what NOT to do in a relationship.......

Delish · 08-17-2010, 10:00 PM

get into one!!!

Miss Scarlett · 08-18-2010, 04:37 AM

Unless it is the ONLY electrical outlet in the house, don't put your phone on the charger in another room and then get so engrossed watching music videos on You Tube that you fail to notice that several hours have passed since you should have received a call from someone.

Don't act like it was no big deal - especially since it was NOT the first time it happened.

Don't fail to apologize.

PearlsNLace · 08-18-2010, 07:16 PM

This one I learned the hard way-

Dont agree to monogamy, when you are really wanting polyamoury. And Vice Versa!!! The resentments that built on this choice had me doing 4th step work for m o n t h s. UGH.

chefhmboyrd · 09-07-2010, 10:23 AM

don't try to hide or cover up for something.
own up to it and apologize, then work on not letting it happen again.
nobody is perfect, but we can strive

Kobi · 09-07-2010, 11:15 AM

If I am totally engrossed in something that requires a lot of concentration, please do not interrupt me at 9am to ask me what I want for lunch.

Warning, football season starts Thursday night. Need I say more?

pajama · 09-07-2010, 12:37 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by PearlsNLace

This one I learned the hard way-

Dont agree to monogamy, when you are really wanting polyamoury. And Vice Versa!!! The resentments that built on this choice had me doing 4th step work for m o n t h s. UGH.

Amen! Amen! and AMEN! Sister.

miss entycing · 10-17-2010, 03:11 PM

don't flippin keep lying to me then expect me to believe anything you tell me later.
and don't get all bent when I remind you of the above either!

if we argue, don't throw it out there that someone else would treat you better-
really, if that's the case- then get your ass out and go get her.

and don't expect me to sit idly while you make up your mind about the above,
or while you play around with different versions of ME.
if you can.... then so will I.

don't take me for granted.... ever.

and for cripes sake.... don't eat all but 1 of the oreo's.
that's uncalled for.

Gentle Tiger · 10-17-2010, 04:53 PM

Don't go knockin' my pop tarts!

Ok seriously, don't yack my ear off as soon as I come through the door. I need a few minutes to breathe, go to the bathroom or whatever before I am ready to engage and listen.

bigbutchmistie · 10-17-2010, 04:53 PM

Dont make me your option and everything and everyone else your priority... I will walk every time

Dont get denfensive when I try and talk to you about problems.

Never ever hold affection or sex over my head as a form of punishment cause you are mad at me...

When I try and be affectionate with you never ever turn me away.

Dont ever get jealous of my femme friends. They were here before you got here and will always be around. I do however know how to make YOU priority as my girl. And you will never feel less than MOST important in my life.

Do not physically or emotionally abuse me or attempt to make me feel less than in any way. Talk down to me or scream at me too and I will walk away in a heartbeat

Dont white lie or lie. Tell me straight up. If you are my best friend and Im with you there should be no lies or white lies between us. I should trust you without reservation or question

Dont cheat emotionally or physically.

Soft*Silver · 10-17-2010, 05:24 PM

dont play me as a fool. Dont misjudge how many brain cells I have active...or rely on how much leeway your charm will buy you. The days are long gone where I abide to be with someone who will do either with me

dont tell me what to say or do or wear. I let one person in my life do that. And looking back, he wore stained clothes, smelled like manure and spouted hateful things against minorities most of the time. Again, the days are long gone where I abide to be with someone who will do this to me again.

08-17-2010, 10:00 PM	#1
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09-07-2010, 10:23 AM	#4
chefhmboyrd Senior Member How Do You Identify?: man Preferred Pronoun?: beef Relationship Status: Uncle Daddy Snap Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: nashvegas Posts: 1,607 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,411 Thanked 2,846 Times in 898 Posts Rep Power: 14271905	don't try to hide or cover up for something. own up to it and apologize, then work on not letting it happen again. nobody is perfect, but we can strive __________________ what's a cowboy got to do to get a drink around here?

