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Old 07-12-2010, 01:30 PM   #1
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One more question...

Do people who flake out and don't send CDs but get them from everyone else without an explanation get publicly moderated and/or spanked?


Just kidding.

Not really.
I hate it when people come on time after time whining that they have received nothing and casting aspersions...yes, my CD's have been on time in the past, but life happens and I would love to see people being happy with the giving, rather than renting about a CD being late!

Choosing the songs, meeting new friends...that kind of thing. I always feel more connected to the people I do get CD's from

Make the joy about the giving, not the receiving.

S, I am merely using your post as a jumping off point, I know you were just playing! Grin!
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Oh and what is the due date? I am a deadline type person.
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Oh and what is the due date? I am a deadline type person.

Try to have them to me by August 2. That's about 3 weeks (and me leaving extra time for people to run late )
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I hate it when people come on time after time whining that they have received nothing and casting aspersions...yes, my CD's have been on time in the past, but life happens and I would love to see people being happy with the giving, rather than renting about a CD being late!

Choosing the songs, meeting new friends...that kind of thing. I always feel more connected to the people I do get CD's from

Make the joy about the giving, not the receiving.

S, I am merely using your post as a jumping off point, I know you were just playing! Grin!

Yes, but it's also unfair to the participants who put their own lives on hold to do this really beautiful thing for others when people flake out and are lame about it.

If you just bail without offering any kind of explanation (sorry guys, I'm going to be late, my pet/child/partner/parent got sick/moved/ate my homework) then I think it's completely appropriate to call them out. It's one thing if life gets in the way--we allll have that happen, but to let it get in the way without any kind of "I'm still here, I'm still invested" is not okay with me.

Selfishness is one of my hot button things, though, and I fully expect that everyone will make and send beautiful mixes of bitchin music
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Yes, but it's also unfair to the participants who put their own lives on hold to do this really beautiful thing for others when people flake out and are lame about it.

If you just bail without offering any kind of explanation (sorry guys, I'm going to be late, my pet/child/partner/parent got sick/moved/ate my homework) then I think it's completely appropriate to call them out. It's one thing if life gets in the way--we allll have that happen, but to let it get in the way without any kind of "I'm still here, I'm still invested" is not okay with me.

Selfishness is one of my hot button things, though, and I fully expect that everyone will make and send beautiful mixes of bitchin music
*sigh* Let's just give everyone the benefit of the doubt, shall we? Do you have any suggestions other than calling people out?
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*sigh* Let's just give everyone the benefit of the doubt, shall we? Do you have any suggestions other than calling people out?
I am giving people the benefit of the doubt; that's why I said that I fully expected everyone to send awesome music.

Cuz I know that people who love music love people who love music.



Other suggestions would be...

Well.

For everyone to include their address with the music they send to Medusa, that way they can't receive music until they've sent their own.

That's one way.

ETA: PS I'm not interested in fussin' about this, or about making it into a big thing, I just want it to work for everyone without anyone getting left out.

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Yes, but it's also unfair to the participants who put their own lives on hold to do this really beautiful thing for others when people flake out and are lame about it.

If you just bail without offering any kind of explanation (sorry guys, I'm going to be late, my pet/child/partner/parent got sick/moved/ate my homework) then I think it's completely appropriate to call them out. It's one thing if life gets in the way--we allll have that happen, but to let it get in the way without any kind of "I'm still here, I'm still invested" is not okay with me.

Selfishness is one of my hot button things, though, and I fully expect that everyone will make and send beautiful mixes of bitchin music
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I am giving people the benefit of the doubt; that's why I said that I fully expected everyone to send awesome music.

Cuz I know that people who love music love people who love music.



Other suggestions would be...

Well.

For everyone to include their address with the music they send to Medusa, that way they can't receive music until they've sent their own.

That's one way.

ETA: PS I'm not interested in fussin' about this, or about making it into a big thing, I just want it to work for everyone without anyone getting left out.

