advice plz - my father's alcoholism

Shi · 09-13-2010, 05:04 AM

Hi Sylvie,

Just wondering if you have started going to any meetings yet. My father was an alcoholic too . I started going to meetings a few years before he passed away. It helped me in more ways then you can imagine. I was much like you always running to him whenever he needed me . I learned that I had to stop being an enabler ,I could be there for him but i couldn't save him as much as I wanted too. My father was a great man he was smart, funny,kind and a very loving man and when he was drinking he was always the life of the party. With that being said I also seen a very ugly side to him after the party was over . I think that was the hardest part was seeing someone so loving turn into someone I or my mother didnt even know, A very angry man with so much hurt and anger inside that alcohol could only bring out and believe me it did. Anyways I just stumbled on your post and thought I would lend an ear and to let you know I understand what you are going through. If you feel like talking feel free to send me a message I'll be more then happy to listen.

09-13-2010, 05:04 AM	#27
Shi Junior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: he Relationship Status: single Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Ontario Posts: 9 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9 Thanked 5 Times in 3 Posts Rep Power: 0	I understand Hi Sylvie, Just wondering if you have started going to any meetings yet. My father was an alcoholic too . I started going to meetings a few years before he passed away. It helped me in more ways then you can imagine. I was much like you always running to him whenever he needed me . I learned that I had to stop being an enabler ,I could be there for him but i couldn't save him as much as I wanted too. My father was a great man he was smart, funny,kind and a very loving man and when he was drinking he was always the life of the party. With that being said I also seen a very ugly side to him after the party was over . I think that was the hardest part was seeing someone so loving turn into someone I or my mother didnt even know, A very angry man with so much hurt and anger inside that alcohol could only bring out and believe me it did. Anyways I just stumbled on your post and thought I would lend an ear and to let you know I understand what you are going through. If you feel like talking feel free to send me a message I'll be more then happy to listen.