Gender Fluidity

[imperfect_cupcake]

Originally Posted by Rope

I'm not quite sure why being interested in your gender identity as a butch makes one obsessed.

It doesn't. I don't think that's what any of us meant.

What I *personally* find tiring and annoying is a constant reference to one's gender (femme or butch or man or woman) included in everything that is talked about. I have had evening with people who do this kind of thing.

for example inki gave this shy girl a compliment on her dress when we were at a genderqueer event, to acknowledge how much work she had put into her outfit and because she was standing next to us and she wanted to at least acknowledge her being there and to possibly draw her into the conversation.

M, who was standing next to inki said "when a butch compliments you, that means she wants a compliment back."
inki: "actually I don't care why you do things M, but leave me and my gender out of it, would you?"
everything M does is somehow in comparison to being butch. That's obsessed in my books.

when people constantly encase everything they do in their gender - which M does. As does one of our friends who is femme. femme femme femme femme this femme that.

But I'm getting off the topic of fluidity. apologies.