what NOT to do in a relationship....... - Page 8

WolfyOne · 07-30-2010, 02:49 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

DO NOT think you can just come up and use my Hello Kitty blankie.

I'd poke my eyeballs out first

I'm more of a Scooby Doo person myself

Daywalker · 07-30-2010, 02:51 PM

Never answer:
"Who's ear rings are those...?"

with

"I dunno..., they're not yours?"

WolfyOne · 07-30-2010, 02:52 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by SuperFemme

do not put the moves on your honeys best friend, sister or mother.

I am having a BMI with TMI

The_Lady_Snow · 07-30-2010, 02:53 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by WolfyOne

I am having a BMI with TMI

Please disclose any scat fetish before entering ANY relationship...

Jet · 07-30-2010, 03:00 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by chefhmboyrd

yeah i think it's time i write that book, i bet we all could too!
what NOT to do........

#1 do not give away all your power during the honeymoon sex part.......
as in have a backbone, don't let your partner run the whole show. that sets the tone and culture for the whole rest of the relationship.

i'm lost with this comment. i'd make it known what is acceptable and what isn't during the entire course of dating, not after partnering/marriage. If you can't express opinions or disagree during dating, something is really wrong.

The_Lady_Snow · 07-30-2010, 03:02 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jet

i'm lost with this comment. i'd make it known what is acceptable and what isn't during the entire course of dating, not after partnering/marriage. If you can't express opinions or disagree during dating, something is really wrong.

Do you have sex on the first date?

WolfyOne · 07-30-2010, 03:03 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

Please disclose any scat fetish before entering ANY relationship...

Are you saying we can't be related, I mean in a relationship because I had a bad mental image

violaine · 07-30-2010, 03:05 PM

ignore your own instincts

Apocalipstic · 07-30-2010, 03:15 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jet

i'm lost with this comment. i'd make it known what is acceptable and what isn't during the entire course of dating, not after partnering/marriage. If you can't express opinions or disagree during dating, something is really wrong.

I think this applies if you have sex on the first date, or ummm, before the first date

The_Lady_Snow · 07-30-2010, 03:15 PM

Do not try to play people especially if the community is small.

Apocalipstic · 07-30-2010, 03:16 PM

Do not try to play Me, then act all hurt if it does not work out as you planned.

The_Lady_Snow · 07-30-2010, 03:19 PM

Do not open the box of Cocoa Krispies they are mine, *I* like to be the one who opens them.

SuperFemme · 07-30-2010, 03:21 PM

do not be a knight in shining armor. i will find your rust.
do not tell me how all of your exes abused you. i will be cynical.
do not expect to know everything about me in three dates.
it's gonna take a few years to peel these layers.
do not get angry when i don't disclose all my life to you.
when we are getting to know each other.
do not sit around and gossip about everyone in a hateful manner,
i won't call you back because gee? how will you talk about me when
i am not there?

The_Lady_Snow · 07-30-2010, 03:32 PM

DO NOT make me choose between NASCAR and you.....

violaine · 07-30-2010, 03:37 PM

[QUOTE=SuperFemme;164075]
do not expect to know everything about me in three dates.
it's gonna take a few years to peel these layers.
do not get angry when i don't disclose all my life to you.
when we are getting to know each other.
do not sit around and gossip about everyone in a hateful manner,
i won't call you back because gee? how will you talk about me when
i am not there?

i just posted something similar elsewhere.

forget to ask: who is there for you, if you're constantly holding someone up twenty-four seven, who cannot see, or work on their own self esteem issues.

betenoire · 07-30-2010, 03:52 PM

Do not tell me the password to your email for any reason. Cuz after we break up I will break into your email account and edit your signature so that it says something REAL unflattering. Then I will check back regularly to see if you've noticed yet. (Yes, I have.)

Quote:

Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

Please disclose any kind of mental illness, sexual illness, ANY kind of illness early on in the relationship.

