you dying wish's / living will

homoe · 06-11-2018, 09:54 AM

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I have all the paperwork sitting in a folder for living will, health care derivatives, and power of attorney on $$$$ matters unsigned... some require a notary others don't, just a witness to the signatures. Mary knows my wishes and I have no doubt she'll carry them out...

Femmewench · 06-11-2018, 02:53 PM

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Originally Posted by homoe

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I have all the paperwork sitting in a folder for living will, health care derivatives, and power of attorney on $$$$ matters unsigned... some require a notary others don't, just a witness to the signatures. Mary knows my wishes and I have no doubt she'll carry them out...

Just a reminder - without signed forms, Mary can do nothing unless you have a legal relationship of which I'm unaware. If you have a second cousin twice removed, they can become your decision maker if no other family is available. Get the forms signed and notarized. (note to self: need to update these from my ex-wife to someone else dang it.)

hopelessromantic69 · 06-11-2018, 03:32 PM

Dying wish...for my two boys to have a secure future and live long and happy lives.
Second wish...for the universe to let me go. Im tired of the pain...im just plain tired.

Kätzchen · 06-22-2018, 05:28 AM

My dying wish is to not see my family be sad or distraught after I cross over into another realm. I don't know how others in our community plan for the "end", but here's what I've done:

I just designated my BFF (sil) as executor of my estate and as primary beneficiary of my assets (to administer according to my legal will). Co-chair of my estate is my long time friend who primarily deals wit banking, financing and asset portfolios.

My BFF and my mother share medical power of attorney, over my health and subsequent decisions, should I not be able to articulate my desires or make decisions in case of incapacity (stroke, comatose or whatever health condition I'm in that prevents me from saying what I want).

The last thing I want to happen is for my loved ones to be worried about having access to my estate after I'm gone. It brings peace to my heart that I've got legal instruments to protect me and members of my family.

Vincent · 05-01-2019, 03:27 PM

For me,I'm facing this now
I had very early stage overian cancer 3 yrs ago,I also was dealing with a bone desease that wound up with me being in a wheel chair for 9 mths as well
I spent 4 yrs in a chair,being poked proded medicated and operated on.

I have just found out I have 2 tumors,one in my neck,one under in my arm pit,this makes 5 tumors ive had.
,I havnt seen the doctor yet,but MY choice is no treatmeant,I would have a scan,but other than that,nothing more.That is my decision.

ATM,im very healthy,I eat well,just stopped smoking again,do a lot of exercise,weights and power walk 90 mins a day.

My wish,when I get sick,is I dont want to die here, I want to die in the States.

My carer lives over there now,and is doing ok and is happy to help me achieve this,I would rather go out with a bang than be sick for years then die,Ive seen it.............my ex had bowel cancer she was not sick until chemo,but oops she already had secondries in liver,so her last 2 yrs were spent sick and then died.

So he will come over and work out all the legal stuff,with a view of the last stages I come over and be with him,he is trans as is his partner,he is 32.

I just sell everything here and come and live over there,I am an athiest so Im not into funerals or shit like that.

when I was young I loved the song everybodys talkin,I wanted to get out of here and hitchike across the US.

I have found a lot of resistance from people,with platateudes and really dumping their fear on me,mainly I think it chalenges mortality and death has never frightened me.

For anyone surviving cancer,I think you notice more,like the light burns brighter and also I have lived one hell of a life,having being a socialist organiser from 19,ive done lots of amazing stuff,ive lived a good life.

My birth family is not my family,although finding out that my great g mother is first nation has had an impact,but only one of how we had to hide the shame of being black.

