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11-18-2010, 04:16 PM
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this is a timely thread for me... not too long ago at all i realized that i was shedding the ease with which i could share myself...
when i was very young... i did not share me... in my middle decades... say... 25 to 45 i was really ok with rolling over and over and over... i have never ever really wanted to be fucked... i could stand to have someones mouth on me... have actually enjoyed the hell out of it b4... also... touch being what it is i enjoyed that too... the last little while tho... i am coming to the realization that i may be becoming stone... i just do not want to be touched... by anyone... i am very lucky in that i have a pretty good relationship with what some call tantric techniques... i call the a life saver... i have been looking at all angles of this part of my psyche that is causing me to need to protect myself... and... i think that may be as simple as that for me... protecting myself... i love women... i want to never have to do without a woman... but... i think i could do without a woman touching me for the rest of my life... i just dont want it... someone weigh in here... would this indeed make me stone... or someone that is having an issue right now.. ?? |
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For me, being Stone has never been about feeling a need to protect myself. I just find all the pleasure I need in pleasing the other. That is where I glean my pleasure. Mental orgasm. P.S. I think it is really healthy that you are questioning which it is, rather than just assuming that all of a sudden you have become stone. A lot of folks would do just that, so that they wouldn't have to deal with it. I respect that and I think it is pretty cool that you are willing to put that out here. 
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11-18-2010, 06:09 PM
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.gif "Say What?") i like what you said about the mental orgasm from enjoying my lover... that is the biggest and hardest thing i missed when i was younger and had to make myself share... and... thanks for the thoughts about figuring it out before i call it... tho i think that if i continue with the way i feel right now i will end up being stone... quid pro quo... |
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11-18-2010, 06:21 PM
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Stone here. Have been for as long as I can remember. For me it is in the mind as well. Really don't like my junk touched. .02
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02-23-2011, 09:59 AM
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err ahh yes Wax I am ....... lol
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Hey Stones
Now this looks like a thread I need to subscribe to.
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Morning all
Slept in this morn and man it felt good. Have to get busy here soon working on my car and a lady friend's truck.
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A stone butch is a woman who is strongly masculine in character and dress, who tops their partners sexually (and sometimes emotionally), and who does not wish to be touched genitally. Not all stone butches identify in female terms, some are known to identify with male pronouns, and many stone butches - not all, but many - do not identify themselves with lesbian or within the lesbian community. A common partner for a stone butch is a Stone Femme, who is a femme who bottoms sexually or who wishes not to touch the genitals of her stone butch partner. This is not one hundred percent of the former or latter but is a overall old school pattern. Butches are very diverse in emotion and sexual expression.
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It took a long time for me to know that I wasn't the only one who got their sexual pleasure through pleasing their partner...mental orgasm, exactly.
For years, I thought I was bonkers...then one day I read Stone Butch Blues and wept openly, for the first time in years. At long last I was able to identify myself as a human being....a living, breathing person....a stone butch. I think I should have been born male, but it didn't happen. But that isn't what makes me stone. It's my lack of desire to be touched in certain areas that makes me stone. For me, its enough to have my partner lay close.....and kissing marathons are amazing too. 
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She and I, we got it going on...
Through healthy conversation; understanding, acceptance and sharing continue to be presented. I am an exceptionally blessed stoner gy to have such a beautiful, loving femme that shares with me and appreciates the stone gy that I am. As a sub and a partner to a stone, my girl respects where I'm coming from and is considerate of things we discussed early on in our relationship. However, I have been aware for some time that something needed to be adressed and permission granted for her to feel that she was not crossing boundaries. We continue to grow as a couple, as lovers, as a stone with hys femme that loves hym, as a femme with her stone that appreciates and loves the sub that she is... It's a beautiful thing we got going on here. 
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Hi
 am new to the planet and have never really been able to put myself into a box or attach myself to a label. To begin with I wished I could to feel more at ease about my sexuality but hey ho, I'm beginning to feel better about just being me Anyway, the point is I've always felt attracted to butch women or ladies that give off masculine energy in someway or another - feminine girls have never done anything for me. Stone butches also attract me but my not identifying as a stone femme.... ah dear, I find ID'ing and labelling all rather confusing and makes me feel I would not be compatible with certain people because of it? I hope this doesn't come across as ignorant or offensive in anyway, I'm a relative newbie to my own sexuality so please forgive my wide eyed-ness about everything
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I am an old stone butch. Back in the day, as they say, I was told by other stones in my area that stone meant the butch had no desire to be penetrated and the femme had no desire to penetrate anyone. There could be any varying degree of what boundary the butch or femme had as to touching the butch in any other way and they needed to state their boundaries to each other..but it was generally true that a stone butch did not want their junk touched at all..no touching below the waist. Some of us wanted no touching of any female part on our bodies. The butch usually looked a bit more masculine physically, i.e more narrow hips, masculine dress, but it was not always the case, and the femmes...well they just looked like str8 women pretty much.
The same was true for the mentality , with butches having a more masculine way of thinking, but not necessarily just like biological males, and femmes just, well, thinking like girls. Everything seems to be a bit more fluid these days and I am no longer sure what exactly stone can be defined as, or even if sexuality can be defined and labeled at all. All I know is I have always identified as stone,and still qualify by the old definition easily, so stone I am lol Last edited by StoicStone; 06-06-2017 at 08:55 AM. Reason: my typing sucks |
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You're not kidding! Seems like... back in the day... titles / labels / whatever ... had pretty discrete definitions. Now... if you offer up a title / label / whatever it becomes a whole discussion. lol <-- not a bad thing but ya know...
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 BUT ... in the case of a stone femme ... they can go either way (so to speak!) in that they may have no desire to penetrate OR have no desire to be penetrated! Sexuality has definitely become UBER fluid!  Quote:
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