How Many Members Found Love on BFP?

katsarecool · 12-14-2010, 06:52 PM

A poll because I am curious that way...

Linus · 12-14-2010, 06:59 PM

What does "Love in Friendship" mean?

I will say that while I haven't found "love" in the romantic sense (since K and I were together before BFP formed), I have found closer ties to my extended family that I haven't had in a while.

katsarecool · 12-14-2010, 07:00 PM

Love in Friendship means finding friends that you absolutely love but not in a romantic way.

That has happened to me several times even though I have only been a member slightly more than two months!!!

Jesse · 12-14-2010, 07:30 PM

I have found love in friendship with several here, though I had this with some already on the dash site.

No love in the romantic sense though. :wondering where the hot femmes in Florida are that date Transmen:

DapperButch · 12-14-2010, 08:24 PM

I chose other b/c I am not looking for love on BFP.

I hope that no couple met on the site have gotten married...the site has only been open for a year!

Corkey · 12-14-2010, 08:35 PM

I'm an other, I met and married my wife before this site was a glimmer.

bigbutchmistie · 12-14-2010, 08:45 PM

I havent met anyone romantically to fall in love with on this site or any of the other sites

However, I always keep an open mind and do know a few that met via the other sites who are married now

I also have met many friends on here whom I love...

Cowboi · 12-14-2010, 08:49 PM

I have met friends, but no love.........

Billy · 12-14-2010, 09:28 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by June

I already had some from the Dash site, but at the Reunion, I met and fell in love with a bunch more folks in the non-romantic way. I can't wait to collect some more next October!

I have basically thrown Myself at your Mom , she is very spunky , I like that She would have fun if she came to LR in October , just sayin

Billy · 12-14-2010, 09:52 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by June

Oh, Jesus, Billy. Be careful what you wish for.

True story - And a tiny derail.

When I first came out, I did a lot of volunteer stuff, and I did a fund-raiser at our ONE Lesbian bar and invited my mom to go along. She was just fine till the cute girl in the leather harness put a tiny donut on her nipple and a drag queen ate it off.

I am not sure what she would do if Uncle Terry reprised "Dick in the Box".

Ohhhhhhhhhhhh I can understand that Sorry for the derail ..

Gemme · 12-14-2010, 10:00 PM

Organic and I technically didn't *meet* on here so I filed us under "other".

Nat · 12-14-2010, 11:52 PM

Love y'all.

JustJo · 12-15-2010, 07:00 AM

Scoote and I met on the dash site...so I put us in "other" as well.

Nat · 12-15-2010, 07:47 AM

I met my gf through craigslist. I put up an ad that went something like this:

"Are there ANY other lesbians in this damn tiny town? I'm going to see X movie at X time. Get out from behind your keyboards and come join me. This is my very last weekend in town.

PS. Don't be a craigslist murderer please."

And I included a pic. Nobody came to the movie that night (except me). But I got some responses. One from a married lady with a half-dressed picture of herself, another from a lady claiming to be in the closet (again half-dressed), and then one from a lesbian in a nearby town who wrote a very sweet email and then also talked about other movies she liked. We decided to meet the next night for a movie - not as a date, just as a hang-out-with-another-lesbian-and-not-live-in-straight-world-for-a-night thing. And she was really cool. Afterwards we exchanged emails and just sort of talked about our pasts and our future plans and life in general, and we both realized the other was pretty cool. I was leaving anyway, so neither of us expected a future, but we did go ahead and have a real date after my work-week was over. It went really well. I was fresh off a failed relationship and not looking for new one, and definitely not a long-distance one, but I ended up going back up to see her shortly after I got back to Texas and she's just the awesome. Kind, gentle, empathetic, smart, logical, sexy. That was over a year ago now, and we've both flown back and forth since then mny times. She comes here on her school breaks, I save up vacation time to go there. She's having her last finals today and then she's coming down here for almost month. I was going to then go see her in January, but some heath issues have come up which may suck up my vacation time. (At my company you can't get to your sick leave until you use 3 "PTO" days). Anyway, I get to see her very soon, and I'm very happy about that.

