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[Linus]

Sometimes, I feel that many that fit into other types of minority groups are silenced by our own narrow binary- butch or trans, etc. And there are times when I have felt that folks (no matter their chosen identification) are challenged to change themselves to fit into this very sub-binary like box.

I wonder how much of this is because of mainstream society's forced binary on us since we were kids and trying to break from that? We get pummelled daily by the binary and it's hard for even us to see it beyond that because of the binary of butch and femme. It was one thing that I was struck when I went to the Trans Support groups in NYC that they were anything but binary.

Even today I'm asked if I will change my gender on my ID and parts of me really doesn't just to mess with people and see how much they pay attention. Few do interestingly enough. They see my face with a beard and say "Sir", "Mr.", etc. As humans we base our "containers" on what we see and not what is necessarily "is".

[AtLast]

Originally Posted by Linus

I wonder how much of this is because of mainstream society's forced binary on us since we were kids and trying to break from that? We get pummelled daily by the binary and it's hard for even us to see it beyond that because of the binary of butch and femme. It was one thing that I was struck when I went to the Trans Support groups in NYC that they were anything but binary.

Even today I'm asked if I will change my gender on my ID and parts of me really doesn't just to mess with people and see how much they pay attention. Few do interestingly enough. They see my face with a beard and say "Sir", "Mr.", etc. As humans we base our "containers" on what we see and not what is necessarily "is".

Oh, yeah! Containment!