How do you nurture yourself?

LipstickLola · 11-01-2010, 08:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Tranzman

I will love the sun for it warms my bones; yet I will love the rain for it cleanses my spirit.

I will love the light for it shows me the way; yet I will love the darkness for it shows me the stars.

I will welcome happiness as it enlarges my heart; yet I will endure sadness for it opens my soul.

I will acknowledge rewards for they are my due; yet I will welcome obstacles for they are my challenge. - Og Mandino

Beautiful!!

Nat · 11-01-2010, 08:34 PM

Two of my favorite things-

Sitting in front of a fire in my little fire pit

Wandering in the country taking pictures of neat plants, animals and falling down structures

Pixie · 11-01-2010, 08:53 PM

Allowed time for silence and quiet
Allowed time surrounded by friends

Rockinonahigh · 11-01-2010, 09:00 PM

I nuture myself by takeing time for me,I finaly realised it was ok for me to do that.
I got involved in shooting pool so now am on two teams with nice ppl.
Im eating right and working out 3 times a week
I also make shure I get enought rest.
Also im takeing myself less seriously,laughing more.

Jesse · 11-01-2010, 09:14 PM

I love your responses, and find your posts comforting to me on some tough days. Thank you.

For me right now, my biggest effort at self nurturing is learning to accept ALL of me without blame, guilt or judgment.

By accepting, I don't mean that I allow myself to continue in unhealthy behaviors, rather I aim to acknowledge that they exist...that they are. Then I can look at them with open eyes and decide if it is something I choose to act on or if I feel better making a different choice. I do this with feelings and thought as well during meditation, allowing all feelings to be whether positive or negative, then allowing them to pass. It's working for me and helps me to find peace.

Jesse · 11-17-2010, 03:40 PM

Happy Hump Day!

One of the areas I am dealing with now is self nurturing while single. As a single person I need to remind myself to go and do things. As a transman it can be difficult to find much in the way of a social life when single. So I decided that I need to find some things I can do alone if necessary, that require me to leave the safety of my house...yup you guessed it, that leaves masturbation out...at least for me. Lol!

I began by signing my dog up for some obedience classes, even though he did not need the classes as he has been trained well, we both needed the socialization. So we go every Saturday for an hour and it is a blast for us both. After this class he will begin his agility training.

Next I started taking him to the park. This gives us both physical exercise, more bonding time, people watching (mostly squirrel watching for him) and inner peace.

Today I signed up for weekly Tai Chi classes. Ah! Something I have to do all on my own without the Bear there for comfort. Now all I need is someone to remind me to go on Tuesdays!

Peace

AtLast · 11-17-2010, 04:00 PM

Stress reduction techniques are nurturing for me. Can include music and dance, relaxation exercises and meditation, self hypnosis. Plain exercise that I can do.... making sure I take a good walk each day with my pooch and simply taking in the beauty around me. Honoring my spiritual needs has always been a key factor for self-nurturance for me in ways that fit me, not any organization or particular religion.

Most important is when I recognize what is causing imbalance, taking control and doing something about these things.

little man · 11-18-2010, 08:24 AM

i try to remember that it's just life. it's for living.

i have more adventures ahead and stories to live to be told.

i have so many loving people in my life. i forget to leave my little cave. they remind me.

i know that trepidation is ok. it jacks me up and propels me forward.

i realize (again) i can live an extraordinary life.

11-01-2010, 08:34 PM	#2
Nat Senior Member How Do You Identify?: bigender (DID System) Preferred Pronoun?: he/him or alter-specific Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Central TX Posts: 3,537 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,047 Thanked 13,968 Times in 2,589 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Two of my favorite things- Sitting in front of a fire in my little fire pit Wandering in the country taking pictures of neat plants, animals and falling down structures __________________ I'm a fountain of blood. In the shape of a girl. - Bjork What is to give light must endure burning. -Viktor Frankl