I hope her finals go well today.

waxnrope · 12-15-2010, 08:33 AM

I'll just say that I'm more guarded than before I came on line.

I have found friends here, and can honestly declare my love for them. In particular, there is nothing like the loyalty of a butch friend, nor the loving friendship of a fierce femme. That alone is worth the handful of stardust in my eyes when I did go overboard.

Tommi · 12-15-2010, 08:50 AM

When you aren't looking it smacks you in the head.
I found love On the Planet and all who come here... mostly all.

I found love at the Reunion BIG TIME>

I love ya baby. do.

I love ya man/boi/girl/Daddy/Mama/ et.at;., I do

I found lovers on other sites prior to spinning in here.
I met that Joisey goil , LeftWriteFemme over there-->before the dashcrash about 3 years ago..Who knew we were destined for a long, reallly long distance relationship. as we are both rooted in our respective soil.

Strappie · 12-15-2010, 07:34 PM

I've found love MANY time's over... I have made friends with some amazing people that I am proud to call my "FRIENDS"

For this I will always be thankful!!

Passionaria · 12-15-2010, 11:49 PM

There are truly delightful people on this site, and I really value the friendships we are creating, a lot. I cherish those sweet warm connections.

Well sharing erotic writing is fun, but I'm an Old school femme. And when I let someone into my heart, I love fiercely. When it comes to online romance, Nancy Regan and I agree, just say NO! I'm afraid I have learned not to trust people I don't really know, with my tender inner landscapes. Please, you know when it's starts getting close it's going, THERE. And for me it's proven unwise to be emotionally vulnerable to someone I've never met. But then again, I'm a very sensitive woman, who believes those parts of me are sacred. Actually my sweet wickedness, belong to my Papi, I'll save them for him, rather than being an online appetizer that gets passed around. <le sigh, rant over>
So, I'm only dating in person, as in drive your car to my house, or meet me at the cafe. No more online romance for me, No dating sites, no craigslist, no adds ~ never again. Punto! Our paths will have to cross naturally, the old fashioned way. I'm sorry, I know I'm a buzz kill.

asphaltcowboi · 12-16-2010, 07:50 AM

there are so many beautiful femmes on here i have found alot of lust but have only found true love in friendship here. i have also met some new butch bros that are true friends

daisygrrl · 12-16-2010, 08:30 AM

I truly adore my friends here! So many fabulous people--how could you not love 'em?!

xoxo

View Poll Results: How many of us have found love on BFP?
Love romance only	9	10.11%
Love with engagement	4	4.49%
Love with marriage	2	2.25%
Love in friendship	31	34.83%
Found love more than once	6	6.74%
Love not found	31	34.83%
Other~please explain	19	21.35%
Multiple Choice Poll. Voters: 89. You may not vote on this poll

12-14-2010, 06:52 PM	#1
katsarecool Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, Woman Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Between Athens and Atlanta, Georgia Posts: 1,236 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,849 Thanked 1,765 Times in 734 Posts Rep Power: 323366	How Many Members Found Love on BFP? A poll because I am curious that way... __________________

12-14-2010, 06:59 PM	#2
Linus The Planet's Technical Bubba How Do You Identify?: FTM Preferred Pronoun?: He/Him/Geek Relationship Status: Married to my forever! Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Redondo Beach, CA Posts: 5,440 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,929 Thanked 10,727 Times in 3,172 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	What does "Love in Friendship" mean? I will say that while I haven't found "love" in the romantic sense (since K and I were together before BFP formed), I have found closer ties to my extended family that I haven't had in a while. __________________ Personal Blog \|\| [] \|\| Cigar Blog "We become Human Doings instead of Human Beings." -- Ram Dass

