Stressed OUT!?!

nicetgurl_30 · 09-02-2010, 04:09 AM

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Umm I work with elementary kids who go through this a lot. Of course there r web sites u can go to but a really good way to open things up just ask them. A good book is dinosaurs divorcE. Help them identify maybe if their tummy hurts after an argument it means this....or ask them what they think it means.
Happy, sad,mad,scared? Then go from there.

QUOTE=Stearns;148911]An acrimonious divorce between my brother and sister-in-law. Worry over how my niece and nephews (6, 7 and 9 y/o) are being affected. My brother saying things to them about their mom; the emotional abuse he heaps upon her. He is unreachable, unreasonable, unrepentant. My nephew throwing up after witnessing a horrific argument. Mental picture of the three of them huddled in the car, watching. Wondering what I can do, if I can do more. Regret at having moved - though only a state away - so far away. If I had only known.[/QUOTE]

Miss Scarlett · 09-02-2010, 04:45 AM

Just when I think the stress levels are dropping...

I work in family law. Sometimes we have a person call for an appointment and when I do the conflict check it pops up immediately. Sometimes it doesn't. It all hinges on the information provided by the client or prospective client and I don't read minds.

When I have to tell someone there is a conflict and we cannot meet with them I walk a very fine line because what I say cannot reveal confidential client information. I cannot tell someone "I'm sorry but Ms Attorney cannot meet with you. We have a conflict of interest because we have already met with your spouse." Being able to say that certainly would make my job easier. But no can do. When I do find a conflict I have to tell the prospective client "I'm sorry Ms. Attorney is unable to meet with you" and leave it at that. They ask me for more information and all I can tell them is that my attorney cannot meet with them.

Yesterday I discovered a conflict before a potential client came into the office. After discussing it with my attorney the appointment was cancelled giving the usual cryptic explanation. The stress came to roost when a family member called demanding an explanation then called back screaming and I do mean SCREAMING at me about the situation and demanding an explanation.

I gave the message to my boss and she will deal with it. I dread the phone and my office email today. Not looking forward to another tirade. Taking this personally is not something I do, but it is still an extremely unpleasant experience.

I keep repeating to myself something my Mom said when I worked for her:
"An attorney is not a bus. She doesn't have to stop and pick up every stray on the street."

Looking forward to 9/12 when this retrograde ends.

butchboi1999 · 09-02-2010, 05:06 AM

Wow, I am at this moment unbelievable stressed and angry. I feel like my partner lectures me on a lot of things. I lost my job two years ago when the company closed. Since then I have turned into a full time student and am working on two degrees. My partner is pissed because I am not working part time as well. It is not that I haven't tried, maybe I haven't tried hard enough. I get unemployment, so its not like I don't have money. Part of me thinks that she feels that it is unfair that I just come home and sit around all day while she has to work. Sure I come home, but I clean the house, prepare dinner, take care of the animals and I do school work. I am tired a lot because I have sleep apnea that is not under control (waiting for a doctor), so I have barely any energy. Gawd, I just feel this rage inside me, but I have learned to turn it into a cry, so I will just sit here and whimper.

lipstixgal · 09-02-2010, 07:28 AM

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Originally Posted by butchboi1999

Wow, I am at this moment unbelievable stressed and angry. I feel like my partner lectures me on a lot of things. I lost my job two years ago when the company closed. Since then I have turned into a full time student and am working on two degrees. My partner is pissed because I am not working part time as well. It is not that I haven't tried, maybe I haven't tried hard enough. I get unemployment, so its not like I don't have money. Part of me thinks that she feels that it is unfair that I just come home and sit around all day while she has to work. Sure I come home, but I clean the house, prepare dinner, take care of the animals and I do school work. I am tired a lot because I have sleep apnea that is not under control (waiting for a doctor), so I have barely any energy. Gawd, I just feel this rage inside me, but I have learned to turn it into a cry, so I will just sit here and whimper.

Maybe you should try and talk about things that always helps some but I think once you get your sleep apnea under control you will feel lots better. Good Luck with school!! its a tough journey

Kenna · 11-22-2010, 11:12 AM

Mom had her first stress-related stroke at the age of 40. .... I'm nearly 40 and, so far, have followed her footsteps with the Lupus.... wonder, given the situation, what the chances are for other similarities? It's something that's always on my mind.

