Getting Rid of Flippant Language : Check Yourselves Here

[MizzSabra]

I'm sure at some point, on some website, I may have offended someone with my language.

Words I use on a regular basis and don't intend on stopping:
Fuck
Cunt
Wife Beater
Bastard (Yup, my daughter is a bastard)
Cock Sucker (saved for those really special people)
That's so GAY (Hear this more from queers than straights)
Fag (I see/hear it ALL the time in queer circles, as a matter of fact I use it to describe myself)
Fat (ie: I shop at the fat girl store)
Queer
Bitch
Jesus Christ (or some variation thereof)

There are more, but it's early and I haven't had my hot chocolate yet.

I guess we've all been offended at something someone has said at some point in our lives. I don't normally get offended if someone calls me names....whatever. That's their shit to deal with, not mine. It takes much more than someone to call me a bitch or a cunt or a fag to offend me. Usually my response is "thanks and you have a great day too!"

[Queerasfck]

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Originally Posted by MizzSabra

I'm sure at some point, on some website, I may have offended someone with my language.

Words I use on a regular basis and don't intend on stopping:
Fuck
Cunt
Wife Beater
Bastard (Yup, my daughter is a bastard)
Cock Sucker (saved for those really special people)
That's so GAY (Hear this more from queers than straights)
Fag (I see/hear it ALL the time in queer circles, as a matter of fact I use it to describe myself)
Fat (ie: I shop at the fat girl store)
Queer
Bitch
Jesus Christ (or some variation thereof)

There are more, but it's early and I haven't had my hot chocolate yet.

I guess we've all been offended at something someone has said at some point in our lives. I don't normally get offended if someone calls me names....whatever. That's their shit to deal with, not mine. It takes much more than someone to call me a bitch or a cunt or a fag to offend me. Usually my response is "thanks and you have a great day too!"

The only word that really offends Sabra--WALMART!!

[MizzSabra]

Originally Posted by EzeeTiger

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The only word that really offends Sabra--WALMART!!

It is true. Walmart sends shivers down my spine.

[weatherboi]

Originally Posted by MizzSabra

I'm sure at some point, on some website, I may have offended someone with my language.

Words I use on a regular basis and don't intend on stopping:
Fuck
Cunt
Wife Beater
Bastard (Yup, my daughter is a bastard)
Cock Sucker (saved for those really special people)
That's so GAY (Hear this more from queers than straights)
Fag (I see/hear it ALL the time in queer circles, as a matter of fact I use it to describe myself)
Fat (ie: I shop at the fat girl store)
Queer
Bitch
Jesus Christ (or some variation thereof)

There are more, but it's early and I haven't had my hot chocolate yet.

I guess we've all been offended at something someone has said at some point in our lives. I don't normally get offended if someone calls me names....whatever. That's their shit to deal with, not mine. It takes much more than someone to call me a bitch or a cunt or a fag to offend me. Usually my response is "thanks and you have a great day too!"

I can certainly relate to the bold part of the statement. I usually say the same thing as I am dodging a beer can or a 32oz. styrofoam cup of toothachingly sweet ass iced tea that some redneck threw at me from a truck that sits taller than my house!! LOL

Name calling, and words people choose to use in their vocabulary does not bother me. I do try to watch the words I post because I realize words can be triggers for some folks.

[apretty]

i don't think i'm going to ever get used to hearing, 'that's so gay'. i cringe. i ask for 'clarification' in the nicest way possible.

i love CUNT. (and PUSSY) and the terms feel empowering/affirming to me. calling someone a C is a lot different than just saying the word, 'cunt' or, referencing my own *flower*, however (plus to refrain would be asking me to give up a lot of my favorite bedroom talk).

i do say the rape-word for situations that wouldn't really be considered *sexual assualt/hate crime*. rethinking that, not that i won't say it in the future but am considering what Arwen posted, here. though, i have to say that i feel like it IS the definition of re-victimization when some hateful little man (rush), uses it as slang. i do feel like *MEN* of power and privilege should NEVER use RAPE, especially not to further their political agenda. (makes me SO mad)

(i listen to howard stern, clearly people are able to listen to howard stern and also be sensitive with regards to language.)

