Online Trans support group? - Page 2

Logicaly · 05-24-2010, 09:36 PM

I'm totally cool with male ID'd.

In regards to time. If its weekday, any time from 6:30pm and on. If its a weekend, any time from 1pm on. I am in the PST.

Linus · 05-31-2010, 03:49 PM

Ok. So I've been thinking about this and what I'd like to do -- to start off -- is schedule two meetings a week to start off with. This will help those that cannot attend one (due to timezones) perhaps be able to attend others. So I offer these as options:

Mondays: 9pm EDT (this means 8pm CDT/7pm MDT/6pm PDT)
Saturdays: 10pm EDT (this means 9pm CDT/8pm MDT/7pm PDT)

I choose the Saturday because there are a couple of Aussie guys who contacted me and this would work out to 10am Sunday their time.

Later, I'd like to offer a voice-conference option once a month. This requires a bit of coordination and further instructions on how to use something like Skype (free online phone options).

Also, a few rules (if you have others to add please add them to this thread). I'm including the ones that were common when I participated in the NYC Gender Identity Projects support groups. I found them to be effective as guidelines:

1. What is said the in the support group, stays in the support group.
2. Speak from the "I/me".
3. Step up, step back (if you've talked a lot, step back to let others speak; if you haven't said alot, step up and speak)
4. Before changing a topic ask first.
5. Remember that not all discussions require feedback. Sometimes people just want to rant. Ask first if someone wants feedback about something. And if you are talking, indicate if it's a rant or want feedback
6. Try to be on time. Coming in late can disrupt if someone is talking about something.

Add others as you feel would help. If you have questions/concerns, do not hesitate to contact me or post them here. If you have topics for discussion, please forward them to me and I'll add them to my "magic bag" (if we run out of discussions, I'll yank one out and start a discussion on that

)

ETA: PM me for the password. This will only be sent to FTMs/male-identified butches. This will not be sent to SOFFAs/Allies.

Linus · 05-31-2010, 04:11 PM

Oops! Knew I forgot something:

First meeting will be this Saturday, June 5.

The meeting will be using the Masculine-ID support room in the BFP chat area (join the chat and you'll see the room).

You'll be asked a password to enter.

Andrew, Jr. · 05-31-2010, 05:16 PM

Hi Linus,

Are you going to be sky-peing the group? Or is it still going to be online? Can you let me know the password, please. I most def. would love to join in.

Thank you for everything. My hat is off to you for this.

Love,
Andrew

T D · 06-02-2010, 10:05 AM

I can't make this Saturday, but will try to make others. Thanks for the coordination, Linus!!

Liam · 06-02-2010, 10:06 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Linus

Oops! Knew I forgot something:

First meeting will be this Saturday, June 5.

The meeting will be using the Masculine-ID support room in the BFP chat area (join the chat and you'll see the room).

You'll be asked a password to enter.

Have you selected a time when this will occur, Linus?

Linus · 06-02-2010, 10:09 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Linus

So I offer these as options:

Mondays: 9pm EDT (this means 8pm CDT/7pm MDT/6pm PDT)
Saturdays: 10pm EDT (this means 9pm CDT/8pm MDT/7pm PDT)

Quote:

Originally Posted by Liam

Have you selected a time when this will occur, Linus?

Does this help?

Linus · 06-07-2010, 07:36 PM

Ack! Sorry everyone. I'm doing an onsite (at customer site) training this week and my head has effectively turned to mush.

So I apologize for not being in the chatroom.

Next support meeting will be this Saturday June 12th at 10pm EDT and the one after will Monday June 14th at 9pm EDT. I'm off next week so I should be less brain drained.

Linus · 06-12-2010, 07:02 PM

Bump for tonight: Saturdays: 10pm EDT (this means 9pm CDT/8pm MDT/7pm PDT)

atomiczombie · 06-13-2010, 02:58 AM

Ugh I missed it again

I keep forgetting!

T D · 06-13-2010, 09:10 AM

I'm thinkin Saturday evening really isn't a good time, but that's just me.

