The older I get, the more I realize...

Kenna · 08-13-2010, 01:47 PM

TOIGTMIR...
That I must let go of frustration, disappointment, resentment, and other emotions that make my head want to explode... or else it will consume me and I can't get anything productive done.

TOIGTMIR...
That some individuals will never "grow up" and take care of responsibilities or proper priorities...and that it's not my job to pick up the pieces or be the caretaker/responsible adult. I must break the cycle of co-dependency. I must STOP trying to rush in and "fix" everything. All my life I've been the caretaker....it's time to take care of me.

Stacy · 08-14-2010, 07:59 AM

That most people don't like you nearly as much as they say they do and will stop being your friend over the most minor infraction, so hang on to the true friends. Cherish the ones that'll be there through the rough patches, and let the rest go. Life is far too short to waste on pseudo friendship.

SelfMadeMan · 08-14-2010, 08:06 AM

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Originally Posted by Deviant

That most people don't like you nearly as much as they say they do and will stop being your friend over the most minor infraction, so hang on to the true friends. Cherish the ones that'll be there through the rough patches, and let the rest go. Life is far too short to waste on pseudo friendship.

Ohhhhh so true!

I've learned that you are ultimately responsible for what you allow others to do to you. If you allow others, regardless of who they are, to continually disrespect you and treat you poorly, then you are just as much to blame for the hurt it causes.

Pixie · 08-14-2010, 08:37 AM

I have learned that a good bed, can infact, make a difference in your day!

Laerkin · 08-14-2010, 09:28 AM

TOIGTMIR...

...that life is short, so do what makes you happy.

...that adventure is good for the soul, so try something new at least once a day.

...how right my parents were about so many things...I sure took those long summers away from school with nothing to do for granted.

...everybody farts, so you might as well laugh about it.

...there is never any excuse for bad manners, rudeness, or treating someone else poorly.

...that there is no such thing as laughing too often or too loudly.

...it's the people that can't let go of the past that suffer the most, so I practice letting go and surrendering to the present as much as possible. Nothing is more empowering than sloughing off the old and starting new each day.

...that there are so many people here with words that inspire me daily.

Jet · 09-20-2010, 07:02 AM

...never buy anything you can't flip burgers for.

Soft*Silver · 09-23-2010, 11:33 PM

how really important it is to pick the right career path. I did an ok job, but in looking back, I know where I could have really empowered my path and increased my income and twisted it around so I could have done more specifically the kind of therapy work I wanted to do...

Gentle Tiger · 09-23-2010, 11:45 PM

The older I get the more I realize that my best asset and worst enemy is me.

Jet · 09-29-2010, 11:56 AM

We pay for everything eventually. There is no free lunch.

Isadora · 09-29-2010, 12:02 PM

when I need to step away. See you later!

Lillie · 09-29-2010, 01:02 PM

how much losing 2.2 lbs really means to me

Tcountry · 09-30-2010, 01:29 AM

...that smiles and hugs are always appreciated, sometimes needed, and the best gift...
...There are 2 words I wish not to have in my vocab or my life...
...That everything happens for a reason (even tho sometimes we don't understand that when things happens)...
...No matter how hard life gets...it is better than the alternative...
...some people Have to hit rock bottom and lose it all to learn that they had a good thing going...

dixie · 09-30-2010, 05:24 AM

...I just don't do so well in cold weather anymore.

Gentle Tiger · 10-08-2010, 01:06 PM

....I really am a paradox.

Blade · 10-09-2010, 07:04 AM

It doesn't matter if I sleep on the ground or in the bed my ole body hurts just as bad no matter where it wakes up at

Wryly · 09-20-2010, 09:42 AM

. . . . . that I don't need all the "things" (material possessions) that I thought I did.

. . . . . that getting rid of the clutter in my life is liberating.

. . . . . that it is getting easier to walk away from people who claim to be a friend but act otherwise.

. . . . . that Tootsie Rolls are a good any-time food.