Im sorry,if this is in the wrong spot,I just saw it,and this is just happening.
ta for the space to go blahhhhhhhhhh
sorry bout the spelling

06-11-2018, 03:32 PM	#3
hopelessromantic69 Member How Do You Identify?: FTM Preferred Pronoun?: all male Relationship Status: Single but unavailable Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Eugene OR Posts: 394 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 108 Thanked 478 Times in 195 Posts Rep Power: 3686583	Dying wish...for my two boys to have a secure future and live long and happy lives. Second wish...for the universe to let me go. Im tired of the pain...im just plain tired. __________________ Stefan

05-01-2019, 03:27 PM	#5
Vincent Member How Do You Identify?: Transman Preferred Pronoun?: Him,he Relationship Status: just me Join Date: Apr 2015 Location: Tweed Heads Australia Posts: 427 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,204 Thanked 936 Times in 335 Posts Rep Power: 12178444	For me,I'm facing this now I had very early stage overian cancer 3 yrs ago,I also was dealing with a bone desease that wound up with me being in a wheel chair for 9 mths as well I spent 4 yrs in a chair,being poked proded medicated and operated on. I have just found out I have 2 tumors,one in my neck,one under in my arm pit,this makes 5 tumors ive had. ,I havnt seen the doctor yet,but MY choice is no treatmeant,I would have a scan,but other than that,nothing more.That is my decision. ATM,im very healthy,I eat well,just stopped smoking again,do a lot of exercise,weights and power walk 90 mins a day. My wish,when I get sick,is I dont want to die here, I want to die in the States. My carer lives over there now,and is doing ok and is happy to help me achieve this,I would rather go out with a bang than be sick for years then die,Ive seen it.............my ex had bowel cancer she was not sick until chemo,but oops she already had secondries in liver,so her last 2 yrs were spent sick and then died. So he will come over and work out all the legal stuff,with a view of the last stages I come over and be with him,he is trans as is his partner,he is 32. I just sell everything here and come and live over there,I am an athiest so Im not into funerals or shit like that. when I was young I loved the song everybodys talkin,I wanted to get out of here and hitchike across the US. I have found a lot of resistance from people,with platateudes and really dumping their fear on me,mainly I think it chalenges mortality and death has never frightened me. For anyone surviving cancer,I think you notice more,like the light burns brighter and also I have lived one hell of a life,having being a socialist organiser from 19,ive done lots of amazing stuff,ive lived a good life. My birth family is not my family,although finding out that my great g mother is first nation has had an impact,but only one of how we had to hide the shame of being black. Im sorry,if this is in the wrong spot,I just saw it,and this is just happening. ta for the space to go blahhhhhhhhhh sorry bout the spelling __________________ https://soundcloud.com/conormont https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kb1y2xyfYSw If Not Me-Who If Not Now-When If Not Here-Where

06-11-2018, 09:54 AM	#1
homoe Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: ..... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: 30 minute ferry ride from Seattle Posts: 38,565 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 20,811 Thanked 33,560 Times in 14,919 Posts Rep Power: 21474890	. I have all the paperwork sitting in a folder for living will, health care derivatives, and power of attorney on $$$$ matters unsigned... some require a notary others don't, just a witness to the signatures. Mary knows my wishes and I have no doubt she'll carry them out...

06-22-2018, 05:28 AM	#4
Kätzchen Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, please. Join Date: May 2010 Location: Somewhere over the rainbow ツ Posts: 16,050 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,111 Thanked 33,507 Times in 10,638 Posts Rep Power: 21474868	My dying wish is to not see my family be sad or distraught after I cross over into another realm. I don't know how others in our community plan for the "end", but here's what I've done: I just designated my BFF (sil) as executor of my estate and as primary beneficiary of my assets (to administer according to my legal will). Co-chair of my estate is my long time friend who primarily deals wit banking, financing and asset portfolios. My BFF and my mother share medical power of attorney, over my health and subsequent decisions, should I not be able to articulate my desires or make decisions in case of incapacity (stroke, comatose or whatever health condition I'm in that prevents me from saying what I want). The last thing I want to happen is for my loved ones to be worried about having access to my estate after I'm gone. It brings peace to my heart that I've got legal instruments to protect me and members of my family.