Linus · 06-13-2010, 09:14 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by T D

I'm thinkin Saturday evening really isn't a good time, but that's just me.

T D, I asked for dates. No one responded. So I picked two dates of the week that would be good, one Monday and the other Saturday.

If others would prefer a different date, I'm open to it.

Sam · 06-13-2010, 09:59 AM

i'm just reading this, maybe sunday evenings would be better before the workweek starts.

Rufusboi · 06-13-2010, 10:26 AM

Linus - I wanted to let you know I really appreciate the support group you have started.

I had a really good time talking to all of you last night. I hope the group gets bigger.

I do have one suggestion. I do not type fast, so I would like for us to somehow communicate live. Is there a way we can do this?

Any night is good for me, just let me know if you change the date and time. I will definitely be there.

Rufus

Linus · 06-13-2010, 10:53 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Rufusboi

Linus - I wanted to let you know I really appreciate the support group you have started.

I had a really good time talking to all of you last night. I hope the group gets bigger.

I do have one suggestion. I do not type fast, so I would like for us to somehow communicate live. Is there a way we can do this?

Any night is good for me, just let me know if you change the date and time. I will definitely be there.

Rufus

I am looking into it. The reality is that to get a decent conference call option will potentially cost money. I'm trying to find a cheaper option. The challenge with conference call options is the risk of overtalking one another and that may result in additional frustrations.

Either way, I am looking into that option as well. I haven't really had a chance in the last 4 weeks due to work but since this week is an off week I should be able to focus on this a bit more.

T D · 06-13-2010, 09:48 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Linus

T D, I asked for dates. No one responded. So I picked two dates of the week that would be good, one Monday and the other Saturday.

If others would prefer a different date, I'm open to it.

I think that sometimes we don't know how something's going to work out until we try it. It may just be me too, but for some reason I cannot remember the Saturday evening chat to save my life.

I appreciate all the effort you have and continue to put into this, Linus!!

Linus · 06-14-2010, 06:55 PM

Bump for tonight: Mondays: 9pm EDT (this means 8pm CDT/7pm MDT/6pm PDT)

And the next one will be this Sunday (to see if more will come out on Sunday): Sunday: 8pm EDT (this means 7pm CDT/6pm MDT/5pm PDT)

I'll also suggest that instead of Monday next week, perhaps Tues/Wed mid-week may be a good 2nd date/time?

Logicaly · 06-14-2010, 09:16 PM

I was totally planning on being there tonight, but my work ran late and then I had to run errands when I got home. I am gonna try and be at the next one!

atomiczombie · 06-15-2010, 04:09 AM

Gah! I missed it again!

The Oopster · 06-15-2010, 10:18 AM

Just a suggestion ... maybe someone could be in charge of reminding those that are interested .... either a phone call or email or something.

I'm fortunate to have enough real time support and am generally busy at the times posted so am not participating myself, but thougth I'd throw out that suggestion.

05-24-2010, 09:36 PM	#21
Logicaly Member How Do You Identify?: Transgender Male Preferred Pronoun?: Male Relationship Status: She is the gamer girl to my gamer boy Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: California, Bay Area Posts: 683 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 395 Thanked 1,742 Times in 513 Posts Rep Power: 8641138	I'm totally cool with male ID'd. In regards to time. If its weekday, any time from 6:30pm and on. If its a weekend, any time from 1pm on. I am in the PST. __________________ ~Logicaly~ Geeky guy extraordinaire Always and Forever