I am going to preface this with saying again that my CD's on other websites have always been on time and will be this time, however, my ONLY reservation in participating is the whining and bitching from some people who don't receive their CD's and the public calling out. I HATE it.

Some people are shy, proud, or have issues they don't want to discuss with us and it upsets me personally deeply when we focus on what we can receive rather than what we can give with love, expecting nothing in return.

It makes it ugly for me and I suspect several others of us idealists.

I would like to see us all be thankful for what we get and leave it at that.

If you don't receive a CD from your group members maybe drop a PM to me or to someone who has asked if they can send to everyone and give them your address. That way you get CDs and no one is embarrassed or feels stress or pressure.

I would be happy to send all the CD's you want in whatever style you want. But please, let's not call anyone out.

Please.
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I am going to preface this with saying again that my CD's on other websites have always been on time and will be this time, however, my ONLY reservation in participating is the whining and bitching from some people who don't receive their CD's and the public calling out. I HATE it.

Some people are shy, proud, or have issues they don't want to discuss with us and it upsets me personally deeply when we focus on what we can receive rather than what we can give with love, expecting nothing in return.

It makes it ugly for me and I suspect several others of us idealists.

I would like to see us all be thankful for what we get and leave it at that.

If you don't receive a CD from your group members maybe drop a PM to me or to someone who has asked if they can send to everyone and give them your address. That way you get CDs and no one is embarrassed or feels stress or pressure.

I would be happy to send all the CD's you want in whatever style you want. But please, let's not call anyone out.

Please.
Here's the thing that's bothering ME now.

My post--made completely in jest--is being made into an accusation that I'm going to call people out and be really ugly if ~*I don't get what I want*~

It's not about that.

I don't care who sends what out, or who doesn't.

It's not about that, for me. It's all about the music. I share music because I love music, not because I want to cause division.

It feels like I'm getting called out for being pre-emptively mean, and I don't want that to taint the spirit in which this swap was designed. So, on that note, I am politely and respectfully withdrawing from the swap now with no ill feelings towards any of the participants.

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Here's the thing that's bothering ME now.

My post--made completely in jest--is being made into an accusation that I'm going to call people out and be really ugly if ~*I don't get what I want*~

It's not about that.

I don't care who sends what out, or who doesn't.

It's not about that, for me. It's all about the music. I share music because I love music, not because I want to cause division.

It feels like I'm getting called out for being pre-emptively mean, and I don't want that to taint the spirit in which this swap was designed. So, on that note, I am politely and respectfully withdrawing from the swap now with no ill feelings toward any of the participants.

That was not my intention at all, in fact in my first post I said I know you are playing here, so that people would think about what I said and that I was just using your post as a jumping off point since you mentioned it ....playing.

It just always happens and it is my least favorite part.

"S, I am merely using your post as a jumping off point, I know you were just playing! Grin!" is what was in my first post.

I am so sorry that you feel attacked, that was not my intention at all. I don't think the people who come in fussing about their CD's not arriving are mean, just maybe they have not thought through all the ramifications of calling people out about it.

Again, I tried to make clear I was not slamming you or saying you are mean, sorry my little note at the end was not clear enough.

I completely agree that it is all about the music and was trying to say that, but appear to have not done a good job of that.
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guess what! i can't play--i didn't realize that i was on the list until i just saw it now, which isn't really an excuse, i have mad mixed tape skillz and i did *want* to participate but this move-thing is kicking my butt.

instead, i could send each member in my group their very own dog?

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guess what! i can't play--i didn't realize that i was on the list until i just saw it now, which isn't really an excuse, i have mad mixed tape skillz and i did *want* to participate but this move-thing is kicking my butt.

instead, i could send each member in my group their very own dog?

or a fantastic used book?
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How about all those Ezee's spices you mentioned a few weeks ago?



Or you could just send Ezee to mow mah lawns.


Oh, wait...were U in mah group?



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Or you could just send Ezee to mow mah lawns.


Oh, wait...were U in mah group?




more than happy to send spices --if E will part with them!!!!!
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