What do you prefer to be called on the site?

Greyson · 09-02-2010, 11:15 AM

Greyson or Grey. One person refers to me as "Gayson." I find it offensive only because I suspect his use of it is queerphobic. I have no issue with my gender nor sexuality.

Corkey · 09-02-2010, 11:22 AM

Corkey or Cork are fine with me, but please leave the cutsey shit off the end. I'm not that kind of guy to be calling cutsie names, it may come back to bite one in the rear end. As my wife uses Corkey when she is ticked at me and needs the first middle and last names to grab my attention she is the only one allowed to do so. It's called boundaries, I haz them.

betenoire · 09-02-2010, 11:31 AM

Really it depends on who it talking to me. Different people get to call me different things.

Brandy is always a safe bet. As is Potty. Bete works. Bête noire if you've got a bitchin' French accent.

Never Bran or Brand or Pots, thanks.

Arwen · 09-02-2010, 11:26 AM

Arwen. Ar.

My given name is Stephanie. That's what my mother and father named me. Some folks still prefer that over Arwen and that's okay.

Just do not shorten it to Stephie. I hate that with a passion. Steph I can handle but Stephie sends me right over the edge.

And, just so you know, I don't think it's cute to tease me about it. At all. One of my triggers and you will get a curt response. If you are lucky, I'll send it back channel.

Of course, darlin' is always good.

BullDog · 09-02-2010, 11:29 AM

BullDog, Bully or Jules. I also don't mind other terms of endearment when they are good natured.

As to my gender I am butch and/or butch woman. I do not use female identified butch- which I find to be very jargony and seems to be used because of male identified being used. So for those who prefer female identified butch that's fine and I will refer to you that way, but it does not refer to me.

Leigh · 09-02-2010, 11:36 AM

Since this thread was created, I think its as good a time as any to mention what it is that we prefer to be called. I've used Braedon for a long while and thats what everyone online knows Me as, but since I will soon be transitioning I have chosen a permanent male name that I will change it to legally when I can afford it:

Matthew Alexander

Those who prefer Braedon can still call Me that, though I'd prefer Matthew or Matt if that can be arranged. Other then that, I'm all good as long as you don't call Me late for dinner

ravfem · 09-03-2010, 08:28 AM

i'm rav, ravvie (ravvie poo to Pink), rev to the typonese

rhonda is my given name.
i don't really care what you call me, as long as it's not mean.
i'm easy like that

betenoire · 09-03-2010, 08:32 AM

Not relevant to this site, but I wanted to put out there that I have a coworker who calls me "Brandy-Girl" and it makes me want to slash her tires.

cane · 09-03-2010, 10:05 AM

Don't really care as long as it's not female oriented or mean. But how about Cane...?

oneye · 09-04-2010, 02:05 AM

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Originally Posted by betenoire

Not relevant to this site, but I wanted to put out there that I have a coworker who calls me "Brandy-Girl" and it makes me want to slash her tires.

*wondering if i should break out into THE song?*

betenoire · 09-04-2010, 08:32 AM

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Originally Posted by oneye

*wondering if i should break out into THE song?*

What song? I just woke up so I have no idea what song. It's either the song my father named me after, or my new smash hit "stop humping up on me", though.

BullDog · 09-03-2010, 10:35 AM

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Originally Posted by Jackhammer

I'm a female butch, my wife is a femme women. Thats how I choose to roll and it doesn't have ANYTHING to do with how others choose to identify.
To some of us female and women are different.

I said that was my personal preference, and that for myself do not want to be referred that way and I don't like the term. I never heard of female identified or male identified until I came online. I also said I would use it for those who do like it.

pajama · 09-03-2010, 10:40 AM

Ana
A
Bitch/Whore
And whatever a select few wish to call me....

BullDog · 09-03-2010, 11:27 AM

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Originally Posted by Jackhammer

BullDog
I am asking you from this point on that if you want members to respect your identity, that you leave out the value judgments (the whole jargony and assumptions) when referring to how other people identify.
It comes off as judgmental and intolerant and that is not the kind of space we are trying to create here.

I said that is how it feels to me. I also said I would refer to others how they want to be called. The topic of the thread is how do you like to be called on the site. People constantly refer to me as female identified and I am clarifying that I would prefer people didn't refer that way to me. I don't consider it to be an umbrella term that I fall under.

Arwen · 09-03-2010, 11:55 AM

I've decided that y'all can call me a few other things.

