Significant Age Gaps in Relationships

JDeere · 09-08-2018, 01:17 AM

Mines still the same!

CherylNYC · 09-08-2018, 09:41 AM

A 23 year old tried to pick me up at a bar a few months ago! I'm not making this up. I'm more than three decades older than she was. NO! I mean, HELL no.

I formerly dated women who were significantly older, but now the energy difference between elders and myself is usually, (but not always), just too large. I'm super-active and very fit. If I ever decide to date again it would ideally be a woman who is within 10 years of me in either direction.

kittygrrl · 09-08-2018, 01:20 PM

in musing, about this further..i don't have any rules, i think whatever happens to turn me on, at the moment, will feel right...i usually go with the flow and enjoy it. There are exceptions, i'd rather not have any

imperfect_cupcake · 09-08-2018, 11:56 PM

I've met 24 year olds I get on with *incredibly* well.
would I date them *seriously* (as in this will never end?) No. Friendship, dating, sex - sure! not a problem.
It isn't super common I meet these 24 year olds but I meet them regularly - just not lesbians or butches. So if one were to come along like the straight women and men I meet I adore hanging out with, sure. They've had much harder lives than most 24 year olds, very intelligent, following career paths, extremely funny and really into science-y geek stuff like me. I often forget their age.

I'm also stupidly immature LOL

My lab partner at school for massage when I first started was a 20 year old guy that I got on with like a house on fire. We laughed so much they actually asked me to sit somewhere else a couple of times.

I also have friends who are 70 who I'd date. I'm 49.

I'm not looking to get married, or living with someone. I'm looking to spend time with people I enjoy. I'm not looking for forever, I gave up on that. I don't need it. I have the security I need

<3

So I don't care if someone isn't the right age, or the right height, or makes the right amount of money, or isn't this or that. I care how we are as (real, actual) friends, if we make each other laugh, if we enjoy each other.

I don't need a secured future with anyone anymore. So it doesn't matter <3 I can just like them as is

09-08-2018, 01:17 AM	#1
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09-08-2018, 09:41 AM	#2
CherylNYC Member How Do You Identify?: Stonefemme lesbian Preferred Pronoun?: I'm a woman. Behave accordingly. Relationship Status: Single, not looking. Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: NYC Posts: 1,467 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,474 Thanked 7,111 Times in 1,205 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	A 23 year old tried to pick me up at a bar a few months ago! I'm not making this up. I'm more than three decades older than she was. NO! I mean, HELL no. I formerly dated women who were significantly older, but now the energy difference between elders and myself is usually, (but not always), just too large. I'm super-active and very fit. If I ever decide to date again it would ideally be a woman who is within 10 years of me in either direction. __________________ Cheryl

09-08-2018, 01:20 PM	#3
kittygrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: witchy Preferred Pronoun?: Fae Relationship Status: just for fun Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: near the wild mushrooms Posts: 9,403 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,608 Thanked 21,979 Times in 7,094 Posts Rep Power: 21474861	in musing, about this further..i don't have any rules, i think whatever happens to turn me on, at the moment, will feel right...i usually go with the flow and enjoy it. There are exceptions, i'd rather not have any __________________ "We're nine meals from anarchy"" Lewis

09-08-2018, 11:56 PM	#4
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,710 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I've met 24 year olds I get on with incredibly well. would I date them seriously (as in this will never end?) No. Friendship, dating, sex - sure! not a problem. It isn't super common I meet these 24 year olds but I meet them regularly - just not lesbians or butches. So if one were to come along like the straight women and men I meet I adore hanging out with, sure. They've had much harder lives than most 24 year olds, very intelligent, following career paths, extremely funny and really into science-y geek stuff like me. I often forget their age. I'm also stupidly immature LOL My lab partner at school for massage when I first started was a 20 year old guy that I got on with like a house on fire. We laughed so much they actually asked me to sit somewhere else a couple of times. I also have friends who are 70 who I'd date. I'm 49. I'm not looking to get married, or living with someone. I'm looking to spend time with people I enjoy. I'm not looking for forever, I gave up on that. I don't need it. I have the security I need <3 So I don't care if someone isn't the right age, or the right height, or makes the right amount of money, or isn't this or that. I care how we are as (real, actual) friends, if we make each other laugh, if we enjoy each other. I don't need a secured future with anyone anymore. So it doesn't matter <3 I can just like them as is