11-01-2010, 08:53 PM	#3
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11-01-2010, 09:14 PM	#5
Jesse Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Transguy Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Central West Coast of Florida Posts: 5,204 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 34,866 Thanked 17,782 Times in 3,940 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	I love your responses, and find your posts comforting to me on some tough days. Thank you. For me right now, my biggest effort at self nurturing is learning to accept ALL of me without blame, guilt or judgment. By accepting, I don't mean that I allow myself to continue in unhealthy behaviors, rather I aim to acknowledge that they exist...that they are. Then I can look at them with open eyes and decide if it is something I choose to act on or if I feel better making a different choice. I do this with feelings and thought as well during meditation, allowing all feelings to be whether positive or negative, then allowing them to pass. It's working for me and helps me to find peace. __________________ “You’re so hard on yourself. Take a moment. Sit back. Marvel at your life: at the grief that softened you, at the heartache that widened you, at the suffering that strengthened you. Despite everything, you still grow. Be proud of this.”

11-17-2010, 03:40 PM	#6
Jesse Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Transguy Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Central West Coast of Florida Posts: 5,204 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 34,866 Thanked 17,782 Times in 3,940 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Happy Hump Day! One of the areas I am dealing with now is self nurturing while single. As a single person I need to remind myself to go and do things. As a transman it can be difficult to find much in the way of a social life when single. So I decided that I need to find some things I can do alone if necessary, that require me to leave the safety of my house...yup you guessed it, that leaves masturbation out...at least for me. Lol! I began by signing my dog up for some obedience classes, even though he did not need the classes as he has been trained well, we both needed the socialization. So we go every Saturday for an hour and it is a blast for us both. After this class he will begin his agility training. Next I started taking him to the park. This gives us both physical exercise, more bonding time, people watching (mostly squirrel watching for him) and inner peace. Today I signed up for weekly Tai Chi classes. Ah! Something I have to do all on my own without the Bear there for comfort. Now all I need is someone to remind me to go on Tuesdays! Peace __________________ “You’re so hard on yourself. Take a moment. Sit back. Marvel at your life: at the grief that softened you, at the heartache that widened you, at the suffering that strengthened you. Despite everything, you still grow. Be proud of this.”

11-18-2010, 08:24 AM	#8
little man Member How Do You Identify?: mister Preferred Pronoun?: he Relationship Status: hard to hold Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: where the road goes on forever and the party never ends Posts: 1,003 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 169 Thanked 1,535 Times in 437 Posts Rep Power: 13709164	i try to remember that it's just life. it's for living. i have more adventures ahead and stories to live to be told. i have so many loving people in my life. i forget to leave my little cave. they remind me. i know that trepidation is ok. it jacks me up and propels me forward. i realize (again) i can live an extraordinary life. __________________ i gots pitchers here i'm a rambling man i ain't ever gonna change i got a gypsy soul to blame and i was born for leaving --zac brown band (colder weather)

11-01-2010, 09:00 PM	#4
Rockinonahigh Senior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: makes no diffrence,I know who I am. Relationship Status: single,maybe looking if the right person comes along. Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: shreveport,Louisiana Posts: 4,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,682 Thanked 14,933 Times in 3,938 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	I nuture myself by takeing time for me,I finaly realised it was ok for me to do that. I got involved in shooting pool so now am on two teams with nice ppl. Im eating right and working out 3 times a week I also make shure I get enought rest. Also im takeing myself less seriously,laughing more.

11-17-2010, 04:00 PM	#7
AtLast Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Woman Preferred Pronoun?: HER - SHE Relationship Status: Relating Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: CA & AZ I'm a Snowbird Posts: 5,408 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,826 Thanked 10,827 Times in 3,199 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Stress reduction techniques are nurturing for me. Can include music and dance, relaxation exercises and meditation, self hypnosis. Plain exercise that I can do.... making sure I take a good walk each day with my pooch and simply taking in the beauty around me. Honoring my spiritual needs has always been a key factor for self-nurturance for me in ways that fit me, not any organization or particular religion. Most important is when I recognize what is causing imbalance, taking control and doing something about these things.