Never late for dinner
Friend indeed
Goddess Arwen Spectacularia
Empress of All She Surveys...and then some
Purveyor of Perfectly Palpable Porn
Poodle Pillow Princess

SFFemmePrincess · 09-03-2010, 12:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Arwen

Purveyor of Perfectly Palpable Porn

I LOVE IT! Most people call me Rain here, or Rainbow, I think I have been refered to as Logic's girl a couple times. And some people call me Eeyore. I think there are still a few that refer to me as RodeoClown, which was my nickname for a long time, but now there are only a few that use it. A couple of people have the priviledge of calling me pookie, kitten, or muffin.

He calls me Bella, Princess, BabyGirl, and a few other pet names.

I too really don't care what people call me as long as its not mean. My real name is Sarah, but it's rarely used online. I'm kinda fond of Rain and Eeyore and am not really sure why when I was choosing online names I didn't have something with Eeyore in it. But its all good...

Isadora · 09-04-2010, 04:10 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Arwen

I've decided that y'all can call me a few other things.

Never late for dinner
Friend indeed
Goddess Arwen Spectacularia
Empress of All She Surveys...and then some
Purveyor of Perfectly Palpable Porn
Poodle Pillow Princess

I like Goddess Arwen Spectacularia. It is a long signature though and a mouthful.

waxnrope · 09-02-2010, 11:31 AM

I chose a stupid site name, and now get called, "wax." As long as it is not ear ...
Also been called bastard, but that is reserved for special folk.
Just call me Terry, if you remember. Otherwise, whatever. It's only nether space after all.

betenoire · 09-02-2010, 11:33 AM

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Originally Posted by waxnrope

I chose a stupid site name, and now get called, "wax." As long as it is not ear ...
Also been called bastard, but that is reserved for special folk.
Just call me Terry, if you remember. Otherwise, whatever. It's only nether space after all.

You can get Linus to change your screen name if you're not happy with the one you picked.

turasultana · 09-02-2010, 11:36 AM

i get turasultana, tura, tura tura.

all fine. Hey sultana is fine too.

Laura is my actual name. that's fine by me too. although if i don't know you and you say it, i'll probably totally forget that I posted it and be confused for a minute.

09-02-2010, 11:15 AM	#1
Greyson Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Transmasculine/Non-Binary Preferred Pronoun?: Hy (Pronounced He) Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: SF Bay Area Posts: 6,589 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,132 Thanked 8,146 Times in 2,005 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	Greyson or Grey. One person refers to me as "Gayson." I find it offensive only because I suspect his use of it is queerphobic. I have no issue with my gender nor sexuality. __________________ Sometimes you don't realize your own strength until you come face to face with your greatest weakness. - Susan Gale

09-02-2010, 11:22 AM	#2
Corkey Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Human Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Very Married Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Where I want to be Posts: 8,155 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 47,491 Thanked 29,268 Times in 6,637 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	Corkey or Cork are fine with me, but please leave the cutsey shit off the end. I'm not that kind of guy to be calling cutsie names, it may come back to bite one in the rear end. As my wife uses Corkey when she is ticked at me and needs the first middle and last names to grab my attention she is the only one allowed to do so. It's called boundaries, I haz them. __________________ "Many proposals have been made to us to adopt your laws, your religion, your manners and your customs. We would be better pleased with beholding the good effects of these doctrines in your own practices, than with hearing you talk about them". ~Old Tassel, Chief of the Tsalagi (Cherokee)

09-02-2010, 11:31 AM	#3
betenoire Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Satan in a Sunday Hat Preferred Pronoun?: Maow Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: The Chemical Valley Posts: 4,086 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,312 Thanked 8,739 Times in 2,566 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Really it depends on who it talking to me. Different people get to call me different things. Brandy is always a safe bet. As is Potty. Bete works. Bête noire if you've got a bitchin' French accent. Never Bran or Brand or Pots, thanks. __________________ bête noire \bet-NWAHR\, noun: One that is particularly disliked or that is to be avoided.

09-02-2010, 11:26 AM	#4
Arwen Joy Seeker How Do You Identify?: Smartly-Flavored Preferred Pronoun?: Goddess Relationship Status: Mrs. Syzygy 1/9/14 Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Joyville, NM (aka Land of Enchantment) Posts: 10,140 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,636 Thanked 28,107 Times in 6,411 Posts Rep Power: 21474863	Arwen. Ar. My given name is Stephanie. That's what my mother and father named me. Some folks still prefer that over Arwen and that's okay. Just do not shorten it to Stephie. I hate that with a passion. Steph I can handle but Stephie sends me right over the edge. And, just so you know, I don't think it's cute to tease me about it. At all. One of my triggers and you will get a curt response. If you are lucky, I'll send it back channel. Of course, darlin' is always good. __________________ I wrote a book, y'all! *FREE* Tarotscopes Seek Joy, y'all. Eschew hate. 9Words: A Poetry Challenge \| Do you like me?

