The Older LGBTIQ Crush Thread - Post Age 40

[JustJo]

Originally Posted by Jet

i dont see whats wrong with posting celebrities, a crush is a crush regardless of age.

Hi Jet

I don't have an issue with celebrities or crushes...and I agree that a crush is a crush regardless of age.

Speaking only for myself, I don't spend time in the other thread because I have had far too much pain around the "you're only beautiful and desirable if you're skinny, blonde and fit some standard media notion of beauty." I'm not...I never have been...and I never will be. It took me a long time to embrace my own beauty...and it's still easily shaken by too much fawning over the likes of 20 something stars.

That's just me...and I'm not saying anyone is wrong for liking what they like...I just choose not to hang around it and feel the thumb jamming that old button down, that's all.

AtLast...embrace those wrinkles...I have no doubt you earned them.

[Jet]

I guess I still don't understand this because I don't believe you should feel like this....

"you're only beautiful and desirable if you're skinny, blonde and fit some standard media notion of beauty."

People can crush celebrities all they want, its not like going their going to
end up with them. And the deal breaker is....just because they're gorgeous or famous, does in no way set a standard as to what is beautiful...at least not for me. I thought it was all in play, anyway, until it finally it came down to agreeing as to who was hot on the A-lists. Pretty people can't help being pretty physically. But.....

Who gives a shit? I don't.

Every body is attracted/attractive to somebody in this world...and for reasons beyond beauty. And there are dozens of them.

I'm sorry your sensibilities got knocked about.
If I were you, I'd go back in the thread anytime you want and let on that there's a tall, cool glass of water out there for you...because of you.

cya around

Originally Posted by JustJo

Hi Jet

I don't have an issue with celebrities or crushes...and I agree that a crush is a crush regardless of age.

Speaking only for myself, I don't spend time in the other thread because I have had far too much pain around the "you're only beautiful and desirable if you're skinny, blonde and fit some standard media notion of beauty." I'm not...I never have been...and I never will be. It took me a long time to embrace my own beauty...and it's still easily shaken by too much fawning over the likes of 20 something stars.

That's just me...and I'm not saying anyone is wrong for liking what they like...I just choose not to hang around it and feel the thumb jamming that old button down, that's all.

AtLast...embrace those wrinkles...I have no doubt you earned them.

[CherylNYC]

Originally Posted by Jet

I guess I still don't understand this because I don't believe you should feel like this....

"you're only beautiful and desirable if you're skinny, blonde and fit some standard media notion of beauty."

We all have feelings about ourselves and our bodies that may not be rational. It's easy to say we should or should not feel something. But we feel, none the less. And we have to respect that in ourselves and others.

I don't tell myself what I should feel. I ask myself why I feel it, and act accordingly. Like Jo, avoiding situations that make me feel bad about myself is my healthy response.



My crush is Queen Latifah in Set It Off. It was a female bank robber movie. She played an unapologetic butch, and she was AWESOME! I have yet to see Chicago. I hear she rocked that, too.

[UofMfan]

MODERATING:

Reminder:

Please honor the purpose of this thread by posting your over 40 crushes. Keep in mind that we cannot "Police" desire, and that not everyone's desires are the same. Also, please try to be sensitive in your use of language, which can come across as sexist if we're not careful! We are all individuals here with varied tastes and interests, if something/someone doesn't float your boat, skip it and post someone that does.

[JustJo]

Originally Posted by CherylNYC

We all have feelings about ourselves and our bodies that may not be rational. It's easy to say we should or should not feel something. But we feel, none the less. And we have to respect that in ourselves and others.

I don't tell myself what I should feel. I ask myself why I feel it, and act accordingly. Like Jo, avoiding situations that make me feel bad about myself is my healthy response.

My crush is Queen Latifah in Set It Off. It was a female bank robber movie. She played an unapologetic butch, and she was AWESOME! I have yet to see Chicago. I hear she rocked that, too.

Thank you Cheryl I couldn't have said it better myself...

I also adore Queen Latifah....and she did rock Chicago....you gotta' be good to mama....

[Jet]

Remind me not to look at the glass half full again.

[UofMfan]

Originally Posted by Jet

Remind me not to look at the glass half full again.

MODERATING:

Jet, if you don't have something related to thread to add on here then don't post. Please keep yourself in check. I know you hate it when others do exactly what you are doing on your threads.

If you have any issues with moderation or otherwise, I encourage you to PM me or any of the other moderators.

Now if we can go back to the spirit of this thread I for one would be very pleased.

[Jet]

I haven;t done anything wrong...nothing. I was referring to my earlier post trying to be positive for Just Jo. Maybe you missed that.

And I'm not off topic. If you have something against me personally, then PM me please...because that's what this feels like.

[Heart]

So many over-40 crushes!

Ivan E. Coyote
Amy Ray
Kay Ryan
Alison Bechdel
Toshi Reagon
Eileen Myles
Tracy Chapman
Ferron
Cheryl Dunye
Gayle Rubin

For more, see http://www.tophotbutches.com/the-2009-list/

And when I feel really bold, maybe I'll reveal my over 40 (and over 50!) regular-people crushes, some of which might just be right here

[scootebaby]

so lets see....big time crush on my sweetie Jo then...
i crush on..
Lady Pamela
Violaine(dont think she is old enough to be in this category but oh well)
Diva
NYCFembbw(she isnt old enough either i dont think but again oh well)
The Daywalkers
Kat/AllyJ

and since i put so many REGULAR ppl i feel i can throw in Kristy McNichol(omg loved that woman) and
Olympia Dukakis--i know she is up there but dammit she is hot and sassy(at least in Steel Magnolias)


but they dont hold a candle to you sweetheart

[FeminineAllure]

Johnny Depp
Ellen
k.d. lang

And a few intriguing butches around here.