The Art of Online Communication

[Selenay]

Originally Posted by Andrew, Jr.

I asked this question in another thread, and I am going to post it here. I have no clue as to how to read other's posts. For example, how do you know if someone is joking, being serious, being rude, being threatening, or whatever? I struggle with this all the time. I am a visual person, and always have been. The smilies help me tremendously.

I do see the punctuation, and but am Dyslexic. So words and reading comprehension is not my strong suit.

Always assume someone is not being an asshole.
Even if they are in fact being twats, at least you'll be blissfully ignorant to that fact.

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by Selenay

Always assume someone is not being an asshole.
Even if they are in fact being twats, at least you'll be blissfully ignorant to that fact.

This is actually really good advice. If they are being snotheads, and you are just as sweet as pie, that will really get their goat and they'll wind up looking foolish.

Not that I'm sneaky like that ....

[Andrew, Jr.]

I came back here to reread all the posts. I really have learned quite a bit.

Someone, and I forgot who it was, asked me if I knew how to cut/paste. I said no. And I really don't know how too. I just type word for word from newspapers and magazines I get in the mail. So, my question here is, how do I say that? I thought it was wrong to just put something in a thread without saying who the author was. Like I dreamed it up or something.

Thanks,
Andrew

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by Andrew, Jr.

I came back here to reread all the posts. I really have learned quite a bit.

Someone, and I forgot who it was, asked me if I knew how to cut/paste. I said no. And I really don't know how too. I just type word for word from newspapers and magazines I get in the mail. So, my question here is, how do I say that? I thought it was wrong to just put something in a thread without saying who the author was. Like I dreamed it up or something.

Thanks,
Andrew

This isn't like doing a term paper, Andrew. There's no exact way to post things. Sometimes, you overthink things and make them harder on yourself than they need to be. A lot of people do that too.

For example, you could type an article ou found into a post and say, "I found this and thought it was interesting" or "This is an online article I found that I feel is relevant to this thread" or "Look what I found!" I'd make sure to include the author's name, if available, and where you got it for everyone else's reference.

As for cutting and pasting or copying and pasting, find something you'd like to copy. Select (highlight) that article, song lyrics, etc. I start from the bottom right corner and drag up to the point where I'm going to stop at. I've found, especially with copying lyrics, that that is an easier way than going down. *shrug* I'm not sure why, but it works better for me that way.

Once I've got what I want to copy highlighted, right click on your mouse. You'll have options open up in a box. Select copy. Go to where you'd like to put said item of interest and right click again at the point where you would like the article, etc to begin. Choose paste. Voila!

Now, you are free to format things as you see fit. Easy breezy, yes?

Something else you might consider is just copying and pasting the link into a post. That way, those who want to can go into the article and read it at its original (to you) location.

[Linus]

I decided to bump this thread because I have a question for some:

If you go into a thread and get "thumped" (whether by a mod or another user), does it bother you enough to leave a site? If so, why?

If not, do you decide to not go back into that thread ever or return later to check it out?

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by Linus

I decided to bump this thread because I have a question for some:

If you go into a thread and get "thumped" (whether by a mod or another user), does it bother you enough to leave a site? If so, why?

If not, do you decide to not go back into that thread ever or return later to check it out?

Personally, no, but I can be a stubbornly annoying shit. Just ask my friends.

I may, however, see that I caused an issue, whatever it may be and take some time off to reflect on that. I would not abandon the site or the thread though just because of the 'thumping'. Leaving a whole site would take me a while to get to the point where that was a thought and then a reality for me. I'm loyal. Once I'm there, I'm there.

I come and go, subscribe and unsubscribe to threads all the time. I'm a bit fickle by nature, so I think it has more to do with that than the content of the threads or whether or not I was thumped. Sometimes, a good thumping is just what the doctor ordered, yanno?

[Semantics]

Originally Posted by Linus

I decided to bump this thread because I have a question for some:

If you go into a thread and get "thumped" (whether by a mod or another user), does it bother you enough to leave a site? If so, why?

If not, do you decide to not go back into that thread ever or return later to check it out?

No.

Thumpings are usually well deserved and I don't take them personally or get my feelings hurt.

I always go back and look.

[Kenna]

Originally Posted by Semantics

No.

Thumpings are usually well deserved and I don't take them personally or get my feelings hurt.

I always go back and look.

Originally Posted by Kimbo

I try to be good and not get thumped by moderators, I do well with self moderation, however I have been thumped by other members. It does not bother me enough to leave a site. For the most part I respect those who have thumped me for their knowledge, point of view and passion. I am of the opinion we can have varied points of views and still get along, respect each other and be in the same community.

What does bother me and makes me feel like leaving is the tone of some posts. I know this is how some speak or come across, tone will deter me.

I have left some threads and never returned and others I've gone back, reread and, most often, gathered more food for thought.

I completely, utterly agree. Thanks Semantics and Kimbo, for beating me to it... tone is a serious determent for me, especially if it's an angry, resentful, "better than thou", or an obvious strike to derail. If I were to get thumped by the mods... than that means maybe my tone was offensive to others and I need to take a step back? I don't mind being humble and taking my thumping, then minding my manners and thanking those that "thumped me good".

I've recently stayed out of more substantial discussions... for personal reasons only and high stress levels stemming from my previous job... not because of the fear of being moderated or thumped. I recall posting in this thread early on... mostly a ramble about tone of voice and how I should moderate my own online communications, with respect to others.


I got THUMPED from my DSL service last night... right in the middle of posting this response... hope it works now?

[Kimbo]

Originally Posted by Linus

I decided to bump this thread because I have a question for some:

If you go into a thread and get "thumped" (whether by a mod or another user), does it bother you enough to leave a site? If so, why?

If not, do you decide to not go back into that thread ever or return later to check it out?

I try to be good and not get thumped by moderators, I do well with self moderation, however I have been thumped by other members. It does not bother me enough to leave a site. For the most part I respect those who have thumped me for their knowledge, point of view and passion. I am of the opinion we can have varied points of views and still get along, respect each other and be in the same community.

What does bother me and makes me feel like leaving is the tone of some posts. I know this is how some speak or come across, tone will deter me.

I have left some threads and never returned and others I've gone back, reread and, most often, gathered more food for thought.