Apocalipstic · 11-22-2010, 11:24 AM

Thanksgiving

morningstar55 · 11-22-2010, 12:21 PM

ok i dont know about all of you... but.......
trucking can be stressful.. in the past 4 yrs i lost my hair.. some of you know the story..... then it would grow bk only to last a few months then fall out again.... well this past spring of 2010 .. i started taking this stuff from Oxyfresh and also became a seller of it.....
my hair has been hanging in there all yr.. and still growing and staying put.
Ya'll have NO idea how it makes me feel ......
i ran out of " Primorye® Stress Relief Plus"
about 4 weeks ago and gawwd..... i can tell the difference... inside... i dont feel as focused... and feel way to stressed over things.. soo i have some arriving while im home and get bk on it........
i think its a great thing for those with ADHD ..ADD .... seriously speaking.
its all natural ,

check it out.........

http://www.oxyfresh.com/nutrition/

Blade · 02-08-2011, 07:29 AM

Yeah I'm stressed out, to start with I left work about 30 minutes late yesterday and all of our foremen from all our shifts were upstairs in the managers office....that usually isn't a good sign. Last time this happened they cut our hours. I can't stand anymore revenue cuts.

Today I have to go to the lawyers office and I am not prepared. Not like me to not be prepared but for some reason I'm not able to get together the information I need to have a productive meeting today.

morningstar55 · 02-08-2011, 07:23 PM

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Originally Posted by morningstar55

ok i dont know about all of you... but.......
trucking can be stressful.. in the past 4 yrs i lost my hair.. some of you know the story..... then it would grow bk only to last a few months then fall out again.... well this past spring of 2010 .. i started taking this stuff from Oxyfresh and also became a seller of it.....
my hair has been hanging in there all yr.. and still growing and staying put.
Ya'll have NO idea how it makes me feel ......
i ran out of " Primorye® Stress Relief Plus"
about 4 weeks ago and gawwd..... i can tell the difference... inside... i dont feel as focused... and feel way to stressed over things.. soo i have some arriving while im home and get bk on it........
i think its a great thing for those with ADHD ..ADD .... seriously speaking.
its all natural ,

check it out.........

http://www.oxyfresh.com/nutrition/

this is really some awsome stuff........... hope some of you all will give it a try.

ruthie14 · 02-08-2011, 07:27 PM

Let's just say...YES!!!

Gemme · 11-22-2010, 07:36 PM

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Originally Posted by dark_crystal

k long story short: the library building has been closed for HVAC upgrade. We have been running limited services out of the foyer and only needed about half of our usual staff. To make up payroll, each staff member was given 1 day of administrative leave and one day to work from home.

The work was finished Wednesday, but the decision was made to remain on limited service until our original planned reopening (today)

I did my work at home day this past Friday. My supervisor and i discussed this in detail, as my junior assistant came down with an ear infection on thursday and had to miss 2 days of work. I said "I am supposed to work at home tomorrow, but i can come in if i need to," "No, no, no," she said, "we have it covered"

This morning my boss came and told me- as a "heads up"- that i should have come in. The director told her that work at home days were only approved while the building was in transition, and that once the work was done i should have known that all previous arrangements were off.

"Butbutbut" i said, "the work was finished on Wednesday- i confirmed with you on Thursday! Why am i finding out on Monday that i am in trouble for an assumption i never thought to make on Wednesday- esp when you we talked about it on Thursday???!!!"

Her (exasperated) "You're not in trouble Jenny. I am just letting you know how the director's thought process works so you'll know better than to do this again.

"Do what??? Work at home because you specifically told me i could???"

"Just forget it, Jenny"

Document, document, document.

Seriously.

It's better to be prepared in case something does come up later than to be caught unaware.

sylvie · 01-27-2011, 10:53 AM

my father's alcoholism, and his inability to get it under control. and although i know i can't make the changes for him..
and i know the right thing to do, was to step back and not enable him.
but the constant guilt consumes me, because i want him well, and know i can't save him, but i feel like stepping back isn't doing everything for him i 'should' be.. but i know this is the wrong thinking.. and i push myself daily to not get too consumed with this.. but the guilt still overwhelms me, daily..
and of course, i'm scared to friggin' death for his health..

=(

Gemme · 01-27-2011, 08:43 PM

Relearning my job over and over, day in and day out, is becoming extremely stressful so, yes, I am.

dixie · 01-27-2011, 08:48 PM

"I just read somewhere that stress makes you smarter... If that's true I should be splitting an atom in my kitchen sink sometime later today!"

09-02-2010, 04:09 AM	#1
nicetgurl_30 Member How Do You Identify?: Woman Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: AR Posts: 133 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 122 Thanked 214 Times in 89 Posts Rep Power: 295940	The D-word [ Umm I work with elementary kids who go through this a lot. Of course there r web sites u can go to but a really good way to open things up just ask them. A good book is dinosaurs divorcE. Help them identify maybe if their tummy hurts after an argument it means this....or ask them what they think it means. Happy, sad,mad,scared? Then go from there. QUOTE=Stearns;148911]An acrimonious divorce between my brother and sister-in-law. Worry over how my niece and nephews (6, 7 and 9 y/o) are being affected. My brother saying things to them about their mom; the emotional abuse he heaps upon her. He is unreachable, unreasonable, unrepentant. My nephew throwing up after witnessing a horrific argument. Mental picture of the three of them huddled in the car, watching. Wondering what I can do, if I can do more. Regret at having moved - though only a state away - so far away. If I had only known.[/QUOTE]

