How do you nurture yourself?

Soft*Silver · 09-04-2010, 10:28 AM

excellant points of distinction between indulgence and nurturing. I indulged. I overcompensated for not being loved as a child and also, not knowing how to, in my attempts, I would go hog wild. My addiction to alcohol started out as an attempt to nurture. It was indulgence and then a crutch and then a need and then an addiction.

I have lived in pendulum swings. None or too much. In my 50s I am learning to moderate and find a balance and to know that too much is too much and too little isnt enough. And, that it all comes from me...not outside myself...first and foremost. Because I wasnt loved as a child, (or I should say, as much as a child should be loved, for I know my parents DID love me, just didnt express it) I grew up eager to find it outside of myself..to fill that void left in me. What a fiasco that has been.

No matter where I go, there I am. Void and all. No one can fill it but me. And the way it gets filled is thru nurturance, no indulgence.

good one, Arwen...

MrSunshine · 09-04-2010, 10:33 AM

Every night, even if just out of the shower, I wash my feet by hand. I dig that.

Jesse · 10-25-2010, 10:48 AM

Do we have anymore self nurturers out there?

katsarecool · 10-25-2010, 10:52 AM

I practice breathing, deeply not from the chest but the center..

Glenn · 10-25-2010, 10:53 AM

Pray
Read the spiritual Masters
play my piano or flute
Jump in the car
Jump in the whirlpool
workout
plan a better budget
think about my goals and dreams etc.
talk with folks who will be there for me just in case..

Jesse · 10-25-2010, 10:57 AM

I am practicing self nurturing today by going to the Podiatrist to have my foot checked out...something I have been avoiding for a few years now.

Rockinonahigh · 10-25-2010, 04:38 PM

To take care of me I do things I want to do for me,I dont deny myself simple things I enjoy like I did before,If I see something I like I often get it,go to a movie I havent seen.Last year I went whole hog into playing pool so now im on two teams ones a mixed team the other a ladies team.The best thing im finding me while doing this...not shure how I lost me but its working out if that makes any sence.

Miss Scarlett · 11-01-2010, 04:22 AM

Today is the first day of a new month, the first day of a new work week and there is a new moon at the end of this week. Everything appears to be lined up for new beginnings - at least for me.

That being said, I am nurturing myself by taking back my life and taking care of me. For the past many months I have been "sort of" following the food programme from my doctor so it did not come as a surprise when I got on the scale last week and found that I had re-gained some of the weight I fought so hard to lose - not a lot but enough.

That's hardly taking care of myself.

Re-reading some of the posts in this thread - especially the ones by Arwen, Gemme and Softness about self-indulgence v. self-nurturing has given me strength, encouragement and hope. Thank you ladies.

AtLast · 11-01-2010, 02:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Tranzman

I am practicing self nurturing today by going to the Podiatrist to have my foot checked out...something I have been avoiding for a few years now.

This is so great, Tranzman! a few years ago, I finally took myself to a podiatrist after years of foot problems. One of the best things I ever did for myself! Ended up not only with foot stuff fixed, but all the related back problems, too!

LOL, though.... I learned that I have such thick toe nails, this doc had to trim them with bone cutters!!! Who knew!!!

Soon · 11-01-2010, 02:07 PM

leave work early, change into fluffy robe and slippers, eat whatever I am craving and watch tv.

apretty · 11-01-2010, 02:08 PM

i have a sketch pad (size large) where i draw events that i find disturbing.

sometimes i make one of these events into a comic strip.

--it's all very satisfying, i highly recommend it.

09-04-2010, 10:28 AM	#1
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,594 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,896 Times in 4,063 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	excellant points of distinction between indulgence and nurturing. I indulged. I overcompensated for not being loved as a child and also, not knowing how to, in my attempts, I would go hog wild. My addiction to alcohol started out as an attempt to nurture. It was indulgence and then a crutch and then a need and then an addiction. I have lived in pendulum swings. None or too much. In my 50s I am learning to moderate and find a balance and to know that too much is too much and too little isnt enough. And, that it all comes from me...not outside myself...first and foremost. Because I wasnt loved as a child, (or I should say, as much as a child should be loved, for I know my parents DID love me, just didnt express it) I grew up eager to find it outside of myself..to fill that void left in me. What a fiasco that has been. No matter where I go, there I am. Void and all. No one can fill it but me. And the way it gets filled is thru nurturance, no indulgence. good one, Arwen... __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

10-25-2010, 10:48 AM	#3
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10-25-2010, 10:53 AM	#5
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10-25-2010, 10:57 AM	#6
Jesse Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Transguy Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Central West Coast of Florida Posts: 5,204 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 34,866 Thanked 17,782 Times in 3,940 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	I am practicing self nurturing today by going to the Podiatrist to have my foot checked out...something I have been avoiding for a few years now. __________________ “You’re so hard on yourself. Take a moment. Sit back. Marvel at your life: at the grief that softened you, at the heartache that widened you, at the suffering that strengthened you. Despite everything, you still grow. Be proud of this.”

09-04-2010, 10:33 AM	#2
MrSunshine Senior Member How Do You Identify?: The Gardner Preferred Pronoun?: Ummmm Relationship Status: Nah Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Sunshine State, State of Sunshine Posts: 2,616 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,577 Thanked 3,891 Times in 1,155 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Every night, even if just out of the shower, I wash my feet by hand. I dig that.

10-25-2010, 04:38 PM	#7
Rockinonahigh Senior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: makes no diffrence,I know who I am. Relationship Status: single,maybe looking if the right person comes along. Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: shreveport,Louisiana Posts: 4,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,682 Thanked 14,933 Times in 3,938 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	To take care of me I do things I want to do for me,I dont deny myself simple things I enjoy like I did before,If I see something I like I often get it,go to a movie I havent seen.Last year I went whole hog into playing pool so now im on two teams ones a mixed team the other a ladies team.The best thing im finding me while doing this...not shure how I lost me but its working out if that makes any sence.

11-01-2010, 04:22 AM	#8
Miss Scarlett Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Relationship Status: . Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: . Posts: 5,530 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,478 Thanked 12,947 Times in 3,419 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Today is the first day of a new month, the first day of a new work week and there is a new moon at the end of this week. Everything appears to be lined up for new beginnings - at least for me. That being said, I am nurturing myself by taking back my life and taking care of me. For the past many months I have been "sort of" following the food programme from my doctor so it did not come as a surprise when I got on the scale last week and found that I had re-gained some of the weight I fought so hard to lose - not a lot but enough. That's hardly taking care of myself. Re-reading some of the posts in this thread - especially the ones by Arwen, Gemme and Softness about self-indulgence v. self-nurturing has given me strength, encouragement and hope. Thank you ladies.

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apretty Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: sea shell Relationship Status: married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: san diego Posts: 1,687 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,927 Thanked 4,373 Times in 1,012 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	i have a sketch pad (size large) where i draw events that i find disturbing. sometimes i make one of these events into a comic strip. --it's all very satisfying, i highly recommend it.