Instant Turn-Offs

[WheatToast]

Originally Posted by homoe

Someone who is rude and condescending to waitstaff or anyone in the service industry!

That is a major turnoff! Also, people who work waitstaff to death.
Ex: I once had lunch with a potential new g/f and she asked about salad dressings.
The waitress named off the usual- ranch, bleu cheese, thousand island, vinegrette and the house dressing. I can see asking to sample the house dressing, but this woman asked the waitress to bring her samples of ALL of them--during the lunch rush.
Then she chose ranch. On a small side salad.
She also asked questions about the rolls, the ingredients of several entrees and the entire dessert list.

Being overly late. After 15 minutes is bad. At 30 minutes, I cancel.

Another turn off is bad grammar. Supposibly and irregardless are the worst.

Borrowing without returning, returning things in wrecked condition--basically everything my pushy new next door neighbor says or does.

One quirky turn off I have is people making "air quotes" with the fingers.

Sharing details of our sex life in a group of people, in an attempt to be funny.

Needless to say, nose-picking, intentional belching and farting, or doing the usual bathroom things with the door open. I don't need to see anyone on the toilet, flossing, or otherwise spoiling the mystery of her beauty.

Finally, the silent treatment or ghosting without any explanations.

[Martina]

Originally Posted by WheatToast

I don't need to see anyone on the toilet, flossing, or otherwise spoiling the mystery of her beauty.

I don't want to see flossing or other gross things either, but if a Butch wanted me to create some mystery around my allure, I'd immediately resort to wearing sweats, face cream, and do rags.

[WheatToast]

Originally Posted by Martina

I don't want to see flossing or other gross things either, but if a Butch wanted me to create some mystery around my allure, I'd immediately resort to wearing sweats, face cream, and do rags.

If a butch really loves her partner, then sweats, face cream and do-rags wouldn't change a thing. I just don't need to see, or be seen, conducting certain bodily activities. It's got nothing to do with what she wears.
Just like you said--flossing and other gross things, I'd rather not see.
And I like a little mystery surrounding my love's allure. *Who doesn't?


*A rhetorical question

[Martina]

That mysterious woman thing is sexist. Nothing that we do is so baffling that it can not be understood by another human being. Implying so puts pressure on women to maintain sexist standards of behavior.

Women are fucking ashamed of their sweat or the shape of their labia. Fuck that crazy shit. We are fully human, not fairies or aliens. We sweat, belch and excrete like everyone else. And if we choose to use beauty products or even to get cosmetic surgery, it is not magic. It's expensive, time-consuming effort that I hope most of us do primarily for ourselves, not to maintain the "mystery."

Some people do this mystery femme thing playfully and by choice. All power to them.

But saying everybody feels like this is sexist. Women are not mysterious, unless they want to be.

[MrSunshine]

[QUOTE=Martina;1239683]I don't want to see flossing or other gross things either, but if a Butch wanted me to create some mystery around my allure, I'd immediately resort to wearing sweats, face cream, and do rags. QUOTE]

Do rags and sweats are hot.

[homoe]

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Those who go on and on about their ex....

[Gemme]

Personally, someone that doesn't floss or practice oral hygiene is a turn off so I don't mind seeing them get down to it. As long as they don't spit toothpaste on me, I'm good.

[kittygrrl]

i don't want to see her bathroom routine and i'm glad not to share mine, unless it's bathing/showering together

[Orema]

I don’t mind flossing and oral hygiene, provided it’s not done at the dinner table, but I’m instantly turned off by bathroom humor.

[homoe]

Originally Posted by WheatToast

That is a major turnoff! Also, people who work waitstaff to death.
Ex: I once had lunch with a potential new g/f and she asked about salad dressings.
The waitress named off the usual- ranch, bleu cheese, thousand island, vinegrette and the house dressing. I can see asking to sample the house dressing, but this woman asked the waitress to bring her samples of ALL of them--during the lunch rush.
Then she chose ranch. On a small side salad.
She also asked questions about the rolls, the ingredients of several entrees and the entire dessert list.

Being overly late. After 15 minutes is bad. At 30 minutes, I cancel.

Another turn off is bad grammar. Supposibly and irregardless are the worst.

Borrowing without returning, returning things in wrecked condition--basically everything my pushy new next door neighbor says or does.

One quirky turn off I have is people making "air quotes" with the fingers.

Sharing details of our sex life in a group of people, in an attempt to be funny.

Needless to say, nose-picking, intentional belching and farting, or doing the usual bathroom things with the door open. I don't need to see anyone on the toilet, flossing, or otherwise spoiling the mystery of her beauty.

Finally, the silent treatment or ghosting without any explanations.

If I had a neighbor like that, I'd learn real fast to say to whatever she wanted to borrow "Oh I just ran out of that myself"
"I could care less" vs "I couldn't care less" are my grammar irritations!