09-02-2010, 04:45 AM	#2
Miss Scarlett Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Relationship Status: . Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: . Posts: 5,530 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,478 Thanked 12,947 Times in 3,419 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Just when I think the stress levels are dropping... I work in family law. Sometimes we have a person call for an appointment and when I do the conflict check it pops up immediately. Sometimes it doesn't. It all hinges on the information provided by the client or prospective client and I don't read minds. When I have to tell someone there is a conflict and we cannot meet with them I walk a very fine line because what I say cannot reveal confidential client information. I cannot tell someone "I'm sorry but Ms Attorney cannot meet with you. We have a conflict of interest because we have already met with your spouse." Being able to say that certainly would make my job easier. But no can do. When I do find a conflict I have to tell the prospective client "I'm sorry Ms. Attorney is unable to meet with you" and leave it at that. They ask me for more information and all I can tell them is that my attorney cannot meet with them. Yesterday I discovered a conflict before a potential client came into the office. After discussing it with my attorney the appointment was cancelled giving the usual cryptic explanation. The stress came to roost when a family member called demanding an explanation then called back screaming and I do mean SCREAMING at me about the situation and demanding an explanation. I gave the message to my boss and she will deal with it. I dread the phone and my office email today. Not looking forward to another tirade. Taking this personally is not something I do, but it is still an extremely unpleasant experience. I keep repeating to myself something my Mom said when I worked for her: "An attorney is not a bus. She doesn't have to stop and pick up every stray on the street." Looking forward to 9/12 when this retrograde ends. Last edited by Miss Scarlett; 09-02-2010 at 04:52 AM. Reason: Received citation from Grammar Police

11-22-2010, 11:24 AM	#6
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morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	ok i dont know about all of you... but....... trucking can be stressful.. in the past 4 yrs i lost my hair.. some of you know the story..... then it would grow bk only to last a few months then fall out again.... well this past spring of 2010 .. i started taking this stuff from Oxyfresh and also became a seller of it..... my hair has been hanging in there all yr.. and still growing and staying put. Ya'll have NO idea how it makes me feel ...... i ran out of " Primorye® Stress Relief Plus" about 4 weeks ago and gawwd..... i can tell the difference... inside... i dont feel as focused... and feel way to stressed over things.. soo i have some arriving while im home and get bk on it........ i think its a great thing for those with ADHD ..ADD .... seriously speaking. its all natural , check it out......... http://www.oxyfresh.com/nutrition/ __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

02-08-2011, 07:29 AM	#8
Blade Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: TG Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: once in a while someone amazing comes along...and here I am! Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Down on the farm Posts: 5,501 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,855 Thanked 14,412 Times in 4,058 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Yeah I'm stressed out, to start with I left work about 30 minutes late yesterday and all of our foremen from all our shifts were upstairs in the managers office....that usually isn't a good sign. Last time this happened they cut our hours. I can't stand anymore revenue cuts. Today I have to go to the lawyers office and I am not prepared. Not like me to not be prepared but for some reason I'm not able to get together the information I need to have a productive meeting today. __________________ Yeah so what if I'm triple dipped in awesome sauce? The best way to predict the future, is to create it.

09-02-2010, 05:06 AM	#3
butchboi1999 Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Outlaw Preferred Pronoun?: Whatever Relationship Status: I have a beloved Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Western Mass Posts: 12 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1 Thanked 11 Times in 7 Posts Rep Power: 92	Wow, I am at this moment unbelievable stressed and angry. I feel like my partner lectures me on a lot of things. I lost my job two years ago when the company closed. Since then I have turned into a full time student and am working on two degrees. My partner is pissed because I am not working part time as well. It is not that I haven't tried, maybe I haven't tried hard enough. I get unemployment, so its not like I don't have money. Part of me thinks that she feels that it is unfair that I just come home and sit around all day while she has to work. Sure I come home, but I clean the house, prepare dinner, take care of the animals and I do school work. I am tired a lot because I have sleep apnea that is not under control (waiting for a doctor), so I have barely any energy. Gawd, I just feel this rage inside me, but I have learned to turn it into a cry, so I will just sit here and whimper.

11-22-2010, 11:12 AM	#5
Kenna Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Fiery, Sassy, Tough As Nails, Femme Tomboy Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: I am your favorite hello and hardest goodbye. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NC & CO Posts: 4,806 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,624 Thanked 12,191 Times in 3,779 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Mom had her first stress-related stroke at the age of 40. .... I'm nearly 40 and, so far, have followed her footsteps with the Lupus.... wonder, given the situation, what the chances are for other similarities? It's something that's always on my mind.

02-08-2011, 07:27 PM	#10
ruthie14 Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: NJ Posts: 844 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,904 Thanked 1,245 Times in 461 Posts Rep Power: 5946335	Let's just say...YES!!!

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01-27-2011, 08:43 PM	#13
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