What do YOU need to feel loved?

Soft*Silver · 10-28-2010, 12:06 AM

I am working my 12 steps of AA and doing my inventory and you know, I have discovered a whole bunch of stuff about me.

Including how I define love.

as well as how I have settled for what wasnt love

and

how I justified it in my head.

I put down in an earlier post that I need attention to feel loved. Thats correct. I do. Its the number one thing I must have from someone in order to feel loved. It doesnt have to be alot. It doesnt have to be lavish. But it has to be ENOUGH. And if I have to spell out to them what enough is, then I dont feel loved. Period. Its simply not the right relationship for me.

rlin · 10-28-2010, 07:08 AM

basically i only need respect...
it seems like a small thing...
but...
all those other little things can be present... all the right moves... looks... words...
but...
realizing that respect is not there blows it all away...

MrSunshine · 10-28-2010, 07:10 AM

fruit snacks and granola

Kenna · 10-28-2010, 08:50 AM

To spend one on one time with my beautiful, smart, sassy, bright, funny nieces.
To get lots of hugs and cuddles with them...
to watch them play their sports;
or dance around the house in their froggy pjs and slide around the kitchen in their fuzzy socks;
to giggle at them as they bounce around their rooms telling me about their crushes;
to have the youngest curl up on my lap when she asks me to read to her;
to get tickled when the oldest asks to brush and braid my hair;
to watch how silly they are on the trampoline;
to hear them once again yell out "Aunt, You're THE BOMB!!";
to share "ooooo's and ahhhh's" as we all huddle around the computer to flip through the National Geographic website and to have them tell me of places they dream to visit;
to inspire them when they tell me what they want to be when they grow up.... to be there for them when they need me.
To be a part of their life as much as possible.
To give them the HUGE Love and Attention back that they lavish on me.
To see them happy and to watch them grow into beautiful, well accomplished, confident, well loved young ladies.

girl_dee · 10-28-2010, 08:54 AM

love at this point in my life means cut the crap and own me, tell me "You belong to me and don't fucking forget it",

unless of course, you are my mother

10-28-2010, 12:06 AM	#1
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,594 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,896 Times in 4,064 Posts Rep Power*: 21474858	I am working my 12 steps of AA and doing my inventory and you know, I have discovered a whole bunch of stuff about me. Including how I define love. as well as how I have settled for what wasnt love and how I justified it in my head. I put down in an earlier post that I need attention to feel loved. Thats correct. I do. Its the number one thing I must have from someone in order to feel loved. It doesnt have to be alot. It doesnt have to be lavish. But it has to be ENOUGH. And if I have to spell out to them what enough is, then I dont feel loved. Period. Its simply not the right relationship for me. __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

10-28-2010, 07:08 AM	#2
rlin Member How Do You Identify?: human Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: nomad Posts: 712 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,450 Thanked 1,189 Times in 451 Posts Rep Power: 1004849	basically i only need respect... it seems like a small thing... but... all those other little things can be present... all the right moves... looks... words... but... realizing that respect is not there blows it all away...

10-28-2010, 07:10 AM	#3
MrSunshine Senior Member How Do You Identify?: The Gardner Preferred Pronoun?: Ummmm Relationship Status: Nah Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Sunshine State, State of Sunshine Posts: 2,616 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,577 Thanked 3,891 Times in 1,155 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	fruit snacks and granola

10-28-2010, 08:50 AM	#4
Kenna Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Fiery, Sassy, Tough As Nails, Femme Tomboy Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: I am your favorite hello and hardest goodbye. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NC & CO Posts: 4,806 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,624 Thanked 12,189 Times in 3,779 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	To spend one on one time with my beautiful, smart, sassy, bright, funny nieces. To get lots of hugs and cuddles with them... to watch them play their sports; or dance around the house in their froggy pjs and slide around the kitchen in their fuzzy socks; to giggle at them as they bounce around their rooms telling me about their crushes; to have the youngest curl up on my lap when she asks me to read to her; to get tickled when the oldest asks to brush and braid my hair; to watch how silly they are on the trampoline; to hear them once again yell out "Aunt, You're THE BOMB!!"; to share "ooooo's and ahhhh's" as we all huddle around the computer to flip through the National Geographic website and to have them tell me of places they dream to visit; to inspire them when they tell me what they want to be when they grow up.... to be there for them when they need me. To be a part of their life as much as possible. To give them the HUGE Love and Attention back that they lavish on me. To see them happy and to watch them grow into beautiful, well accomplished, confident, well loved young ladies.

10-28-2010, 08:54 AM	#5
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,828 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474874	love at this point in my life means cut the crap and own me, tell me "You belong to me and don't fucking forget it", unless of course, you are my mother