What is your Flirtation Style?

pajama · 09-20-2010, 05:40 AM

Well it figures that Rico Suave gets to be the first to respond.

Quite honestly...my flirtation style is honesty. I'm not shy about telling people that I think they are attractive, witty, smart, sexy, etc. I will usually be straight forward and tell them I think they are attractive. Some folks on here view me as just a flirt or player. When in fact, I am being honest and straigtforward. The catch to this is you can't be shy. You have to voice your opinion. Also when I tell someone how I feel about them, it isn't in the hopes of "hooking up". I do it because we all like compliments, honest compliments. So I do it to just let that person know that I think they are special.

The honest compliment opens the door for other conversations.

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Sachita · 09-20-2010, 06:31 AM

Perfect answer. I totally agree.

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Originally Posted by pajara2

Well it figures that Rico Suave gets to be the first to respond.

Quite honestly...my flirtation style is honesty. I'm not shy about telling people that I think they are attractive, witty, smart, sexy, etc. I will usually be straight forward and tell them I think they are attractive. Some folks on here view me as just a flirt or player. When in fact, I am being honest and straigtforward. The catch to this is you can't be shy. You have to voice your opinion. Also when I tell someone how I feel about them, it isn't in the hopes of "hooking up". I do it because we all like compliments, honest compliments. So I do it to just let that person know that I think they are special.

The honest compliment opens the door for other conversations.

A

sweetbutch26 · 09-20-2010, 06:38 AM

i just get on my pretty boi swag say hello and be my normal sweet charming self

rockybcn · 09-20-2010, 07:51 AM

When first meeting someone.....I enjoy a quick witted banter. Humor goes a long way with me. A woman who will laugh with me has already captured my attention. You can also tell by her smile and her eyes that she is enjoying herself as well. Sexual innuendos spoken both verbally and or physically, they are not flattering for me. A woman who can entertain me right away with her mind....she is the one I want to know.

sweetbutch26 · 09-20-2010, 07:56 AM

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Originally Posted by rockybcn

When first meeting someone.....I enjoy a quick witted banter. Humor goes a long way with me. A woman who will laugh with me has already captured my attention. You can also tell by her smile and her eyes that she is enjoying herself as well. Sexual innuendos spoken both verbally and or physically, they are not flattering for me. A woman who can entertain me right away with her mind....she is the one I want to know.

amen bro well said

Sachita · 09-20-2010, 08:18 AM

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Originally Posted by rockybcn

When first meeting someone.....I enjoy a quick witted banter. Humor goes a long way with me. A woman who will laugh with me has already captured my attention. You can also tell by her smile and her eyes that she is enjoying herself as well. Sexual innuendos spoken both verbally and or physically, they are not flattering for me. A woman who can entertain me right away with her mind....she is the one I want to know.

excellent

someone once said to me "if you don't kiss and have sex right away how do you know you'll enjoy each other sexually? Sex is important."

Believe it or not lots of people think this way and talk about sex almost right away to establish compatibility. This is an instant turn off for me. I'm like you, make me laugh, spark the playfulness inside of me and intrigue me. Then let me see your substance and that you are capable of a good foundation with me. If all these things measure up I have no doubt I will sexually rock your world. Sex is the easy part IMO.

Laerkin · 09-20-2010, 08:58 AM

Ooooo. Good thread!

I love flirting. Love love love. Flirting is certainly an art form and everyone executes it and responds to it a little differently.

Flirting requires confidence, so right off the bat that's appealing. Flirting, for me, is about more than "Hey baby, you're hot."

It's more about the smiles and the lingering eye contact. It's in the laughter and genuinely complimenting people. As the others have said, it's about honesty and establishing a connection that draws people in.

Flirting requires engaged conversation and great listening skills and making people feel good about themselves.

Of course, flirting with someone doesn't mean they get the message (some butches need to be hit over the head with a frying pan before they get the hint) and some people simply aren't interested. And that's okay too! In my opinion, flirting doesn't have to be sexual in nature and it can be innocent. It's fun to get to know new people and to make someone smile and to walk away feeling special.

Fun topic. I can't wait to read the conversations that will develop out of this one. Lol.

Tucker · 09-20-2010, 09:03 AM

Flirting is the naughty looks from across the room, devious smiles, misbehaving, and generally not feeling bad for anything you say. Blame it on the moment.

rockybcn · 09-20-2010, 09:03 AM

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Originally Posted by Sachita

excellent

someone once said to me "if you don't kiss and have sex right away how do you know you'll enjoy each other sexually? Sex is important."

Believe it or not lots of people think this way and talk about sex almost right away to establish compatibility. This is an instant turn off for me. I'm like you, make me laugh, spark the playfulness inside of me and intrigue me. Then let me see your substance and that you are capable of a good foundation with me. If all these things measure up I have no doubt I will sexually rock your world. Sex is the easy part IMO.