[NotAnAverageGuy]

I am with Sabra I have my language that I used and don't intend to stop using

I have a huge list of words I use but I shall spare y'all with the horrid list

[Just_G]

I don't really think anyone is asking anyone to STOP using words and language that might be a part of their every day vocabulary per se....I think what is being asked is that you (the general you) be more conscious of those around you (again, the general you) that might be offended by certain words or phrases.

Trust me, I cuss like a sailor and then some...so cussing is not one of the things that offends me. It is the blatant name calling, i.e. using the term retard to talk about someone slow or that did something stupid, or like when I pull what I call a "Mcgyver" and fix something by an odd means...my uncle calls it "n*-rigged". I hate that kind of stuff!!

Some people can just be so inconsiderate.

[MizzSabra]

Originally Posted by Just_G

I don't really think anyone is asking anyone to STOP using words and language that might be a part of their every day vocabulary per se....I think what is being asked is that you (the general you) be more conscious of those around you (again, the general you) that might be offended by certain words or phrases.

Trust me, I cuss like a sailor and then some...so cussing is not one of the things that offends me. It is the blatant name calling, i.e. using the term retard to talk about someone slow or that did something stupid, or like when I pull what I call a "Mcgyver" and fix something by an odd means...my uncle calls it "n*-rigged". I hate that kind of stuff!!

Some people can just be so inconsiderate.

In effect this becomes censorship (which I am totally against) and me having to monitor other people's feelings. Part of me feels that people have become SO politically correct that you can't say anything without offending someone.

If I find something that offends me (believe me, it takes a LOT) I just pass it by almost every single time. Why? Because it's not MY truth that's being written, it's someone else's and who am I to tell them NOT to say something? I may disagree, but they still have the right to say it.

Offensive to me: "Don't think, just sit there and be pretty." THAT is offensive to ME. And yes, I've had gfs say that to me. Abusive, yes. Offensive, yes. Did I tell them to fuck off? You bet.

[NotAnAverageGuy]

Censorship, that's the word I was looking for, thank Sabra

[Just_G]

Originally Posted by MizzSabra

In effect this becomes censorship (which I am totally against) and me having to monitor other people's feelings. Part of me feels that people have become SO politically correct that you can't say anything without offending someone.

If I find something that offends me (believe me, it takes a LOT) I just pass it by almost every single time. Why? Because it's not MY truth that's being written, it's someone else's and who am I to tell them NOT to say something? I may disagree, but they still have the right to say it.

Offensive to me: "Don't think, just sit there and be pretty." THAT is offensive to ME. And yes, I've had gfs say that to me. Abusive, yes. Offensive, yes. Did I tell them to fuck off? You bet.

I totally get what you are saying Sabra, trust me I do. I guess the way I put it didn't come across how I wanted it to. The second paragraph of what I wrote should have been tied in with the first one. (I know what I am trying to say, but can't seem to word it the best way when typing. )
I would more consider it like a common courtesy (not saying that you have none of that, so please don't take it that way) to not use certain terms around certain people when say, standing around in a group of friends. Like if I was talking to my friends, and one of which is Jewish, I would not say something like "man, I really jewed that guy down on the price of that car". They would be mortified. (as would I, because that is not terminology I personally use...but am using it as an example here).

I get that you see it as censorship, but I guess I see it differently. It's all good.

And trust me, I am one of the least PC people around sometimes.

[Arwen]

For me, it is more about self-censorship. G's example was a good one.

It's also about knowing your audience. The C word offends some and not others. It's not a word I'm going to use in church(not that I'm Christian even) but I am not going to set out to intentionally offend.

If I know someone doesn't like something (like say...Wal-Mart) then I will self-censor myself to avoid that word.

There are terms that set me off internally. I may not address them with the person ( working on that ability), but I will mark them on my internal list.

So, for me, self-censorship and respecting those I care about is more important than just speaking my mind and saying whatever I want.

I am not saying that is what others ARE doing. I am saying that is what I am not doing.

[MsDemeanor]

Originally Posted by MizzSabra

Offensive to me: "Don't think, just sit there and be pretty." THAT is offensive to ME. And yes, I've had gfs say that to me.

I can not possibly even begin to imagine that anyone who knows anything about you would ever dare to say that to you.