Important things I learned from past relationships

cathexis · 01-13-2019, 07:32 PM

It's often better to just lay down and take it,
rather than fight about what it all means, and
who's going to come out on top.

C0LLETTE · 01-13-2019, 07:50 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by cathexis

It's often better to just lay down and take it,
rather than fight about what it all means, and
who's going to come out on top.

true but unfortunately sometimes you just have to lie there till they think you're dead, which means you can't moan and wince when they take a last few kicks.

JDeere · 01-13-2019, 07:55 PM

Things arent always what they seem.

MsTinkerbelly · 01-13-2019, 08:10 PM

Hmmmmmm

We are all imperfect humans, and the best we can hope for is to find that one person who knows you, and loves you BECAUSE of your imperfections, NOT in spite of them.

Kätzchen · 06-12-2024, 12:12 PM

I was reading an article over on NPR today, called “When romance ends can a friendship grow?” … and found myself agreeing with some of the perspectives authored in this news article.

LINK: https://www.npr.org/2024/06/12/g-s1-...riendship-grow

Back several years ago, when Darrell and I were dating (2013-2015), we struggled with if we could still keep our friendship in tact. I posted somewhat about it, here, back then because we truly struggled with letting go of each other when we were madly in love.

Then a few years later, after a few other short term failed romantic relationships ended, there was somebody I thought would compliment me in a relationship perfectly, but they lived in another state close by and I discovered that they still lived with their ex-partner — not because they were still in a relationship but because when they were in their years long relationship, they were complexly tied together via financial arrangements they did early in their relationship that benefitted each others life and they didn’t want to untangle and end their financial arrangement or live separately from each other. Which for me, I could see why they chose to do that but for a person like me who did not want to endure a tangled up relationship, I just bowed out gracefully and eventually drifted away to safety so that neither of us would have hurt feelings. I just couldn’t do it, especially after Darrell and I didn’t last due to complications of his daughter and ex-wife.

So … when I read the article at NPR today I thought it was stated perfectly by parties they interviewed for this news article… how different people adjusted to the end of their respective romantic relationships.

I’m glad it never worked out for me to retain a friendship with Darrell or the other person I thought I might have a romantic relationship with, after Darrell. I eventually met the love of my life a few years ago, after a series trying to see where life would take me. My current partner is definitely the love of my life and it’s because of all my other failed relationships that I know this is true (about my partner).

Bèsame* · 06-18-2024, 10:07 PM

I will never jump into another relationship so fast. Time is on my side to decide on how we really get along and how we view things.

I was married to a Male, over 25 years ago. Never again will I find myself in a relationship with a male.

Soft*Silver · 06-21-2024, 06:47 AM

That I can do so wrong, while being so right.
I have to learn not to fight when I know It’s the same fight
That even romantic love comes in varieties and not all are meant for me

06-12-2024, 12:12 PM	#5
Kätzchen Member How Do You Identify?: As a very feminine woman. Join Date: May 2010 Location: Near smoke signals in the sky. Posts: 16,209 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,450 Thanked 33,611 Times in 10,707 Posts Rep Power: 21474868	Things I have learned over the past nine years… I was reading an article over on NPR today, called “When romance ends can a friendship grow?” … and found myself agreeing with some of the perspectives authored in this news article. LINK: https://www.npr.org/2024/06/12/g-s1-...riendship-grow Back several years ago, when Darrell and I were dating (2013-2015), we struggled with if we could still keep our friendship in tact. I posted somewhat about it, here, back then because we truly struggled with letting go of each other when we were madly in love. Then a few years later, after a few other short term failed romantic relationships ended, there was somebody I thought would compliment me in a relationship perfectly, but they lived in another state close by and I discovered that they still lived with their ex-partner — not because they were still in a relationship but because when they were in their years long relationship, they were complexly tied together via financial arrangements they did early in their relationship that benefitted each others life and they didn’t want to untangle and end their financial arrangement or live separately from each other. Which for me, I could see why they chose to do that but for a person like me who did not want to endure a tangled up relationship, I just bowed out gracefully and eventually drifted away to safety so that neither of us would have hurt feelings. I just couldn’t do it, especially after Darrell and I didn’t last due to complications of his daughter and ex-wife. So … when I read the article at NPR today I thought it was stated perfectly by parties they interviewed for this news article… how different people adjusted to the end of their respective romantic relationships. I’m glad it never worked out for me to retain a friendship with Darrell or the other person I thought I might have a romantic relationship with, after Darrell. I eventually met the love of my life a few years ago, after a series trying to see where life would take me. My current partner is definitely the love of my life and it’s because of all my other failed relationships that I know this is true (about my partner). __________________ “The way someone treats you is not a reflection of your worth: It’s a reflection of their emotional capacity,” — Jillian Turecki. I’m doing my part, as an American citizen, who is concerned about losing our Democracy: I boycott agencies and businesses and service providers who do not support the US Constitution and the Bill of Rights. Support Democracy: Vote Blue Last edited by Kätzchen; 06-12-2024 at 12:17 PM.

06-18-2024, 10:07 PM	#6
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06-21-2024, 06:47 AM	#7
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01-13-2019, 07:32 PM	#1
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