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09-22-2010, 03:27 AM
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Don't define me by what I'm not. Define me by what I am.
Don't look to complete me. Complement me. Know my devotion is unwavering. And allow me to expect the same from you. Treat me as you would want to be treated. Accept me with all my faults, and know I will do the same for you. I'm simply a human being. I'm frequently wrong. Don't remind me of every time I'm wrong. Support me as I support you. You can make suggestions concerning my conditions, and we can make a decision together, but don't ever make a decision about "me" without me. Luckily...MBE does all this. |
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09-23-2010, 03:56 PM
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I need to be heard. You don't have to understand my motivations/reasons/etc, but HEAR me tell you what I need from you.
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09-23-2010, 04:54 PM
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Trust
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If you Trust me with your heart, then I feel Loved and once that happens...oooooh baby girl, 'Katie bar the door', I'm at your command 
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10-26-2010, 10:29 PM
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In order to feel loved...
I need to be able to trust before I can feel loved and in order for that trust to take form, I need to see that what you say and what you do match up as one and the same. I am a deep and constant thinker and need for you to reach those depths with me. I can't live well in shallow land. I need emotional intimacy as much as I need sexual intimacy, if not more. I need to know we are on the same team and that you have my back. I need honesty and truth I need for you to be doing your work as far as your health goes; emotional, mental, spiritual and physical health. And I need for you to gently kick my ass if I am not doing mine. I need shared laughter and a time to be like kids when appropriate to do so. Humor is important to me.
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10-27-2010, 11:35 AM
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I have found that I feel loved when I am listened to.
I feel loved when I am missed and held. When hy worries about me and for me. When hy tells me that everything will be ok. Being loved is so strange for me sadly - but I like it. A LOT. lol. It works for me. |
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10-27-2010, 12:13 PM
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- A Gentle Touch
- A Certain Look - Hugs (of course) - To be heard - Understanding - Trust - Honesty - Laughter/Silliness - Compassion - Nurturing - Date Nights - Romance |
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10-27-2010, 01:33 PM
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The things that help me to feel loved have evolved over time. At one point, it was the physical love and the physical actions that made me feel loved. While I enjoy that still, at this point, it's the "small" things that many people don't even think about that do it for me. I need consideration as a human being and as an equal partner. I need pleases and thank yous and manners in general. I need the daily sensitivities that tell me that my partner is thinking of me and what I may want or need. I need to know that my partner thinks of me like I think of them, and often. I need to be a priority in their life, though I may not always be the highest priority at that moment, I need to be up there. I need for my partner to see the big picture not exactly as I do, but to SEE it...to have their own plan for their life and path and for OUR union and path. I need for my partner to have similar goals and beliefs concerning the big stuff (knowing my big stuff might not equal someone else's big stuff, of course). I need them to walk that path, during the process of obtaining those common goals, with me...side by side, and knowing their needs are neither greater nor lesser than mine. I need laughter and shared jokes. The more offensive the better, because I need my partner to be as much of a deviant as I. I need tender moments in quiet times and the knowledge that that moment means just as much to me as it does to my partner. I need patience in spades and forgiveness when it doesn't come easily from myself. I need my partner to love me more than I love myself, because as hard as I am on them, I am much harder on myself. I've used the term partner several times now and that is what a relationship is to me: a partnership. A team. Both members must look out for one another and be kind to one another and forgive one another when those moments come (and they will) and keep working towards the team's goals in the big picture. They need to act as one entity, moving and flowing in unison. Mind you, this doesn't mean spending every waking moment with one another or tying two of your legs together or anything like that. Heaven knows, Organic would have been strung out on the balcony a long time ago if that were the case. The relationship takes on a life of its own and that is what needs to be fluid and evolve. |
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10-27-2010, 07:21 PM
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A Look
Nurture Me Laugh With Me Consistency in Words and Actions Affection Lots And Lots Of It Trust Honesty Sensitivity Romance Making Me A Priority Be Spontaneous. Surprise Me At My Place At My Job... Fall Asleep In My Arms Love me for me. Dont try and change me. Im stubborn as hell. But if you have my heart I'll hang the moon for you... 
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10-27-2010, 01:24 PM
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....attention....
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10-27-2010, 03:48 PM
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Fun and interesting thread and with so many commonalities I wonder if were all consciously giving it back..
but anywho... What I need to feel loved: I need to know you got my back.. day and night, when i am right and when I am wrong. Not to stand up for me but with me or support me when I am wrong and say so.. gently... I need someone to share the load. Not just expect life will miraculously poof in front of them.. this includes clean clothes, the dinner, a movie night out, or a vacation abroad.. Hold my hand Sleep with me at night Hug me before running off in the morning leave the world outside our front door, often. Surprise me.. little tiny cute girly things.. Honesty, say yeah or nah and know its ok.. and make sure its ok when I say it back. Mean what you say or dont say it at all. If you're not getting what you need, say so. equality Make us as important than you or me Im sure there is more or even less but the older I get the more I see how important working together to make the relationship makes me feel loved, to know I am important, cherished, needed, wanted, desired, when were both in it for each others well being. Star |
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10-27-2010, 11:00 PM
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I don't know anymore. But that doesn't mean I give up.
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10-28-2010, 12:06 AM
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I am working my 12 steps of AA and doing my inventory and you know, I have discovered a whole bunch of stuff about me.
Including how I define love. as well as how I have settled for what wasnt love and how I justified it in my head. I put down in an earlier post that I need attention to feel loved. Thats correct. I do. Its the number one thing I must have from someone in order to feel loved. It doesnt have to be alot. It doesnt have to be lavish. But it has to be ENOUGH. And if I have to spell out to them what enough is, then I dont feel loved. Period. Its simply not the right relationship for me.
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10-28-2010, 07:08 AM
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basically i only need respect...
it seems like a small thing... but... all those other little things can be present... all the right moves... looks... words... but... realizing that respect is not there blows it all away... |
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08-27-2016, 09:31 AM
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It's hard to put into words what makes me feel loved. I'm not sure I even know half the time what will work during any given set of circumstances. I know we all have our issues and our baggage. Personally I have a lot of luggage. I'm no picnic for sure. But whatever it is I need, whatever it is it takes, my wife is doing it. Thirteen years and counting. I am so lucky she loves me. She just naturally finds the holes in my heart and somehow fills them.
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08-30-2016, 05:12 PM
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when i feel trusted i feel loved...as im a loyal old dog
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I'm misunderestimated. 
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