. . . . . that my heart may bruise but it hasn't stopped hoping.

squeak · 09-29-2010, 12:18 PM

TOIGTMIR:

... life doesn't always imitate TV. You haven't failed in your twenties just because you don't live in a high rise Manhattan apartment by yourself, with a huge closet filled with designer shoes, surrounded by equally successful friends who are always in the mood for a cocktail party where all of you magically have all this free time and no job stress.

... fish or cut bait. Don't sit around waiting for someone else to do something or recognize you.

... homecooking still wins hearts.

xosqueak. Still wants all those shoes, though, don't get her wrong.

StillettoDoll · 10-06-2010, 05:52 PM

The older I get the more I realize just how "experienced" I am.

And knowing and distinguishing on what really matters.

rlin · 10-06-2010, 07:59 PM

that half the battle is owning it.

that honesty hurts less... every time.

that i am only human after all.

that normal is a myth perpetuated by the evil ones.

that there really are evil ones.

and

that i better do it today... never wait or hesitate.

paposeco · 10-06-2010, 09:53 PM

...that at 17 I thought I had all the right answers..now, I'm more interested in having all the right questions.

08-14-2010, 07:59 AM	#2
Stacy Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Minnesota Posts: 475 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 396 Thanked 920 Times in 225 Posts Rep Power: 8450335	That most people don't like you nearly as much as they say they do and will stop being your friend over the most minor infraction, so hang on to the true friends. Cherish the ones that'll be there through the rough patches, and let the rest go. Life is far too short to waste on pseudo friendship. __________________ "Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." ~Dr. Suess http://i431.photobucket.com/albums/q...star_green.gif

08-14-2010, 08:37 AM	#4
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09-23-2010, 11:33 PM	#7
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,594 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,897 Times in 4,064 Posts Rep Power*: 21474858	how really important it is to pick the right career path. I did an ok job, but in looking back, I know where I could have really empowered my path and increased my income and twisted it around so I could have done more specifically the kind of therapy work I wanted to do... __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

09-23-2010, 11:45 PM	#8
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09-29-2010, 12:02 PM	#10
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08-13-2010, 01:47 PM	#1
Kenna Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Fiery, Sassy, Tough As Nails, Femme Tomboy Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: I am your favorite hello and hardest goodbye. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NC & CO Posts: 4,806 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,624 Thanked 12,191 Times in 3,779 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	TOIGTMIR... That I must let go of frustration, disappointment, resentment, and other emotions that make my head want to explode... or else it will consume me and I can't get anything productive done. TOIGTMIR... That some individuals will never "grow up" and take care of responsibilities or proper priorities...and that it's not my job to pick up the pieces or be the caretaker/responsible adult. I must break the cycle of co-dependency. I must STOP trying to rush in and "fix" everything. All my life I've been the caretaker....it's time to take care of me.

08-14-2010, 09:28 AM	#5
Laerkin Member How Do You Identify?: Girlie with a touch of bossy Preferred Pronoun?: She, but not hung up on the details Relationship Status: Parenting our furry family with SmoothButch Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Washington DC Posts: 385 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 772 Thanked 963 Times in 257 Posts Rep Power: 4366972	TOIGTMIR... ...that life is short, so do what makes you happy. ...that adventure is good for the soul, so try something new at least once a day. ...how right my parents were about so many things...I sure took those long summers away from school with nothing to do for granted. ...everybody farts, so you might as well laugh about it. ...there is never any excuse for bad manners, rudeness, or treating someone else poorly. ...that there is no such thing as laughing too often or too loudly. ...it's the people that can't let go of the past that suffer the most, so I practice letting go and surrendering to the present as much as possible. Nothing is more empowering than sloughing off the old and starting new each day. ...that there are so many people here with words that inspire me daily.

09-20-2010, 07:02 AM	#6
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09-29-2010, 11:56 AM	#9
Jet Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: .. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .. Posts: 3,471 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 292 Thanked 2,647 Times in 1,293 Posts Rep Power: 0	We pay for everything eventually. There is no free lunch.

