Dykes And Lesbians To Watch Out For

Luckydwg07 · 06-10-2010, 11:39 AM

I too have had run ins with people calling me dyke in a derogatory way. I also believe demographics can play a roll in the use of the term.
dyke where I live also denoted ignorrance...e.g. "stupid dyke" and it usually came from a (drunkin')male person. it is /was a put down. now a days when I hear dyke its can be a negative term from a homosexual. dykes are considered by some of my friends as "mean, snotty,big mouths,(sometimes softball types)types" that harass the rest of the homosexuals in the bar, club
Don't put what I say as being my gospel PLEASE!! don't do that. I have yet to define myself in any such definite term and I admire the people who know themselves as well as they do (I'll wish to have that same type of confidence about myself one day) I'm sticking with butch for now because I certainly am not feminine. Terminology to me evolves along with the human condition after all we invented the terms and can reinvent them as well
Metro, bulldog and the rest..... I always enjoy the thoughts you put out there
Thanks for the thread

naturlover_52 · 07-01-2010, 09:29 PM

I am really glad that this page got started. How do identify....as a lesbian and a soft butch one. I have a hard time w/ the terms Dyke and w/ Queer. Mainly because that is not how I see myself. I think w/ the term Dyke, because it has been used for many years as a way of putting us down. As for Queer I know that it is has several connotations, but for me I feel that I don't fit the dictionary definition.

I don't care for labels...I am just me. I am a 41 soft butch lesbian who loves other soft butch women.

NOW I just need to find one near me.

AtLast · 07-01-2010, 11:07 PM

I'm good with dyke, queer, butch.... Yet, there are times on the site (and the old one) that I too, just get tired of our preoccupation with labels overall. I want to know about the person, not a label.

It is really interesting to see how different age groups, locations, gender identifications and just personal history differ with these terms. But, this is exactly why looking at the individual and what they have experienced is much more valuable than the labels attached to them.

I am mainly a lesbian when I do look at my core.

07-02-2010, 10:37 AM

Oh my giddy aunt! I love you lot, and this site, you challenge me to think and question all sorts about myself and learn about how other folks experience the world too.

I've always considered myself a third gender; I happily id'd as Dyke and Queer for donkeys years; much later in life I found that Genderqueer was an empowering label for me; I prefer masculine pronouns for myself; I'm very happy to be a Genderqueer Dyke.

Whenever I've been called "dyke" as an epithet (it's a very rare occurrence for those that call other folks names generally assume I'm a fella until I open my mouth and speak) I usually commend them on their accurate powers of observation - one just has to encourage the less fortunate when they get something right!

My girl is a Queer Femme but also happy to id as a Dyke.

I have many friends who refuse to claim the label Dyke or Queer, they're Lesbian or Gay.

I struggle with 'gay' I'm definitely not 'gay', I'm far too grumpy to ever be described thus

BullDog · 07-16-2010, 09:55 AM

Happy Friday Dykes, Lesbians and Friends. It's been a little quiet in the Lesbian Zone lately. Hopefully that's because everyone is enjoying their summer!

Welcome to rawk, naturlover_52, Incubus and anyone else new to the thread that I missed.

The_Lady_Snow · 07-16-2010, 09:57 AM

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Apocalipstic · 07-16-2010, 03:18 PM

TGIF indeed!

I have never been in here because I thought it was about the cartoon, and I have not read it in so long, I was not sure what I would say....

But since it is not just about the cartoon.....here goes....

I ID as Dyke first and have since back in 1983. One day I was walking down my hall in my college dorm and someone called me a "Fag" behind my back. I spun around and before I could even think...my mouth said "if you are going to call me names, then get your terms right, I am a Dyke, D-Y-K-E!" spun back around and marched off down the hall of my East Tennessee Southern Baptist college with a sneer on my face and my head held high!

I have never had any desire to attend a women's music festival...when I first came out I was given so much crap for being girly that the last place I wanted to be was women's land.....plus I think it might at the very least involve sharing a bathroom....eeek.

I've never really listened to Lesbian music much (meaning at all) unless whomever I was dating at the time made me.

I was thrilled in the 90's to find the B-F community, I had no idea that there were Dykes out there who like Dykes like me. Yeay!

Great thread BullDog!

