The Loft: Butches and Femmes in their 40s, 50s and over.

[Rockinonahigh]

Folks I havent moved for anyone,to many of my friends have and it been a total disaster for them.Playing mind games it one of the worst things anyone can do to another person...yep they are players who get god only knows what from useing other ppl.LDR's have been not to good for me either,so far anyway.So far I have made it to this point in my life ..after I wised up about
really beleaving what ppl say and do,do they mean what they are saying or is it just for the moment...mostly for the moment I think.I really try not to judge ppl cause of this but I am carefull just the same cause I do know not everyone is like this..I hope.

[lipstixgal]

I don't do LDR's either and I'm not moving for anyone either, dating sites suck because most people are not really that serious about meeting someone I think they are just looking!! I'm on several dating sites and I mean nothing has happened!! I even on a Jewish one and have not met anyone there!! Some people are close by too a town or two a part and have not wanted to contact so I give up. I'm moving to Florida I think in October where the sun shines all the time maybe something will happen down there!! I hope so.

[cuddlyfemme]

Originally Posted by lipstixgal

I don't do LDR's either and I'm not moving for anyone either, dating sites suck because most people are not really that serious about meeting someone I think they are just looking!! I'm on several dating sites and I mean nothing has happened!! I even on a Jewish one and have not met anyone there!! Some people are close by too a town or two a part and have not wanted to contact so I give up. I'm moving to Florida I think in October where the sun shines all the time maybe something will happen down there!! I hope so.

I just moved to Columbia SC (mainly because of economics) and haven't met anyone...granted I haven't been looking either. I hope you do better in sunny Florida!

[Jet]

Fly by to say hey. everyone have a good night

[lipstixgal]

Originally Posted by cuddlyfemme

I just moved to Columbia SC (mainly because of economics) and haven't met anyone...granted I haven't been looking either. I hope you do better in sunny Florida!

How is the economy down there and the weather?? Not a definite on Florida yet but want warmth and sun!! Hopefully there will some butches but don't know I think its an age thing too. I'm 52 but look really young so I really don't know what to think but it gets lonely sometimes with just school and internship!!

Good luck Cuddly you deserve the best!!

[cuddlyfemme]

Originally Posted by lipstixgal

How is the economy down there and the weather?? Not a definite on Florida yet but want warmth and sun!! Hopefully there will some butches but don't know I think its an age thing too. I'm 52 but look really young so I really don't know what to think but it gets lonely sometimes with just school and internship!!

Good luck Cuddly you deserve the best!!

The economy in SC isn't that bad, but you have to remember that I'm originally from Washington DC so almost anything is better lol But seriously, the economy seems pretty good. The weather is really nice, during the days its in the mid 90's or so. There's some humidity but it doesn't seem to be that bad.
I agree with you, I think its an age thing. I'm 48 and look younger than I am. I do totally understand about the lonliness...I love my 4 cats but there's times when I need more...

[lipstixgal]

Originally Posted by cuddlyfemme

The economy in SC isn't that bad, but you have to remember that I'm originally from Washington DC so almost anything is better lol But seriously, the economy seems pretty good. The weather is really nice, during the days its in the mid 90's or so. There's some humidity but it doesn't seem to be that bad.
I agree with you, I think its an age thing. I'm 48 and look younger than I am. I do totally understand about the lonliness...I love my 4 cats but there's times when I need more...

So the economy isn't that bad so you are working?? That's great. Don't know how the economy is in florida either and as far as finding butches or gay people is hard unless I go into the city, New York that is which is very expensive and very time consuming like 45 minutes plus cab or train....I try to attend the butch femme social but the people are not too friendly to be frank!!! Its very conservative where I live in Northern NJ, so that is not good. I too love my two dogs but gosh I need something. One woman contacted me through some dating site but never got back to me..I didn't do anything but never heard back!! Its frustrating to be honest.

[cuddlyfemme]

Originally Posted by lipstixgal

So the economy isn't that bad so you are working?? That's great. Don't know how the economy is in florida either and as far as finding butches or gay people is hard unless I go into the city, New York that is which is very expensive and very time consuming like 45 minutes plus cab or train....I try to attend the butch femme social but the people are not too friendly to be frank!!! Its very conservative where I live in Northern NJ, so that is not good. I too love my two dogs but gosh I need something. One woman contacted me through some dating site but never got back to me..I didn't do anything but never heard back!! Its frustrating to be honest.

I'm still looking for a job (i'd saved up some money to live on for awhile). I remember the subway rides when I lived in DC and cab prices were ridiculous. The butches and femme's that i met were rather cliquish. We didn't have socials like you all have in New York. I know the price to live in New York is sky high. I've totally given up on the dating sites, it seems like people are just there to play games or so how many females they can get in contact with and have no follow through