Ask a trans person!

[Jaques]

Originally Posted by Braedon

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Its always interesting to hear others experiences...........good thread


1) When did you begin feeling like you were different?.........

I didnt know i was different till as a kid people kept telling me i wasnt a boy...........

2) Did you always know that you should have been born the opposite sex, or did that come abit later though you always knew you were different?

.................never thought about it but felt i was male from very young, buried it, married, came out later in life, went through the stages of thinking im butch etc till the penny dropped..............

3) When did you decide to come out, and how did you come out?

l998 I began my "journey" and 4 yrs ago decided I had to carry on living as male, so with my partners encouragement, for which i will be eternally grateful, I saw a gender specialist and after telling him my background was immediately put onto T, l0 mths later I had my chest op.

I am out as trans (FTM) to certain people that I know online as well as those at the FTM group I attended but not to anyone else. A big part of Me wants to come out to family and friends so I can finally outright be who I am on the inside, but there is still that part of Me that is scared to do so. I am really looking to just connect with other FTM's (as well as MTF's) and relate to those who have gone through the journey, or perhaps those like Me really just beginning it, so that I can know that I'm not alone.

,,,,,,its never easy, i have two grown sons, one who accepts and the other who loves me, we have always been close, but finds it hard to see his "mother" change direction, as before i did look very feminine (purposely) so i respect his feelings and as i see him and his wife/grandchild once every 6 wks or so because they live quite a long way away, i shave closely.....

We all have things to deal with in life and i am lucky this is the only thing i have to think carefully about - I know there are many who have huge problems and that's why these threads are so useful.............

[Bit]

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Nice to see you all here! *smiling* It's good that we have the beginnings of a support thread already, a place for comparing notes and such!



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[Blue]

Hi everyone,

I always knew I was different but, like Linus, never had the words. My journey has been gradual (to say the least). Though I will say, in hindsight, I gave every indication of gender dysphoria from a very early age. It was my mother who finally asked me if I wouldn't have been happier if I could have 'become male'. I can remember always wanting to do 'boy things' and wanting to wear 'boy clothes' and wanting 'guy jobs' but my family always seemed to pass it of as 'tomboy syndrome' that would one day pass. It never did. I loved Halloween and was always male; complete with stubble and a bulge. I went through periods of hyper-feminity trying to immerse myself in the feminine thinking I might find something of myself there. Although I made a very pretty girl/woman, I always felt like a drag queen (or worse, like a very queer queer). Over time my wardrobe had less and less female clothing until I only shopped in the men's department. My hair got shorter and shorter until only a barber would do. For younger people this all may sound absurd but being a young person in the 70s ...simple changes like these took tremendous courage (fear coupled with action). Each step was a personal achievement for me.

I started T 3 years ago and felt more 'in focus' within a few weeks. I am very happy with the physical changes I have experienced; i.e. weight redistribution, weight loss, increased strength and endurance, muscle density, and a general sense of emotion centeredness. On the flip side I am finding myself almost too focused and unable to walk away from something I am doing until it is done. It seems to be the opposite of ADD and makes multitasking sort of difficult unless I am able to synchronize the tasks into a logical flow. I used to start things and never got around to finishing them, switching proirities and scuffling from one task to another and would become emotionally overwhelmed ...now everything has to wait it's turn but I do finish everything eventually Anyone else having this experience?

Blue

[Thinker]

Originally Posted by Blue

*snip*

For younger people this all may sound absurd but being a young person in the 70s ...simple changes like these took tremendous courage (fear coupled with action). Each step was a personal achievement for me.

*snip*

...now everything has to wait it's turn but I do finish everything eventually Anyone else having this experience?

Such a good point about how it used to be... Like you, I went through a period of time where I tried really hard to embrace being female and a "lesbian". Although I would not say I did it in a hyper-feminine way, I definitely made it a point to try and *not* "hide" my breasts........wore earrings.......stuff like that.

As for the other... I actually have had the opposite experience. I am more inclined to have a few things going on at the same time......spend a little time on refurbishing a dresser.......then work on the yard a little.......starting new little projects here and there.

That was not the case before. Not even close.

Interesting to think about.

[Jet]

Being a trauma survivor I lived 11 years in seclusion and tried to be a girl. It didn't work for me at all. Eleven years is a long time. Fast forward: I'm planning on starting T in January.

[Thinker]

Originally Posted by Ol' Jet

Being a trauma survivor I lived 11 years in seclusion and tried to be a girl. It didn't work for me at all. Eleven years is a long time. Fast forward: I'm planning on starting T in January.

I wish you all the best.

[Linus]

Originally Posted by Ol' Jet

Being a trauma survivor I lived 11 years in seclusion and tried to be a girl. It didn't work for me at all. Eleven years is a long time. Fast forward: I'm planning on starting T in January.

Congrats and good luck. An exciting life adventure to begin.

Originally Posted by Blue

<snip> I used to start things and never got around to finishing them, switching proirities and scuffling from one task to another and would become emotionally overwhelmed ...now everything has to wait it's turn but I do finish everything eventually Anyone else having this experience?

Blue

Not that much because life interferes but I do feel more focused. I have also noticed that it's harder to cry. Some things (like the Humane Society's adoption commercials) used to have me near bawling. Now, barely a tear. In some ways, I don't like this because it makes me feel "unemotional" but perhaps it's more of a narrow set of emotions than before.

[Jet]

Thanks for wishing me well. —Parker

[bigbutchmistie]

Hello all. I am posting here because I recently realized that I am trans. Its weird this body that I have. And I dont know how to quite identify. Everything is still so new to me. Do you identify as FTM without having the surgery? Do you identify as trans? Or the same butch label I have called myself for so long. Anyone who wants to PM me and help me out would be greatly appreciated. Hugs around to all you guys.

[Linus]

Hey BBM and welcome to the thread. How one identifies is entirely personal decision. What made you realize that you are trans? And trans could mean either transsexual or transgender. Are you going to medically transition? Do you intend on having surgery or are holding off?

There is no right or wrong answer to each of these but it's more something you have to address with yourself.

For me personally, I did an identity transition from butch --> transgender/genderqueer --> transguy/FTM. I haven't had surgery yet (although really want top surgery) but have been on T for over a year now.

[Gentle Tiger]

No questions. Just dropping by to say hello. Still making my way around the site. Glad to know you guys are here.

[weatherboi]

Originally Posted by Gentle Tiger

No questions. Just dropping by to say hello. Still making my way around the site. Glad to know you guys are here.

Hey Gentle Tiger!! Welcome!!

[handsomeFTM4u]

Originally Posted by Jet

Being a trauma survivor I lived 11 years in seclusion and tried to be a girl. It didn't work for me at all. Eleven years is a long time. Fast forward: I'm planning on starting T in January.

good for you. I have been on it for 6 years now, and I have to say it was the BEST DECISION I EVER MADE IN MY LIFE

[Jet]

I quite T. And there's a storm brewing. There are things in our past sometimes that can't be changed—things follow us. Wishing you well.