10-17-2010, 03:11 PM	#7
miss entycing Senior Member How Do You Identify?: dangerous, but worth the risk. Preferred Pronoun?: just be nice.. it's that easy. Relationship Status: CapitalM's carved upon my skin. Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: on the southern edge of sanity, under a carolina moon. Posts: 3,276 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,341 Thanked 8,262 Times in 2,254 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	don't flippin keep lying to me then expect me to believe anything you tell me later. and don't get all bent when I remind you of the above either! if we argue, don't throw it out there that someone else would treat you better- really, if that's the case- then get your ass out and go get her. and don't expect me to sit idly while you make up your mind about the above, or while you play around with different versions of ME. if you can.... then so will I. don't take me for granted.... ever. and for cripes sake.... don't eat all but 1 of the oreo's. that's uncalled for. __________________ True strength lies in submission which permits one to dedicate their life, through devotion, to something beyond themselves. Whenever someone awakens fully, it affects human consciousness at a collective level. It is like dropping a stone into a dark murky pond. Ripples of light... Not one word need be spoken.

10-17-2010, 04:53 PM	#8
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10-17-2010, 04:53 PM	#9
bigbutchmistie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Since You Need A Label. Butch Relationship Status: Still Dreaming Of My Happily Ever After Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Arlington Texas Posts: 4,009 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,950 Thanked 5,364 Times in 1,941 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Dont make me your option and everything and everyone else your priority... I will walk every time Dont get denfensive when I try and talk to you about problems. Never ever hold affection or sex over my head as a form of punishment cause you are mad at me... When I try and be affectionate with you never ever turn me away. Dont ever get jealous of my femme friends. They were here before you got here and will always be around. I do however know how to make YOU priority as my girl. And you will never feel less than MOST important in my life. Do not physically or emotionally abuse me or attempt to make me feel less than in any way. Talk down to me or scream at me too and I will walk away in a heartbeat Dont white lie or lie. Tell me straight up. If you are my best friend and Im with you there should be no lies or white lies between us. I should trust you without reservation or question Dont cheat emotionally or physically. Last edited by bigbutchmistie; 10-17-2010 at 05:08 PM.

08-18-2010, 04:37 AM	#2
Miss Scarlett Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Relationship Status: . Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: . Posts: 5,530 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,478 Thanked 12,947 Times in 3,419 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Unless it is the ONLY electrical outlet in the house, don't put your phone on the charger in another room and then get so engrossed watching music videos on You Tube that you fail to notice that several hours have passed since you should have received a call from someone. Don't act like it was no big deal - especially since it was NOT the first time it happened. Don't fail to apologize.

08-18-2010, 07:16 PM	#3
PearlsNLace Member How Do You Identify?: queer Preferred Pronoun?: They/Them & her/she Relationship Status: Lucky, very lucky Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Portlandia, Oregon Posts: 427 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 875 Thanked 1,286 Times in 315 Posts Rep Power: 6505517	This one I learned the hard way- Dont agree to monogamy, when you are really wanting polyamoury. And Vice Versa!!! The resentments that built on this choice had me doing 4th step work for m o n t h s. UGH.

09-07-2010, 11:15 AM	#5
Kobi Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Biological female. Lesbian. Relationship Status: Happy Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Hanging out in the Atlantic. Posts: 9,234 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,840 Thanked 34,622 Times in 7,640 Posts Rep Power: 21474861	If I am totally engrossed in something that requires a lot of concentration, please do not interrupt me at 9am to ask me what I want for lunch. Warning, football season starts Thursday night. Need I say more?

10-17-2010, 05:24 PM	#10
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,592 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,904 Times in 4,062 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	dont play me as a fool. Dont misjudge how many brain cells I have active...or rely on how much leeway your charm will buy you. The days are long gone where I abide to be with someone who will do either with me dont tell me what to say or do or wear. I let one person in my life do that. And looking back, he wore stained clothes, smelled like manure and spouted hateful things against minorities most of the time. Again, the days are long gone where I abide to be with someone who will do this to me again. __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears