what NOT to do in a relationship.......

SuperFemme · 07-31-2010, 12:47 PM

don't tell me you're sending great presents to my kid...and then they never come. you just look like a douche.

The_Lady_Snow · 07-31-2010, 12:48 PM

DO NOT!!!! use my credit card to buy your other girlfriend a present

That's what poly is for.... So we allllllllll know

betenoire · 07-31-2010, 02:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Tranzman

Don't expect your partner to read your mind. Communicate your needs and desires. Statements such as, "Well if you don't know why I am angry, then I certainly am not going to tell you", will not be given attention by me.

For fucking real.

And when I ask what your problem is, absolutely don't say "Forget it. I am stupid and wrong anyway." Because we have never had a conversation in which I told you that you were stupid and wrong - maybe you've had that conversation with some other girl, but don't put that shit on me.

And, plus. You know. If you refuse to tell me what your problem is I am not going to sweet-talk it out of you. All you're doing is pissing me off.

weatherboi · 07-31-2010, 02:47 PM

please do not flush my marijuana down the toilet!!!
it will do no one any good!!!

Julie · 07-31-2010, 03:08 PM

Rule Number 1: Do NOT ever let me TOP You -- It will be over!

Soft*Silver · 07-31-2010, 03:27 PM

AMEN!!! AMEN!!!! AMEN!!!!

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Originally Posted by InfiniteFemme

Rule Number 1: Do NOT ever let me TOP You -- It will be over!

violaine · 07-31-2010, 03:30 PM

forget to apologise-

Graham · 07-31-2010, 06:11 PM

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Originally Posted by weatherboi

please do not flush my marijuana down the toilet!!!
it will do no one any good!!!

OMG say it ain't soooooooooooo!!!!

Gayla · 07-31-2010, 06:36 PM

There is more than one crazy cat lady. So far, I've known two and I don't think Billy and I have anyone in common.

IrishGrrl · 07-31-2010, 06:57 PM

Please do not give me a detailed run down about the amazing shit you just took.

Do not rush me to orgasm while fucking me

If I say I need time to think, please dont follow me around the house.

I dont mind harmless flirting, but DO NOT oggle other women all night

Please do not call me to talk, then go on a 20 minute spiel about something ADORABLE your cat did. Then go on for another 20 min's about your OTHER cats!

Never, EVER lie to me, even if it's gonna hurt.

If you are pissed off, or upset about something, talk about it. Passive agressive behavior will get you the boot.

Dont do the running man on the dance floor while we are out with our friends.

If you burp or fart say excuse me.

I may not act like a lady, but dont forget that I am one, and treat me accordingly

Stearns · 07-31-2010, 03:13 PM

Don't fail to examine the role you may have played in the doo-doo. Maybe you chose to overlook those little red flags that had popped up, or maybe you decided 'unconsciously on purpose' that the relo wasn't good for you and you did stuff to get out of it, in order to preserve your self-hood.

I can't tolerate feeling buffeted about by forces beyond my control. I need to know that I made decisions - unconsciously or not - what those decisions were, and why I made them. Then, I get to decide what to do about it. In doing so, I return my power to me.

07-31-2010, 12:48 PM	#2
The_Lady_Snow MILLION $$$ PUSSY How Do You Identify?: Kinky, Raw, Perverted, Uber Queer Alpha Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Iconic Ms. Relationship Status: Keeper of 3, only one has the map to my freckles Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: La Reina del Sur Posts: 22,488 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 32,231 Thanked 80,078 Times in 15,670 Posts Rep Power: 21474874	DO NOT!!!! use my credit card to buy your other girlfriend a present That's what poly is for.... So we allllllllll know __________________ "If you’re going to play these dirty games of ours, then you might as well indulge completely. It’s all about turning back into an animal and that’s the beauty of it. Place your guilt on the sidewalk and take a blow torch to it (guilt is usually worthless anyway). Be perverted, be filthy, do things that mannered people shouldn’t do. If you’re going to be gross then go for it and don’t wimp out."---Master Aiden

07-31-2010, 03:13 PM	#11
Stearns Member How Do You Identify?: Trans Man Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Husband Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: 'nita land Posts: 272 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 385 Thanked 443 Times in 149 Posts Rep Power: 3640	When relationships go bad.... Don't fail to examine the role you may have played in the doo-doo. Maybe you chose to overlook those little red flags that had popped up, or maybe you decided 'unconsciously on purpose' that the relo wasn't good for you and you did stuff to get out of it, in order to preserve your self-hood. I can't tolerate feeling buffeted about by forces beyond my control. I need to know that I made decisions - unconsciously or not - what those decisions were, and why I made them. Then, I get to decide what to do about it. In doing so, I return my power to me.

07-31-2010, 12:47 PM	#1
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07-31-2010, 03:08 PM	#5
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07-31-2010, 03:30 PM	#7
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07-31-2010, 06:36 PM	#9
Gayla Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Kinky Butch Top Preferred Pronoun?: I'm not picky Relationship Status: She makes me dance like a fool and forget how to breathe. Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: SF CA Posts: 3,229 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 877 Thanked 7,077 Times in 1,966 Posts Rep Power: 0	There is more than one crazy cat lady. So far, I've known two and I don't think Billy and I have anyone in common.

07-31-2010, 06:57 PM	#10
IrishGrrl Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Femme Leatherdyke Preferred Pronoun?: She/her Relationship Status: In a relationship/non-monogamous Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Fort Worth, TX Posts: 877 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 276 Thanked 1,209 Times in 366 Posts Rep Power: 2427288	Please do not give me a detailed run down about the amazing shit you just took. Do not rush me to orgasm while fucking me If I say I need time to think, please dont follow me around the house. I dont mind harmless flirting, but DO NOT oggle other women all night Please do not call me to talk, then go on a 20 minute spiel about something ADORABLE your cat did. Then go on for another 20 min's about your OTHER cats! Never, EVER lie to me, even if it's gonna hurt. If you are pissed off, or upset about something, talk about it. Passive agressive behavior will get you the boot. Dont do the running man on the dance floor while we are out with our friends. If you burp or fart say excuse me. I may not act like a lady, but dont forget that I am one, and treat me accordingly