No surprise body take overs from your Russian Uncle making you speak tongues and all that or violent outbursts where I am having to dodge candles and the cookie jar cause you forgot to mention you had MPD.

For fucking real. If there is a risk that I will wake up in the middle of the night and discover you sitting on the floor colouring and babbling in 4-year-old speak - I wanna know in advance. So that at the very least I can wear pjs. I can't be naked in the same room as someone who is colouring - I just fucking can't.

WolfyOne · 07-30-2010, 03:53 PM

With all the things I'm learning not to do in a relationship

I may never date again

Rockinonahigh · 07-30-2010, 05:03 PM

One thing we havent discused is about haveing relationships with difrently abled ppl..our diffrences can be a deal breaker of the other person dosent take the time to communacate the how and when along with other things that do and will come up.In my case im very hard of hearing so sometimes I will hear fairly clear or I may have a problem of hearing but not understanding spoken words.I have some vertago wich is a pain in the ass when it hits,I havent herd a wisper in years..then there is the issue with my back that causes me to have to be creative with sex..its possable just diffrent.I have found that some just dont feel comfortable in dealing with any kind of diffrently abled person or there situations.I have been made to feel less than because of this..I know im not the only one that has this problem.

SassyLeo · 07-30-2010, 05:12 PM

One of the best pieces of advice I got about relationships was from my father:

Always be clear and communicative about your boundaries and expectations

Emmy · 07-30-2010, 05:16 PM

Try not to take one another for granted too much; try to notice small kindnesses.

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07-30-2010, 03:19 PM	#152
The_Lady_Snow MILLION $$$ PUSSY How Do You Identify?: Kinky, Raw, Perverted, Uber Queer Alpha Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Iconic Ms. Relationship Status: Keeper of 3, only one has the map to my freckles Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: La Reina del Sur Posts: 22,488 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 32,231 Thanked 80,080 Times in 15,669 Posts Rep Power: 21474874	Do not open the box of Cocoa Krispies they are mine, I like to be the one who opens them. __________________ "If you’re going to play these dirty games of ours, then you might as well indulge completely. It’s all about turning back into an animal and that’s the beauty of it. Place your guilt on the sidewalk and take a blow torch to it (guilt is usually worthless anyway). Be perverted, be filthy, do things that mannered people shouldn’t do. If you’re going to be gross then go for it and don’t wimp out."---Master Aiden

07-30-2010, 03:32 PM	#154
The_Lady_Snow MILLION $$$ PUSSY How Do You Identify?: Kinky, Raw, Perverted, Uber Queer Alpha Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Iconic Ms. Relationship Status: Keeper of 3, only one has the map to my freckles Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: La Reina del Sur Posts: 22,488 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 32,231 Thanked 80,080 Times in 15,669 Posts Rep Power: 21474874	DO NOT make me choose between NASCAR and you..... __________________ "If you’re going to play these dirty games of ours, then you might as well indulge completely. It’s all about turning back into an animal and that’s the beauty of it. Place your guilt on the sidewalk and take a blow torch to it (guilt is usually worthless anyway). Be perverted, be filthy, do things that mannered people shouldn’t do. If you’re going to be gross then go for it and don’t wimp out."---Master Aiden

07-30-2010, 03:05 PM	#148
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07-30-2010, 03:37 PM	#155
violaine Timed Out How Do You Identify?: atypical Preferred Pronoun?: plague words and phrases Relationship Status: love wise guys of the avian world Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: wekiva springs basin Posts: 3,236 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,934 Thanked 3,293 Times in 1,301 Posts Rep Power: 0	healthy - [QUOTE=SuperFemme;164075] do not expect to know everything about me in three dates. it's gonna take a few years to peel these layers. do not get angry when i don't disclose all my life to you. when we are getting to know each other. do not sit around and gossip about everyone in a hateful manner, i won't call you back because gee? how will you talk about me when i am not there? i just posted something similar elsewhere. forget to ask: who is there for you, if you're constantly holding someone up twenty-four seven, who cannot see, or work on their own self esteem issues.

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