If You Could Turn Back Time, What Would You Do Differently?

[Laerkin]

In all honesty, I wouldn't change a thing because all my fumbles have led me here and I'm very happy.

Of course, looking back there are a few things I could have done better:

- I would have lost my V card to that UBER hottie in high school and had the most insane bragging rights ever. Lol

- I would have spent more time learning from my grandparents and listening to their Stories. Too late I found out how interesting their journeys were.

- And maybe I could have spent a little more time putting myself first every once in awhile.

But no regrets. Just musings.

[turasultana]

would have bought that damn one bedroom duplex on Norfolk street for 70K 15 years ago. its worth half a million now. dammit.

[miss entycing]

I woulda said yes yesterday when SD would have come kidnapped me to go to to the reunion- had I of known that Damon would have let me go alone!
dammmmiiitttttttttt


now where's that damn turn back button??????????????

[sweetfemme247]

I would of never said hello to that person who hurt me so many times in my life

[Leigh]

I would have graduated when I was supposed to, not seven years later and I would have kept a job long enough to move out and actually have a life ............ but even with that said, I know that I wasn't ready back then to do any of that so things happened for a reason and I accept it now!

[T D]

I would NOT have gotten involved in poly relationships

AND

I would NOT have left that relationship 12 years ago... Hindsight is an interesting thing at the very least!!

What's done is done, but the repercussion from our actions sometimes last a lifetime.

[Passionaria]

I would be true to myself, to my inner knowing. Every time I have not, I have gotten hurt.

I have trusted unwisely. When I see the warning signs, of people who's behavior is hurtful, I would keep walking and never look back, rather than giving them a chance.....

I acknowledge responsibility for my choices, even though at times I have hurt myself. Given a second chance I would do better.

Our self worth, and how we share the beauty of our soul, is all we really own in this life. And it's worth a lot.

[skeeter_01]

I would have allowed myself to come out at a MUCH younger age..I wouldn't have waited so long..I wouldn't have lied to myself about WHO I was/am..

I would have gone back with my ex when she tried to get us back together...

but things happen the way they do for a reason...and I am lovin' life now adays!!

[Kätzchen]

Scorp??? Where are you lately??? I hope everything is okay in your world! Miss seeing you around here!

This subject is very deep for me...

My belief was (in the past): that I regretted parts of my life that I certainly, in my opinion, didn't have much control over. I spent a lot of energy 'regetting' incidents in my past. I don't do that anymore - better said - it wasn't until a year or so ago that I was able to let myself not regret my past - things that have ultimately become a part of my identity; things that have long been tied to my rationale (how I make sense of my world).

My belief now: is connected toward a deeper understanding that I have done the best I can do, did the best that I could do, in my life and as I rise to greet any new day... I know that I have a set of skills that helps me to faciliate situations (or problematic issues): If I don't know what to do, I turn to any number of close, personal friends to help me find a solution that works better than I could ever come up with on my own. Also, I know that I am human - that we're all (speaking in general terms) human in our abilities to solve our situations and in my life right now? I feel that where I am at, in my life experiences, etc., is rooted in my ability to make the best decision that I am capable of making - given that I am prone to not know all the answers, etc.

I know that years ago when I was earning my bachelor's degree, I took a psychology class - I believe it was social psychology - and I read something by Carl Rogers that has stayed with me, since I learned about it. It's the idea that as we age, we sometimes remember things in our lives that cause us heartache and because, seemingly, socio-cultural constructs (and in particular contexts) we pick up on messages in our environments that cue us to feel shame or feel guilt or feel any number of things that cause us to feel like we haven't taken or make the best choices in life. And, as Carl Rogers was arguing, that we come to a place in our lives where we come to terms with our past and learn to let go of what we could or should or would have done (Sunwolf, 2006 theory - the "Shoulda, Coulda, Woulda's") and I have to say that it feels good to accept myself in all my glory and know that if it were not for my past learning experiences, I definately would not be who I am today.

I'm a sweet lady, a wonderful human being and one hell of a Femme.

I love me, I like me and I have earned the right to say that I'm okay - just like I am.

Lots of beautiful love to all,
~D

[Leader]

Like the myriad of other posters here, I am who I am in large part by the paths I did or did not take in life (good or bad), and I'm exactly where I need to be right here, right now.

That said, there are a thousand things I'd like to have done differently, out of curiosity or to learn or to just experience something different. But who knows, maybe that's already happening, in another dimension, another Universe, another lifetime.

The more I learn, the less I know...

[Scorp]

Hi Lovely,

I'm right here. Just been busy and pre-occupied with some stuff, bla bla bla...but i'm back..


Thanks for sharing your story and yes you are ~~> "a sweet lady, a wonderful human being and one hell of a Femme"!

Originally Posted by ALovelyKiss

Scorp??? Where are you lately??? I hope everything is okay in your world! Miss seeing you around here!

This subject is very deep for me...

My belief was (in the past): that I regretted parts of my life that I certainly, in my opinion, didn't have much control over. I spent a lot of energy 'regetting' incidents in my past. I don't do that anymore - better said - it wasn't until a year or so ago that I was able to let myself not regret my past - things that have ultimately become a part of my identity; things that have long been tied to my rationale (how I make sense of my world).

My belief now: is connected toward a deeper understanding that I have done the best I can do, did the best that I could do, in my life and as I rise to greet any new day... I know that I have a set of skills that helps me to faciliate situations (or problematic issues): If I don't know what to do, I turn to any number of close, personal friends to help me find a solution that works better than I could ever come up with on my own. Also, I know that I am human - that we're all (speaking in general terms) human in our abilities to solve our situations and in my life right now? I feel that where I am at, in my life experiences, etc., is rooted in my ability to make the best decision that I am capable of making - given that I am prone to not know all the answers, etc.

I know that years ago when I was earning my bachelor's degree, I took a psychology class - I believe it was social psychology - and I read something by Carl Rogers that has stayed with me, since I learned about it. It's the idea that as we age, we sometimes remember things in our lives that cause us heartache and because, seemingly, socio-cultural constructs (and in particular contexts) we pick up on messages in our environments that cue us to feel shame or feel guilt or feel any number of things that cause us to feel like we haven't taken or make the best choices in life. And, as Carl Rogers was arguing, that we come to a place in our lives where we come to terms with our past and learn to let go of what we could or should or would have done (Sunwolf, 2006 theory - the "Shoulda, Coulda, Woulda's") and I have to say that it feels good to accept myself in all my glory and know that if it were not for my past learning experiences, I definately would not be who I am today.

I'm a sweet lady, a wonderful human being and one hell of a Femme.

I love me, I like me and I have earned the right to say that I'm okay - just like I am.

Lots of beautiful love to all,
~D