05-31-2010, 03:49 PM	#22
Linus The Planet's Technical Bubba How Do You Identify?: FTM Preferred Pronoun?: He/Him/Geek Relationship Status: Married to my forever! Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Redondo Beach, CA Posts: 5,440 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,929 Thanked 10,727 Times in 3,172 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Ok. So I've been thinking about this and what I'd like to do -- to start off -- is schedule two meetings a week to start off with. This will help those that cannot attend one (due to timezones) perhaps be able to attend others. So I offer these as options: Mondays: 9pm EDT (this means 8pm CDT/7pm MDT/6pm PDT) Saturdays: 10pm EDT (this means 9pm CDT/8pm MDT/7pm PDT) I choose the Saturday because there are a couple of Aussie guys who contacted me and this would work out to 10am Sunday their time. Later, I'd like to offer a voice-conference option once a month. This requires a bit of coordination and further instructions on how to use something like Skype (free online phone options). Also, a few rules (if you have others to add please add them to this thread). I'm including the ones that were common when I participated in the NYC Gender Identity Projects support groups. I found them to be effective as guidelines: 1. What is said the in the support group, stays in the support group. 2. Speak from the "I/me". 3. Step up, step back (if you've talked a lot, step back to let others speak; if you haven't said alot, step up and speak) 4. Before changing a topic ask first. 5. Remember that not all discussions require feedback. Sometimes people just want to rant. Ask first if someone wants feedback about something. And if you are talking, indicate if it's a rant or want feedback 6. Try to be on time. Coming in late can disrupt if someone is talking about something. Add others as you feel would help. If you have questions/concerns, do not hesitate to contact me or post them here. If you have topics for discussion, please forward them to me and I'll add them to my "magic bag" (if we run out of discussions, I'll yank one out and start a discussion on that ) ETA: PM me for the password. This will only be sent to FTMs/male-identified butches. This will not be sent to SOFFAs/Allies. __________________ Personal Blog \|\| [] \|\| Cigar Blog "We become Human Doings instead of Human Beings." -- Ram Dass

05-31-2010, 04:11 PM	#23
Linus The Planet's Technical Bubba How Do You Identify?: FTM Preferred Pronoun?: He/Him/Geek Relationship Status: Married to my forever! Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Redondo Beach, CA Posts: 5,440 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,929 Thanked 10,727 Times in 3,172 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Oops! Knew I forgot something: First meeting will be this Saturday, June 5. The meeting will be using the Masculine-ID support room in the BFP chat area (join the chat and you'll see the room). You'll be asked a password to enter. __________________ Personal Blog \|\| [] \|\| Cigar Blog "We become Human Doings instead of Human Beings." -- Ram Dass

06-07-2010, 07:36 PM	#28
Linus The Planet's Technical Bubba How Do You Identify?: FTM Preferred Pronoun?: He/Him/Geek Relationship Status: Married to my forever! Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Redondo Beach, CA Posts: 5,440 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,929 Thanked 10,727 Times in 3,172 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Ack! Sorry everyone. I'm doing an onsite (at customer site) training this week and my head has effectively turned to mush. So I apologize for not being in the chatroom. Next support meeting will be this Saturday June 12th at 10pm EDT and the one after will Monday June 14th at 9pm EDT. I'm off next week so I should be less brain drained. __________________ Personal Blog \|\| [] \|\| Cigar Blog "We become Human Doings instead of Human Beings." -- Ram Dass

06-12-2010, 07:02 PM	#29
Linus The Planet's Technical Bubba How Do You Identify?: FTM Preferred Pronoun?: He/Him/Geek Relationship Status: Married to my forever! Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Redondo Beach, CA Posts: 5,440 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,929 Thanked 10,727 Times in 3,172 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Bump for tonight: Saturdays: 10pm EDT (this means 9pm CDT/8pm MDT/7pm PDT) __________________ Personal Blog \|\| [] \|\| Cigar Blog "We become Human Doings instead of Human Beings." -- Ram Dass

05-31-2010, 05:16 PM	#24
Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,249 Times in 2,216 Posts Rep Power: 0	Hi Linus, Are you going to be sky-peing the group? Or is it still going to be online? Can you let me know the password, please. I most def. would love to join in. Thank you for everything. My hat is off to you for this. Love, Andrew

06-02-2010, 10:05 AM	#25
T D Member How Do You Identify?: Person of the trans variety Preferred Pronoun?: He, Sir, Bro, TD, Stevin Relationship Status: On occasion Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: SF Bay Area Posts: 1,165 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,428 Thanked 1,125 Times in 311 Posts Rep Power: 3570339	I can't make this Saturday, but will try to make others. Thanks for the coordination, Linus!!

