What attracts you to Ftms ......

Stacy · 08-12-2010, 09:44 PM

I love every damn thing about my FTM Transsexual husband! (I need that on a t-shirt!)

imperfect_cupcake · 08-13-2010, 02:35 AM

I've thought about this and thought about the FTQ/FTM that I've dated/screwed around with to see if there was anything unifying about them that may be different than anyone else I've dated.

The only thing that seems to stand out is the ones I've dated/fucked about with were very bender-ish. In that, they were *totally* comfortable in queering their masculinity and coming up with their own masculine gender now that body matched their head a bit more. Thus we could get up to some seriously fun (for me me me and them them them) queering/bender-sex role play.

The butches I tended to date at this time were a little more uncomfortable with that kind of mind gender-fuck. I'm sure tons were able to, I just had no access to any as at the time no one was admitting to any of it, thus I couldn't ask any out. I did discover that once my partners were comfortable with who I was and that they trusted I respected them, they got more willing and curious and able.

I think, at the time and place, the FTQ/M I had access to were just there a bit faster.

That's really the only difference I can think of.

BI (before Inki) in london, I did turn down a couple of straight FtM dates as I didn't really see that jiving. They didn't see themselves as heteroqueer or queer in anyway. So I said no. I don't date straight blokes. TBH, I didn't (and don't) really know very many straight FtMs. Most that I know ID as queer or heteroqueer (and half of those aren't queer in sexuality - they don't have sex with other men of any origin, they just feel their journey aligns them with a queer philosophy and outlook and bendy sex games lol)

but as for why those FtQ/M were attractive? Nothing about them being FtM. They displayed characteristics I find hot in anyone - cheeky, funny, thoughtful, non-rigid, able to take the piss, treat me like a human rather than "a girl", cocky (in the good way: see cheeky) and self confident.

Actually that's not entirely true - there are certain aspects in femmes I find attractive and hot that I don't find attractive in butches or FtQ/Ms. And vice versa. hmn. Have to think about that.

IrishGrrl · 08-13-2010, 06:20 AM

Everytime I think about this subject I come up with nothing. I think what it all boils down to is I"m attracted to energy. Generally speaking, I tend to gravitate more to abundant masculine energy more, with a touch of feminine. Most butches, and FTM's I"ve dated embrace thier inner fag. I like that. It's hot.

Thinker · 08-13-2010, 07:30 AM

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Originally Posted by honeybarbara

men of any origin

I like this.

I'd like to steal it (and give you credit).

imperfect_cupcake · 08-13-2010, 08:55 AM

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Originally Posted by Thinker

I like this.

I'd like to steal it (and give you credit).

No need. I'm sure I picked it up from someone somewhere at some point... :*

chefhmboyrd · 08-13-2010, 10:17 AM

i have been told by several women that the pheromones play a big part in the attraction......
one in particular said she actually got a little woozy when i first started coming around, and she couldn't quite put her finger on it......

i think it has a lot to do with the personality, confidence, and attitude.
just because someone is attracted to one FTM, doesn't mean that they like all FTMs
conversely, one can be attracted to femmes and stumble upon an FTM or Butch that "does it" for them.

i am just glad to have admirers, being a leo and all, it warms the little cockles of my heart.................

Stacy · 08-13-2010, 10:30 AM

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Originally Posted by chefhmboyrd

i am just glad to have admirers, being a leo and all, it warms the little cockles of my heart.................

You have little cockles in your heart??

chefhmboyrd · 08-13-2010, 10:31 AM

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Originally Posted by Deviant

You have little cockles in your heart??

uh huh, doesn't everyone?

cockle 1 (ˈkɒk ə l)

— n
1. any sand-burrowing bivalve mollusc of the family Cardiidae, esp Cardium edule ( edible cockle ) of Europe, typically having a rounded shell with radiating ribs
2. any of certain similar or related molluscs
3. short for cockleshell
4. a wrinkle or puckering, as in cloth or paper
5. a small furnace or stove
6. cockles of one's heart one's deepest feelings (esp in the phrase warm the cockles of one's heart )

— vb
7. to contract or cause to contract into wrinkles

SuperFemme · 08-13-2010, 10:44 AM

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Originally Posted by chefhmboyrd

i have been told by several women that the pheromones play a big part in the attraction......
one in particular said she actually got a little woozy when i first started coming around, and she couldn't quite put her finger on it......