09-02-2010, 11:29 AM	#5
BullDog Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Dominant Stone Butch Daddy Preferred Pronoun?: She Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: In A Healing Place Posts: 5,371 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 18,160 Thanked 22,640 Times in 4,463 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	BullDog, Bully or Jules. I also don't mind other terms of endearment when they are good natured. As to my gender I am butch and/or butch woman. I do not use female identified butch- which I find to be very jargony and seems to be used because of male identified being used. So for those who prefer female identified butch that's fine and I will refer to you that way, but it does not refer to me. __________________ Love consists in this, that two solitudes protect and touch and greet each other. - Rainer Maria Rilke

09-02-2010, 11:36 AM	#6
Leigh Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, etc Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 7,767 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,029 Thanked 13,024 Times in 4,784 Posts Rep Power: 21474860	Since this thread was created, I think its as good a time as any to mention what it is that we prefer to be called. I've used Braedon for a long while and thats what everyone online knows Me as, but since I will soon be transitioning I have chosen a permanent male name that I will change it to legally when I can afford it: Matthew Alexander Those who prefer Braedon can still call Me that, though I'd prefer Matthew or Matt if that can be arranged. Other then that, I'm all good as long as you don't call Me late for dinner

09-03-2010, 08:28 AM	#7
ravfem Senior Member How Do You Identify?: i'm a girl Relationship Status: negative Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Georgia Posts: 1,811 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,239 Thanked 3,125 Times in 1,270 Posts Rep Power: 1969286	i'm rav, ravvie (ravvie poo to Pink), rev to the typonese rhonda is my given name. i don't really care what you call me, as long as it's not mean. i'm easy like that __________________

09-03-2010, 08:32 AM	#8
betenoire Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Satan in a Sunday Hat Preferred Pronoun?: Maow Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: The Chemical Valley Posts: 4,086 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,312 Thanked 8,739 Times in 2,566 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Not relevant to this site, but I wanted to put out there that I have a coworker who calls me "Brandy-Girl" and it makes me want to slash her tires. __________________ bête noire \bet-NWAHR\, noun: One that is particularly disliked or that is to be avoided.

09-03-2010, 10:05 AM	#9
cane Member How Do You Identify?: male identified butch Relationship Status: Married Join Date: May 2010 Location: Sweden Posts: 294 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 119 Thanked 357 Times in 122 Posts Rep Power: 1030324	Don't really care as long as it's not female oriented or mean. But how about Cane...? __________________ "Vivamus, mea Lesbia, atque amemus"

09-03-2010, 10:40 AM	#13
pajama Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Klingon Preferred Pronoun?: She Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Just South of Nashvegas Baby Posts: 3,115 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 7,546 Thanked 7,476 Times in 1,808 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Ana A Bitch/Whore And whatever a select few wish to call me....

09-03-2010, 11:55 AM	#15
Arwen Joy Seeker How Do You Identify?: Smartly-Flavored Preferred Pronoun?: Goddess Relationship Status: Mrs. Syzygy 1/9/14 Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Joyville, NM (aka Land of Enchantment) Posts: 10,140 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,636 Thanked 28,107 Times in 6,411 Posts Rep Power: 21474863	I've decided that y'all can call me a few other things. Never late for dinner Friend indeed Goddess Arwen Spectacularia Empress of All She Surveys...and then some Purveyor of Perfectly Palpable Porn Poodle Pillow Princess __________________ I wrote a book, y'all! *FREE* Tarotscopes Seek Joy, y'all. Eschew hate. 9Words: A Poetry Challenge \| Do you like me?

09-02-2010, 11:31 AM	#18
waxnrope Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Permanently Banned 5/27/2011 Preferred Pronoun?: hy ho, hy ho; he, she, it, whatever Relationship Status: Going slow ... Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: in her orifices ... la frontera Posts: 1,433 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,414 Thanked 2,957 Times in 952 Posts Rep Power: 0	I chose a stupid site name, and now get called, "wax." As long as it is not ear ... Also been called bastard, but that is reserved for special folk. Just call me Terry, if you remember. Otherwise, whatever. It's only nether space after all.

09-02-2010, 11:36 AM	#20
turasultana Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: spoken for Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: brooklyn Posts: 432 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 226 Thanked 713 Times in 249 Posts Rep Power: 2043786	i get turasultana, tura, tura tura. all fine. Hey sultana is fine too. Laura is my actual name. that's fine by me too. although if i don't know you and you say it, i'll probably totally forget that I posted it and be confused for a minute.