06-13-2010, 02:58 AM	#30
atomiczombie Member How Do You Identify?: Femmesensual Transguy Preferred Pronoun?: He, Him, His Relationship Status: Dating Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Rio Vista, CA Posts: 1,225 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,949 Thanked 3,220 Times in 759 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Ugh I missed it again I keep forgetting! __________________ http://i277.photobucket.com/albums/k...orums_2000.gif Russian Unicorn http://occupiedmedia.us/

06-13-2010, 09:10 AM	#31
T D Member How Do You Identify?: Person of the trans variety Preferred Pronoun?: He, Sir, Bro, TD, Stevin Relationship Status: On occasion Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: SF Bay Area Posts: 1,165 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,428 Thanked 1,125 Times in 311 Posts Rep Power: 3570339	I'm thinkin Saturday evening really isn't a good time, but that's just me.

06-13-2010, 09:59 AM	#33
Sam Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Permanently Banned 2/11/2011 Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: I'll let you know Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 1,131 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,101 Thanked 668 Times in 363 Posts Rep Power: 0	i'm just reading this, maybe sunday evenings would be better before the workweek starts.

06-13-2010, 10:26 AM	#34
Rufusboi Member How Do You Identify?: Trans Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Partnered Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: SouthTexas - On the Gulf Posts: 694 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 210 Thanked 429 Times in 162 Posts Rep Power: 505008	Linus - I wanted to let you know I really appreciate the support group you have started. I had a really good time talking to all of you last night. I hope the group gets bigger. I do have one suggestion. I do not type fast, so I would like for us to somehow communicate live. Is there a way we can do this? Any night is good for me, just let me know if you change the date and time. I will definitely be there. Rufus

06-14-2010, 06:55 PM	#37
Linus The Planet's Technical Bubba How Do You Identify?: FTM Preferred Pronoun?: He/Him/Geek Relationship Status: Married to my forever! Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Redondo Beach, CA Posts: 5,440 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,929 Thanked 10,727 Times in 3,172 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Bump for tonight: Mondays: 9pm EDT (this means 8pm CDT/7pm MDT/6pm PDT) And the next one will be this Sunday (to see if more will come out on Sunday): Sunday: 8pm EDT (this means 7pm CDT/6pm MDT/5pm PDT) I'll also suggest that instead of Monday next week, perhaps Tues/Wed mid-week may be a good 2nd date/time? __________________ Personal Blog \|\| [] \|\| Cigar Blog "We become Human Doings instead of Human Beings." -- Ram Dass

06-14-2010, 09:16 PM	#38
Logicaly Member How Do You Identify?: Transgender Male Preferred Pronoun?: Male Relationship Status: She is the gamer girl to my gamer boy Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: California, Bay Area Posts: 683 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 395 Thanked 1,742 Times in 513 Posts Rep Power: 8641138	I was totally planning on being there tonight, but my work ran late and then I had to run errands when I got home. I am gonna try and be at the next one! __________________ ~Logicaly~ Geeky guy extraordinaire Always and Forever

06-15-2010, 04:09 AM	#39
atomiczombie Member How Do You Identify?: Femmesensual Transguy Preferred Pronoun?: He, Him, His Relationship Status: Dating Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Rio Vista, CA Posts: 1,225 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,949 Thanked 3,220 Times in 759 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Gah! I missed it again! __________________ http://i277.photobucket.com/albums/k...orums_2000.gif Russian Unicorn http://occupiedmedia.us/

06-15-2010, 10:18 AM	#40
The Oopster Senior Member How Do You Identify?: transgender male Preferred Pronoun?: he Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: carson city nv Posts: 1,987 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 303 Thanked 2,655 Times in 759 Posts Rep Power: 20061509	Just a suggestion ... maybe someone could be in charge of reminding those that are interested .... either a phone call or email or something. I'm fortunate to have enough real time support and am generally busy at the times posted so am not participating myself, but thougth I'd throw out that suggestion.