PTSD and Trauma recovery

JustLovelyJenn · 03-20-2020, 04:17 PM

Why is it that everyone in my world seems to think I need to make allowances for their trauma and that mine should be my own problem to deal with....

Apocalipstic · 03-20-2020, 04:20 PM

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Originally Posted by JustLovelyJenn

Why is it that everyone in my world seems to think I need to make allowances for their trauma and that mine should be my own problem to deal with....

Amen Sister!!!!

News bulletin....we are human too!!!!

dark_crystal · 03-21-2020, 04:24 PM

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Originally Posted by JustLovelyJenn

Why is it that everyone in my world seems to think I need to make allowances for their trauma and that mine should be my own problem to deal with....

I don't know, really, but this question makes me think of my mom, who is looking really bad right now as she appears to center herself throughout my father's devastating illness. I have been trying to convey to her how entitled she is to her needs and how to seek to meet them without comparing herself to her mother and sister, who found themselves in this same situation and behaved like saints.

She's gaslighting herself into a martyrdom she doesn't need to support

hugs to you

dark_crystal · 04-23-2020, 06:51 AM

i just went and woke up Mr. Jenny to share this piece of wisdom i just thought of for her:

"when you married me it's like you bought a Jaguar-- pretty car! Capable of very high performance! LOTS of breakdowns"

She didn't say much (possibly trying to sleep, who knows) so i said, "or am i a Delorean?" but she said "no, Jaguar is right"

Last week i told my therapist that getting my IQ score was like finding out i was a ferrari driving in traffic surrounded by buses without realizing i wasn't a bus

Either way i would rather be a nice, safe, low-maintenance Lexus

idk what is up with the car metaphors, probably my recently-unmasked autism* coming out

(that's sexist, actually, girls with autism often don't have the transportation thing, it's more likely to be Disney)

03-20-2020, 04:17 PM	#1
JustLovelyJenn Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She/her Relationship Status: That's Need to Know Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Aberdeen, WA Posts: 4,478 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 12,464 Thanked 13,992 Times in 3,684 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Why is it that everyone in my world seems to think I need to make allowances for their trauma and that mine should be my own problem to deal with.... __________________ --Jenn

04-23-2020, 06:51 AM	#4
dark_crystal Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: jenny Preferred Pronoun?: babygirl Relationship Status: First Lady of the United SMH Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Houston, Texas Posts: 5,445 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,532 Thanked 26,550 Times in 4,688 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	i just went and woke up Mr. Jenny to share this piece of wisdom i just thought of for her: "when you married me it's like you bought a Jaguar-- pretty car! Capable of very high performance! LOTS of breakdowns" She didn't say much (possibly trying to sleep, who knows) so i said, "or am i a Delorean?" but she said "no, Jaguar is right" Last week i told my therapist that getting my IQ score was like finding out i was a ferrari driving in traffic surrounded by buses without realizing i wasn't a bus Either way i would rather be a nice, safe, low-maintenance Lexus idk what is up with the car metaphors, probably my recently-unmasked autism* coming out (that's sexist, actually, girls with autism often don't have the transportation thing, it's more likely to be Disney) __________________