Any Other Adoptees Here? (Posts from non-adoptees also welcome)

[Chad]

I contacted my sister today. She is not even my real sister she was adopted into my blood family. I miss my half brother and want to see him so she is the gate keeper. I am not even sure if my birth mom is still alive.

The entire situation is yucky. But I do have brothers and I want to see them.

[Chad]

I found out last week that my birth mother passed. My birth father passed a few years ago.

It is a weird feeling because I met them. On my birth mother's side my great great grandmother was 100% Cherokee. What an honor to have her blood in my veins. I still have my birth siblings but we are not close.

Life is weird sometimes. My mom does not even remember that I am adopted so it is the elephant in the room.

[JDeere]

So as I posted on another thread...

My dna was linked to several members of my biological fathers family...

I have 3 more half sisters and 1 more half brother to add to my brood.

In total this makes 14 half siblings....

With alot more nieces, nephews, greats.

They do not live that far from me so hopefully a visit will be in order soon to hang out and meet these newbies....

My bio father passed in 1999 at age 48/49 of lung cancer.


So I kinda have closure in a sense but still so many unanswered questions.

[JDeere]

Since both my bio parents are deceased, I am having some issues with my own identity of who I really am.

IDK if anyone else can relate, like you were raised by someone else but that isn't who you are, know what I mean?

[Chad]

Originally Posted by JDeere

Since both my bio parents are deceased, I am having some issues with my own identity of who I really am.

IDK if anyone else can relate, like you were raised by someone else but that isn't who you are, know what I mean?

I get that. Both my bio parents passed. Fortunately, I was able to meet them and my siblings. At forty I learned where my blood came from and our health history. Even so, I feel a little alone in this world.

[Chad]

Being adopted is a mixed bag for me. I will not speak for other adoptees just for me. I am so grateful that I was given a chance to live and not aborted. However, my life has felt transitory like I had no anchor. I think that it has shown up in my relationships with friends and partners. Everything is temporary to me.

I had a coworker back in the 80's (during my disco days) say to me "everyone can be replaced". I think that stuck with me because I was re replaced.

Just a little insight into an adoptees world.

[Uli]

Originally Posted by Chad

Being adopted is a mixed bag for me. I will not speak for other adoptees just for me. I am so grateful that I was given a chance to live and not aborted. However, my life has felt transitory like I had no anchor. I think that it has shown up in my relationships with friends and partners. Everything is temporary to me.

I had a coworker back in the 80's (during my disco days) say to me "everyone can be replaced". I think that stuck with me because I was re replaced.

Just a little insight into an adoptees world.

That unanchored/no roots/can't fully attach thing is something I experience, too. And, it's a very commonly expressed experience on the adult adoptee forum I posted a link to earlier in the thread. Reading other adoptees describe feelings that are familiar to me has been somewhat healing, but still, the feeling persists. There are some psychologists who believe that adoption trauma is some of the hardest trauma to work through, since the source occurred before we were verbal.