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I think there's lots of potentially good relationships out there for most people, and that it's mostly a matter of chance and timing as to who you end up with.
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My take on ppl...
There comes a point in your life when you realize: Who matters, Who never did, Who won't anymore... ...And who always will. So, don't worry about people from your past, there's a reason why they didn't make it to your future...
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Yes.
You can have more than one. Everyone that is brought into your life is there for a reason. There is something for you to learn from them and vice versa. When that is done, things change, and you part ways. There are cases, though, that the lessons that were supposed to be learned are NOT learned, and though you've parted ways, you keep re-entering each other's lives. However, soulmates don't necessarily have to be romantic. Thus far, I've been fortunate enough to have 2. |
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Wow! Lot's of great responses here. Really enjoy reading what folks believe and why.
I think I have to agree most closely with Softness. I do believe in soulmates, as the complement to who I am. But just because they're a soulmate doesn't mean there's no work involved. Also, to me, the love with a soulmate feels different. I have loved and been in love with many people. I have only been in love to the depth that I identify as soulmate twice. Once with someone that I have been with over many lifetimes. I do not follow the beliefs, however, that soulmates are the soul seperated, or even that the soulmate completes the person. More a complement, but mostly it is a depth of feeling. But yes, I believe in them. And yes, I believe you can have more than one. Get out there and meet people, date, fall in love, and maybe if your lucky you will come across one, maybe two, that will make that unique connection. A Last edited by pajama; 09-20-2010 at 03:32 AM. Reason: they're, their, and there |
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my soul doesn't need a mate.
I prefer to think of partners as lifemates.. some come for a short time in life.. others a lifetime.. I find the term *soulmate* so overused it has no meaning. there is no right or wrong but I don't believe in mating my soul. I think some people have a *lustmate* and confuse this with *soulmate*... |
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*soulmate* is the one person who knows you all the way down to the core of your being... Your smile, your voice tones, your secrets, your flaws...& loves you Because of them... The person with whom you can communicate with (without words) no matter where you are or what situation you are in, be it alone in the bedroom or hosting a wonderful party with all of your friends... They know when you need to be alone or when you need a hug and everything in between, & do and say just the right things at just the right moments... & the only person who can make you smile when you really want to cry... YES...it is rare to have someone know you so well...and you know them that well in return...but definitely someone who really makes you FEEL complete, not just happy or full of lust...but complete! *soft smile*
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I absolutely believe in soulmates! and I also believe that you can have more than one in your lifetime... i was with my ex for 12 years...she was the love of my life...my soul mate...she knew me better than I knew me and she loved me anyway... right now I'm single and I believe that someday I'll have that kind of love in my life again..and I won't settle for less!! and I would hope that the lovely lady in question wouldn't settle either!
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09-22-2010, 02:05 PM
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Thanks for your thoughts and words here.. I love all the interaction around this sort of thing...i love deep thinking and it's very hard to come by! I just see this person you described above ( very nicely put and I believe we these people do exist for us) as my "lifemate", my partner, my forever (and I have found just this person so I do feel so fortunate,) but I just don't see a person as a *soul*mate..maybe it's the way the term is tossed around so easily that it really has no substance for me.. .to me this person you have described this is someone I have chosen to share my life with, but my soul is deeper than a human relationship. I've thought about this subject many times and I *think* that i feel that if my *soul*mate and I were to divorce, ( to believe this could not happen even in the best of relationships is not realistic to me) my soul would be damaged forever, that my very spirit would just curl up and die.. I just can't comprehend that. I suppose this probably makes no sense ..LOL. Maybe at the end of the road, after we have been together for 100 more years, I will look back and say yes.. This was my soulmate, but I doubt it. I want my soul independent of a partnership. My head, my heart my body is all theirs, but my soul is not coming out to pair up LOL. I just can't bring myself to allow my soul to be that vulnerable,, its my higher self.... I mean how do you know this person IS your "soulmate" until after the lifetime has passed? Maybe we all have a different opinion of what a *soul* is? And this is a great thing...I view my soul as my spirit, my mind, my I AM, it makes me who I am, and hopefully my spirit is loved and embraced by my partner ( I sure love his!) , I just feel that no matter what happens with my partner, my soul would be in tact (however deeply heartbroken ) and would continue to steer my spirit through life.. and I would hope theirs would too. In other words I guess I see a soul as a driving force that brings us to each other.. for the happily ever after. Relationships are formed and the the individuals embrace each other's spirits.. I don't see them as combined spirit/soul. . does that make any sense to anyone? LOL |
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Yes I strongly believe that there is someone out there for everyone and maybe you just haven't met yet but I was in a six year relationship the love of my life so I had thought . But things happen for a reason and now I've been single for quite sometime and I am sure one day I will meet another who will share my life through good an or bad times.
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No, I don't believe that is everyone's path on the planet...for some, yes..but not all.
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soulmate there is one in our lives ..a freind cane be a soulmate .. a lover as well. there r many levels of love, and we can love many times in a life time. if u wait for that one person to come along .. u r missing many oppertunitys to experience a lover .. who can become ur soulmate.. even if u never have a soulmate ..that doesnt mean u didnt love to ur fullest, or have been loved .. enjoy life ~ ocean
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Short answer: no. I think the idea is out of romantic novels and movies.
Longer answer (and you knew it was coming!  ): I think there are any number of people that we could be happy with in a relationship. I think compatitibility and committment are much more important than that "instant connection". Attraction is instant, real love takes a boatload of work. I also don't believe in finding one's "better half" or the someone to "complete" you, or fill up some emptiness inside. I believe instead you better well be complete and filled on your own before you even try to find someone. To search around for completion or someone to fill in the blanks is asking for an unhealthy relationship.
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I do believe in soul-mates. I do believe in fate.
I also do believe that relationships need work, always. But I wouldn't want to miss all the lovely people I might meet while "waiting" for a soul-mate. Also, I'm not sure the soul-mate will always come... (you never know, they might get stuck in traffic, the world is a big place... etc)
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I believe there are people who are in your life at the right times but definitely don't believe in one 'true' love or 'soulmate'...too much white picket fence thinking for me.
I'm lucky enough to have had 2 great loves in my life...in amongst the numbers who weren't 'great loves'. I don't understand making one person your everything. Jeepers! what a pressure to put on someone! I would hate to someone's everything; as a human being I can't live up to that job because I'm dreadfully flawed. |
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I have met and coupled with, at two seperate and different times in this life, a set of brothers who have travelled lives with me.
I have been in love more than once. And I intensely remember loves from other lives. I do not believe in Once. I do believe in soul mates. soul mate, in my definition, is someone who impregnantes your soul and gives birth to a contination of the Infinite that we left behind when we came to this earth. They inflate who you are simply by being who they are. like the clap of a bell or the fragrance of jasmine outside your door the moment it arrives and presents itself to you, your Self responds
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and soul mates do not mean forever in regard to this life. When met upon in a life, there is work to be done.
in the course of eternity, a lifetime or two working on evolution together does not take away from love it is the very thing love is all about.... someone says there is no such thing as forever. really? no matter where I go, there I am it doesnt matter who I am with, I am forever. who I share that with is part of my life journey I change partners alot in this life. There is reason for it and difficult to explain nor should I try in public forum. I know each person brought to me more tools I needed and since the universe wastes nothing, I too, brought many things to them that they needed I can be quite the earth monkey, playing around and throwing bananas at the passerbyes but really, I work hard spiritually on this earth HARD and I am never lost for love.
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