roof. My doctor left state, and haven't had T for 2 weeks past due. Have a gender appt. on 6/24 having to start over. TG we are moving to a larger town as there's no gender doc here.

Need to get a new PMD too. Loved the doc who moved away; though she ordered a renal US and a 24 hour urine test for glomerular filtration and creatinine clearance. She found me to be in Stage 3 renal failure. My brother died from renal failure at 60. I don't care. Sure his situation was far different.

The supposed easy cardiac clearance...ha...ha...ha
He is sending me for a stress test. Totally blindsided!

After all these hoops, who knows when I'll be able to get top surgery. Truly thought I'd sail through the clearance!

No T, no top surgery, the gender dysphoria is getting worse.

Oh mate,im really sorry to hear that.
I just moved to a new area to and was freaked out,about the medical shit,but the local GP has been cool,well so far he hasnt done a script yet,so until I get one i'm a bit nervous,In OZ it has to be cleared by the govt every script.
once again I hope this gets sorted for you.
cheers

05-27-2018, 07:25 PM	#1
Femminator Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Femme Preferred Pronoun?: feminine pronouns Relationship Status: Married, but not legally in my state! Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: Michigan Posts: 99 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 288 Thanked 444 Times in 91 Posts Rep Power: 2084268	My Partner is going in July for theirs. It's been a long trip and I am glad that we are finally doing this. Just to see them finally be their self will be awesome. I would like to ask what do you need most from a partner after our top surgery? I guess I would love to know how to make this easier for my partner. __________________ Be the change you wish to see in the world - Ghandi

06-02-2018, 12:23 AM	#3
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06-08-2018, 11:57 AM	#4
Dean Thoreau Member How Do You Identify?: Ftm - Male- exfemale Preferred Pronoun?: He’s Him Relationship Status: Has a gf Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Philadelphia pa Posts: 889 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 251 Thanked 762 Times in 219 Posts Rep Power: 4529749	So next week I see the plastic surgeon... discuss the construction of male chest. ( I had bilateral mastectomy due to cancer, so I get top surgery done in 2 stages.) I am pushing pretty hard for some liposuction in the gut area as well as skin removal... basically get rid of the pizza gut. since all that extra fat can mess with my T and therefore my gender dyphoria will worsen etc. body image issues, Yada yada it seems to be , being agreed upon I got the referrals and Recommendations for it from my gp, my endocrinologist, and the transition shrink... So we shall see __________________ Dean Thoreau

06-08-2018, 06:46 PM	#5
SleepyButch Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Dude Preferred Pronoun?: He, Him Relationship Status: Taken Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: Hidden Valley Ranch Posts: 3,511 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,220 Thanked 11,248 Times in 2,754 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I had my two week follow up with my surgeon yesterday. Everything is looking great and no more wrapping my chest with ace bandages. I only have to wear a compression shirt, which I can certainly do. I feel so much better. Just sleeping lying flat is a huge relief lol. I love seeing my flat chest. It's something I've wished for forever. __________________ . You cannot embrace those things that will not embrace you back.

06-20-2018, 01:24 AM	#6
cathexis Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Trotskyist, Anarcho-syndicalist Preferred Pronoun?: They, Them, Their, Sir Bitch Relationship Status: open Join Date: Sep 2016 Location: Great White North! Posts: 4,332 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,812 Thanked 4,705 Times in 1,604 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	Been awhile since I've been able to get online with the house becoming condemned and bouncing around motel to Social Service apt and back to the Red Roof. My doctor left state, and haven't had T for 2 weeks past due. Have a gender appt. on 6/24 having to start over. TG we are moving to a larger town as there's no gender doc here. Need to get a new PMD too. Loved the doc who moved away; though she ordered a renal US and a 24 hour urine test for glomerular filtration and creatinine clearance. She found me to be in Stage 3 renal failure. My brother died from renal failure at 60. I don't care. Sure his situation was far different. The supposed easy cardiac clearance...ha...ha...ha He is sending me for a stress test. Totally blindsided! After all these hoops, who knows when I'll be able to get top surgery. Truly thought I'd sail through the clearance! No T, no top surgery, the gender dysphoria is getting worse.