12-14-2010, 07:00 PM	#3
katsarecool Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, Woman Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Between Athens and Atlanta, Georgia Posts: 1,236 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,849 Thanked 1,765 Times in 734 Posts Rep Power: 323366	Love in Friendship means finding friends that you absolutely love but not in a romantic way. That has happened to me several times even though I have only been a member slightly more than two months!!! __________________

12-14-2010, 07:30 PM	#4
Jesse Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Transguy Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Central West Coast of Florida Posts: 5,204 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 34,866 Thanked 17,782 Times in 3,940 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	I have found love in friendship with several here, though I had this with some already on the dash site. No love in the romantic sense though. :wondering where the hot femmes in Florida are that date Transmen: __________________ “You’re so hard on yourself. Take a moment. Sit back. Marvel at your life: at the grief that softened you, at the heartache that widened you, at the suffering that strengthened you. Despite everything, you still grow. Be proud of this.”

12-14-2010, 08:24 PM	#5
DapperButch Roadster Guy How Do You Identify?: FTM, Stone Butch Preferred Pronoun?: He Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Northeast Posts: 7,745 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 26,545 Thanked 26,814 Times in 5,772 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	I chose other b/c I am not looking for love on BFP. I hope that no couple met on the site have gotten married...the site has only been open for a year! __________________ -Dapper Are you educated or indoctrinated?

12-14-2010, 08:35 PM	#6
Corkey Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Human Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Very Married Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Where I want to be Posts: 8,155 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 47,491 Thanked 29,270 Times in 6,637 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	I'm an other, I met and married my wife before this site was a glimmer. __________________ "Many proposals have been made to us to adopt your laws, your religion, your manners and your customs. We would be better pleased with beholding the good effects of these doctrines in your own practices, than with hearing you talk about them". ~Old Tassel, Chief of the Tsalagi (Cherokee)

12-14-2010, 08:45 PM	#7
bigbutchmistie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Since You Need A Label. Butch Relationship Status: Still Dreaming Of My Happily Ever After Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Arlington Texas Posts: 4,009 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,950 Thanked 5,364 Times in 1,941 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	I havent met anyone romantically to fall in love with on this site or any of the other sites However, I always keep an open mind and do know a few that met via the other sites who are married now I also have met many friends on here whom I love...

12-14-2010, 08:49 PM	#8
Cowboi Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Holding My Red Circle Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Louisiana Posts: 1,811 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,051 Thanked 3,962 Times in 1,230 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I have met friends, but no love......... __________________ Let There Be Cowgirls

12-14-2010, 10:00 PM	#11
Gemme Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Queer Stone Femme Girl of the Unicorn Variety Preferred Pronoun?: She, as in 'She's a GEM' Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: The roads are narrow here Posts: 36,631 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 182,498 Thanked 107,973 Times in 25,664 Posts Rep Power: 21474888	*Organic and I technically didn't meet* on here so I filed us under "other". __________________ Gemme's Journal I'm misunderestimated.**

12-14-2010, 11:52 PM	#12
Nat Senior Member How Do You Identify?: bigender (DID System) Preferred Pronoun?: he/him or alter-specific Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Central TX Posts: 3,537 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,047 Thanked 13,971 Times in 2,591 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Love y'all. __________________ I'm a fountain of blood. In the shape of a girl. - Bjork What is to give light must endure burning. -Viktor Frankl

12-15-2010, 07:00 AM	#13
JustJo Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: pushy broad Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Follow your heart; it knows things your mind cannot explain. Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Southeast corner Posts: 5,633 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 24,417 Thanked 25,406 Times in 4,660 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Scoote and I met on the dash site...so I put us in "other" as well. __________________ I'm not tall enough to ride emotional roller coasters