i think it has a lot to do with the personality, confidence, and attitude.
just because someone is attracted to one FTM, doesn't mean that they like all FTMs
conversely, one can be attracted to femmes and stumble upon an FTM or Butch that "does it" for them.

i am just glad to have admirers, being a leo and all, it warms the little cockles of my heart.................

i still think it's all the cutesy puppies and animals you post that lure in unsuspecting femmes with a penchant for cute. <3

however...thanks to you i am again in trouble with my beloved. i may have said "suck my cockles" to him this morning. he's not laughing.

dixie · 08-13-2010, 10:50 AM

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Originally Posted by SuperFemme

i still think it's all the cutesy puppies and animals you post that lure in unsuspecting femmes with a penchant for cute. <3

however...thanks to you i am again in trouble with my beloved. i may have said "suck my cockles" to him this morning. he's not laughing.

So glad cutesy puppies don't lure me in. However, big bad wolves get me every time...

"suck my cockles"...i now have a new favorite phrase thanks to you... i *heart* you...

SelfMadeMan · 08-13-2010, 07:43 AM

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Originally Posted by Deviant

I love every damn thing about my FTM Transsexual husband! (I need that on a t-shirt!)

I love you! Thank you for your support baby.

08-12-2010, 09:44 PM	#1
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08-13-2010, 10:17 AM	#6
chefhmboyrd Senior Member How Do You Identify?: man Preferred Pronoun?: beef Relationship Status: Uncle Daddy Snap Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: nashvegas Posts: 1,607 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,411 Thanked 2,846 Times in 898 Posts Rep Power: 14271905	hello i have been told by several women that the pheromones play a big part in the attraction...... one in particular said she actually got a little woozy when i first started coming around, and she couldn't quite put her finger on it...... i think it has a lot to do with the personality, confidence, and attitude. just because someone is attracted to one FTM, doesn't mean that they like all FTMs conversely, one can be attracted to femmes and stumble upon an FTM or Butch that "does it" for them. i am just glad to have admirers, being a leo and all, it warms the little cockles of my heart................. __________________ what's a cowboy got to do to get a drink around here?

08-13-2010, 02:35 AM	#2
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,712 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I've thought about this and thought about the FTQ/FTM that I've dated/screwed around with to see if there was anything unifying about them that may be different than anyone else I've dated. The only thing that seems to stand out is the ones I've dated/fucked about with were very bender-ish. In that, they were totally comfortable in queering their masculinity and coming up with their own masculine gender now that body matched their head a bit more. Thus we could get up to some seriously fun (for me me me and them them them) queering/bender-sex role play. The butches I tended to date at this time were a little more uncomfortable with that kind of mind gender-fuck. I'm sure tons were able to, I just had no access to any as at the time no one was admitting to any of it, thus I couldn't ask any out. I did discover that once my partners were comfortable with who I was and that they trusted I respected them, they got more willing and curious and able. I think, at the time and place, the FTQ/M I had access to were just there a bit faster. That's really the only difference I can think of. BI (before Inki) in london, I did turn down a couple of straight FtM dates as I didn't really see that jiving. They didn't see themselves as heteroqueer or queer in anyway. So I said no. I don't date straight blokes. TBH, I didn't (and don't) really know very many straight FtMs. Most that I know ID as queer or heteroqueer (and half of those aren't queer in sexuality - they don't have sex with other men of any origin, they just feel their journey aligns them with a queer philosophy and outlook and bendy sex games lol) but as for why those FtQ/M were attractive? Nothing about them being FtM. They displayed characteristics I find hot in anyone - cheeky, funny, thoughtful, non-rigid, able to take the piss, treat me like a human rather than "a girl", cocky (in the good way: see cheeky) and self confident. Actually that's not entirely true - there are certain aspects in femmes I find attractive and hot that I don't find attractive in butches or FtQ/Ms. And vice versa. hmn. Have to think about that.

08-13-2010, 06:20 AM	#3
IrishGrrl Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Femme Leatherdyke Preferred Pronoun?: She/her Relationship Status: In a relationship/non-monogamous Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Fort Worth, TX Posts: 877 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 276 Thanked 1,209 Times in 366 Posts Rep Power: 2427288	Everytime I think about this subject I come up with nothing. I think what it all boils down to is I"m attracted to energy. Generally speaking, I tend to gravitate more to abundant masculine energy more, with a touch of feminine. Most butches, and FTM's I"ve dated embrace thier inner fag. I like that. It's hot.