Exacto mundo Sachita!!! Maybe its an age thing(I´m old!!!)....but everything comes in stages...its how one wishes to take it to the next level of the flirtation(If there is one). I always enjoyed the courting stage. It gave me time to watch for consistancy in a person. When dating,she could tell me just everything she wanted me to know about herself ...but I observed for myself and time always revealed many truths. Have fun...enjoy the art of great conversation,lots of laughter, the comfort level in each others silence, the sweetness of holding hands. Because when you get old and she is still by your side....you will have made fond memories.

Sachita · 09-20-2010, 09:23 AM

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Originally Posted by rockybcn

Exacto mundo Sachita!!! Maybe its an age thing(I´m old!!!)....but everything comes in stages...its how one wishes to take it to the next level of the flirtation(If there is one). I always enjoyed the courting stage. It gave me time to watch for consistancy in a person. When dating,she could tell me just everything she wanted me to know about herself ...but I observed for myself and time always revealed many truths. Have fun...enjoy the art of great conversation,lots of laughter, the comfort level in each others silence, the sweetness of holding hands. Because when you get old and she is still by your side....you will have made fond memories.

I envy you sweetie. kiss

Thats why I have the three month rule. I dont care if my pussy is dripping and I want to jump your bones... I wait. I know that without a foundation it won't last. Now there has been times when I broke that rule, not very often, BUT it was a needed moment. It did not last. In fact I know this cute little FTM and for some reason we have this amazing chemistry. Its been like that for years. A year can go by and we see each other and BAM. Its amazing. But when its done its done. I love him like family but have zero interest in a relationship. I wouldnt do him if I was in a committed relationship.

Now if that happened again and more often I might need to change that rule. lol but then I would look at it all as a spiritual evolution of spirit. Sometimes I wonder if I will ever connect with one completely or if that lies in my future. Life is ever changing.

girl_dee · 03-09-2012, 05:38 AM

even though i've been told i'm a natural flirt i don't think i've ever tried to flirt.

09-20-2010, 07:51 AM	#4
rockybcn Member How Do You Identify?: a well blended yin yang butch Preferred Pronoun?: I'll take "sweetheart" for 500 Alex! Relationship Status: to be...or not to be...that is the question! Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Florida Posts: 269 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 694 Thanked 315 Times in 132 Posts Rep Power: 4141647	When first meeting someone.....I enjoy a quick witted banter. Humor goes a long way with me. A woman who will laugh with me has already captured my attention. You can also tell by her smile and her eyes that she is enjoying herself as well. Sexual innuendos spoken both verbally and or physically, they are not flattering for me. A woman who can entertain me right away with her mind....she is the one I want to know. __________________ I am brave and bold and know that my inner truth will always guide me in the right direction.

09-20-2010, 05:40 AM	#1
pajama Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Klingon Preferred Pronoun?: She Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Just South of Nashvegas Baby Posts: 3,115 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 7,546 Thanked 7,476 Times in 1,808 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Well it figures that Rico Suave gets to be the first to respond. Quite honestly...my flirtation style is honesty. I'm not shy about telling people that I think they are attractive, witty, smart, sexy, etc. I will usually be straight forward and tell them I think they are attractive. Some folks on here view me as just a flirt or player. When in fact, I am being honest and straigtforward. The catch to this is you can't be shy. You have to voice your opinion. Also when I tell someone how I feel about them, it isn't in the hopes of "hooking up". I do it because we all like compliments, honest compliments. So I do it to just let that person know that I think they are special. The honest compliment opens the door for other conversations. A

09-20-2010, 06:38 AM	#3
sweetbutch26 Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch/stud/boi Preferred Pronoun?: mr/he :p Relationship Status: single Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Goldsboro NC Posts: 55 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 34 Thanked 66 Times in 27 Posts Rep Power: 1508	i just get on my pretty boi swag say hello and be my normal sweet charming self

09-20-2010, 08:58 AM	#7
Laerkin Member How Do You Identify?: Girlie with a touch of bossy Preferred Pronoun?: She, but not hung up on the details Relationship Status: Parenting our furry family with SmoothButch Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Washington DC Posts: 385 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 772 Thanked 963 Times in 257 Posts Rep Power: 4366972	Ooooo. Good thread! I love flirting. Love love love. Flirting is certainly an art form and everyone executes it and responds to it a little differently. Flirting requires confidence, so right off the bat that's appealing. Flirting, for me, is about more than "Hey baby, you're hot." It's more about the smiles and the lingering eye contact. It's in the laughter and genuinely complimenting people. As the others have said, it's about honesty and establishing a connection that draws people in. Flirting requires engaged conversation and great listening skills and making people feel good about themselves. Of course, flirting with someone doesn't mean they get the message (some butches need to be hit over the head with a frying pan before they get the hint) and some people simply aren't interested. And that's okay too! In my opinion, flirting doesn't have to be sexual in nature and it can be innocent. It's fun to get to know new people and to make someone smile and to walk away feeling special. Fun topic. I can't wait to read the conversations that will develop out of this one. Lol.

09-20-2010, 09:03 AM	#8
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03-09-2012, 05:38 AM	#11
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