09-29-2010, 01:02 PM	#11
Lillie Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: babygirl,princess,her, that girl, she! but mostly just "babygirl" Relationship Status: single Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: In the land of milk and honey!.. Posts: 358 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 406 Thanked 473 Times in 181 Posts Rep Power: 454632	how much losing 2.2 lbs really means to me __________________ *Lillie* *The most expensive jewels I ever wore around my neck was my child's arms* http://i195.photobucket.com/albums/z...orizontal3.jpg http://s338.photobucket.com/albums/n...sexy/00033.gif

09-30-2010, 01:29 AM	#12
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09-30-2010, 05:24 AM	#13
dixie Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: I usually just poke it with a stick. Preferred Pronoun?: Bitch Relationship Status: Intertwined deeply Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: We're all a little mad here. Posts: 6,627 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 10,972 Thanked 21,383 Times in 4,808 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	...I just don't do so well in cold weather anymore.

10-08-2010, 01:06 PM	#14
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10-09-2010, 07:04 AM	#15
Blade Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: TG Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: once in a while someone amazing comes along...and here I am! Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Down on the farm Posts: 5,501 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,855 Thanked 14,412 Times in 4,058 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	It doesn't matter if I sleep on the ground or in the bed my ole body hurts just as bad no matter where it wakes up at __________________ Yeah so what if I'm triple dipped in awesome sauce? The best way to predict the future, is to create it.

09-20-2010, 09:42 AM	#16
Wryly Member How Do You Identify?: bemused butch Preferred Pronoun?: polite ones, please Relationship Status: single butch Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: my little butch house Posts: 988 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,789 Thanked 1,568 Times in 620 Posts Rep Power: 14094254	. . . . . that I don't need all the "things" (material possessions) that I thought I did. . . . . . that getting rid of the clutter in my life is liberating. . . . . . that it is getting easier to walk away from people who claim to be a friend but act otherwise. . . . . . that Tootsie Rolls are a good any-time food. . . . . . that my heart may bruise but it hasn't stopped hoping.

09-29-2010, 12:18 PM	#17
squeak Junior Member How Do You Identify?: femme! Preferred Pronoun?: princess Relationship Status: making one butch sweat Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: hollywood, ca Posts: 30 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 10 Thanked 57 Times in 18 Posts Rep Power: 155233	TOIGTMIR: ... life doesn't always imitate TV. You haven't failed in your twenties just because you don't live in a high rise Manhattan apartment by yourself, with a huge closet filled with designer shoes, surrounded by equally successful friends who are always in the mood for a cocktail party where all of you magically have all this free time and no job stress. ... fish or cut bait. Don't sit around waiting for someone else to do something or recognize you. ... homecooking still wins hearts. xosqueak. Still wants all those shoes, though, don't get her wrong.

10-06-2010, 05:52 PM	#18
StillettoDoll Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Lady Relationship Status: single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Texas Posts: 2,824 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,779 Thanked 3,847 Times in 1,469 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	The older I get the more I realize just how "experienced" I am. And knowing and distinguishing on what really matters. __________________

10-06-2010, 07:59 PM	#19
rlin Member How Do You Identify?: human Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: nomad Posts: 712 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,450 Thanked 1,189 Times in 451 Posts Rep Power: 1004849	toigtmir: that half the battle is owning it. that honesty hurts less... every time. that i am only human after all. *that normal* is a myth perpetuated by the evil ones.** that there really are evil ones. and that i better do it today... never wait or hesitate.

10-06-2010, 09:53 PM	#20
paposeco Member How Do You Identify?: TG Male Preferred Pronoun?: he,him,sir,dood... Relationship Status: ISO my Queen... Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: ..is nice & peaceful. Posts: 272 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 286 Thanked 301 Times in 127 Posts Rep Power: 178137	Q & A ...that at 17 I thought I had all the right answers..now, I'm more interested in having all the right questions.