06-10-2010, 11:39 AM	#1
Luckydwg07 Member How Do You Identify?: Yes Ma'am! Butchiness- hard shell candy with a soft center Relationship Status: I've bee found-Life has new meaning to me Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: yankee in southern waters Posts: 352 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 685 Thanked 312 Times in 136 Posts Rep Power: 2730229	I am learning about the term "dyke" I too have had run ins with people calling me dyke in a derogatory way. I also believe demographics can play a roll in the use of the term. dyke where I live also denoted ignorrance...e.g. "stupid dyke" and it usually came from a (drunkin')male person. it is /was a put down. now a days when I hear dyke its can be a negative term from a homosexual. dykes are considered by some of my friends as "mean, snotty,big mouths,(sometimes softball types)types" that harass the rest of the homosexuals in the bar, club Don't put what I say as being my gospel PLEASE!! don't do that. I have yet to define myself in any such definite term and I admire the people who know themselves as well as they do (I'll wish to have that same type of confidence about myself one day) I'm sticking with butch for now because I certainly am not feminine. Terminology to me evolves along with the human condition after all we invented the terms and can reinvent them as well Metro, bulldog and the rest..... I always enjoy the thoughts you put out there Thanks for the thread __________________ Dogs' Lives are too Short. Their Only Fault Really. Agnos Sligh Turnbull

07-01-2010, 09:29 PM	#2
naturlover_52 Member How Do You Identify?: soft butch/bi Preferred Pronoun?: she and her are just fine....Sweetcheeks hey you Relationship Status: seeing someone long distance but soon will be both in Ca love her very much Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: So Calif East San Gabrielle Valley aka the land of shake and bake Posts: 108 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 85 Thanked 89 Times in 44 Posts Rep Power: 3426	dykes and lesbians to watch out for I am really glad that this page got started. How do identify....as a lesbian and a soft butch one. I have a hard time w/ the terms Dyke and w/ Queer. Mainly because that is not how I see myself. I think w/ the term Dyke, because it has been used for many years as a way of putting us down. As for Queer I know that it is has several connotations, but for me I feel that I don't fit the dictionary definition. I don't care for labels...I am just me. I am a 41 soft butch lesbian who loves other soft butch women. NOW I just need to find one near me.

07-16-2010, 09:57 AM	#6
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07-16-2010, 03:18 PM	#7
Apocalipstic Pink Confection How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, Ma'am Relationship Status: Dating Myself Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Nashville Posts: 4,266 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 17,195 Thanked 11,362 Times in 2,838 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	TGIF indeed! I have never been in here because I thought it was about the cartoon, and I have not read it in so long, I was not sure what I would say.... But since it is not just about the cartoon.....here goes.... I ID as Dyke first and have since back in 1983. One day I was walking down my hall in my college dorm and someone called me a "Fag" behind my back. I spun around and before I could even think...my mouth said "if you are going to call me names, then get your terms right, I am a Dyke, D-Y-K-E!" spun back around and marched off down the hall of my East Tennessee Southern Baptist college with a sneer on my face and my head held high! I have never had any desire to attend a women's music festival...when I first came out I was given so much crap for being girly that the last place I wanted to be was women's land.....plus I think it might at the very least involve sharing a bathroom....eeek. I've never really listened to Lesbian music much (meaning at all) unless whomever I was dating at the time made me. I was thrilled in the 90's to find the B-F community, I had no idea that there were Dykes out there who like Dykes like me. Yeay! Great thread BullDog! __________________

07-01-2010, 11:07 PM	#3
AtLast Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Woman Preferred Pronoun?: HER - SHE Relationship Status: Relating Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: CA & AZ I'm a Snowbird Posts: 5,408 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,826 Thanked 10,827 Times in 3,199 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	I'm good with dyke, queer, butch.... Yet, there are times on the site (and the old one) that I too, just get tired of our preoccupation with labels overall. I want to know about the person, not a label. It is really interesting to see how different age groups, locations, gender identifications and just personal history differ with these terms. But, this is exactly why looking at the individual and what they have experienced is much more valuable than the labels attached to them. I am mainly a lesbian when I do look at my core.

07-02-2010, 10:37 AM	#4
Daktari Guest Tournaments Won: 1 Posts: n/a My Photo Gallery	Oh my giddy aunt! I love you lot, and this site, you challenge me to think and question all sorts about myself and learn about how other folks experience the world too. I've always considered myself a third gender; I happily id'd as Dyke and Queer for donkeys years; much later in life I found that Genderqueer was an empowering label for me; I prefer masculine pronouns for myself; I'm very happy to be a Genderqueer Dyke. Whenever I've been called "dyke" as an epithet (it's a very rare occurrence for those that call other folks names generally assume I'm a fella until I open my mouth and speak) I usually commend them on their accurate powers of observation - one just has to encourage the less fortunate when they get something right! My girl is a Queer Femme but also happy to id as a Dyke. I have many friends who refuse to claim the label Dyke or Queer, they're Lesbian or Gay. I struggle with 'gay' I'm definitely not 'gay', I'm far too grumpy to ever be described thus

07-16-2010, 09:55 AM	#5
BullDog Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Dominant Stone Butch Daddy Preferred Pronoun?: She Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: In A Healing Place Posts: 5,371 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 18,160 Thanked 22,640 Times in 4,463 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Happy Friday Dykes, Lesbians and Friends. It's been a little quiet in the Lesbian Zone lately. Hopefully that's because everyone is enjoying their summer! Welcome to rawk, naturlover_52, Incubus and anyone else new to the thread that I missed.