12-15-2010, 07:47 AM	#14
Nat Senior Member How Do You Identify?: bigender (DID System) Preferred Pronoun?: he/him or alter-specific Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Central TX Posts: 3,537 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,047 Thanked 13,971 Times in 2,591 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	I met my gf through craigslist. I put up an ad that went something like this: "Are there ANY other lesbians in this damn tiny town? I'm going to see X movie at X time. Get out from behind your keyboards and come join me. This is my very last weekend in town. PS. Don't be a craigslist murderer please." And I included a pic. Nobody came to the movie that night (except me). But I got some responses. One from a married lady with a half-dressed picture of herself, another from a lady claiming to be in the closet (again half-dressed), and then one from a lesbian in a nearby town who wrote a very sweet email and then also talked about other movies she liked. We decided to meet the next night for a movie - not as a date, just as a hang-out-with-another-lesbian-and-not-live-in-straight-world-for-a-night thing. And she was really cool. Afterwards we exchanged emails and just sort of talked about our pasts and our future plans and life in general, and we both realized the other was pretty cool. I was leaving anyway, so neither of us expected a future, but we did go ahead and have a real date after my work-week was over. It went really well. I was fresh off a failed relationship and not looking for new one, and definitely not a long-distance one, but I ended up going back up to see her shortly after I got back to Texas and she's just the awesome. Kind, gentle, empathetic, smart, logical, sexy. That was over a year ago now, and we've both flown back and forth since then mny times. She comes here on her school breaks, I save up vacation time to go there. She's having her last finals today and then she's coming down here for almost month. I was going to then go see her in January, but some heath issues have come up which may suck up my vacation time. (At my company you can't get to your sick leave until you use 3 "PTO" days). Anyway, I get to see her very soon, and I'm very happy about that. I hope her finals go well today. __________________ I'm a fountain of blood. In the shape of a girl. - Bjork What is to give light must endure burning. -Viktor Frankl

12-15-2010, 08:33 AM	#15
waxnrope Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Permanently Banned 5/27/2011 Preferred Pronoun?: hy ho, hy ho; he, she, it, whatever Relationship Status: Going slow ... Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: in her orifices ... la frontera Posts: 1,433 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,414 Thanked 2,957 Times in 952 Posts Rep Power: 0	I'll just say that I'm more guarded than before I came on line. I have found friends here, and can honestly declare my love for them. In particular, there is nothing like the loyalty of a butch friend, nor the loving friendship of a fierce femme. That alone is worth the handful of stardust in my eyes when I did go overboard. Last edited by waxnrope; 12-15-2010 at 08:40 AM.

12-15-2010, 08:50 AM	#16
Tommi Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Usually "Hello" Relationship Status: Married and Bound to Tommi's kaijira (Ts_kaijira ) Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Suthun.... California that is. Across the ridge from Laguna Beach. Posts: 8,151 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,621 Thanked 21,338 Times in 5,970 Posts Rep Power: 21474860	I love you all.....well , mostly all. When you aren't looking it smacks you in the head. I found love On the Planet and all who come here... mostly all. I found love at the Reunion BIG TIME> I love ya baby. do. I love ya man/boi/girl/Daddy/Mama/ et.at;., I do I found lovers on other sites prior to spinning in here. I met that Joisey goil , LeftWriteFemme over there-->before the dashcrash about 3 years ago..Who knew we were destined for a long, reallly long distance relationship. as we are both rooted in our respective soil.

12-15-2010, 07:34 PM	#17
Strappie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: I know who I am... Doesn't matter Relationship Status: It's a new day.... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Mpls, MN Posts: 3,283 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,813 Thanked 4,945 Times in 1,350 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	I've found love MANY time's over... I have made friends with some amazing people that I am proud to call my "FRIENDS" For this I will always be thankful!!

12-15-2010, 11:49 PM	#18
Passionaria Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Urban Bohemian : http://youtu.be/IM96Ch9Gx4A Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: She ran away with with the Gypsy's ✿ Posts: 2,519 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,316 Thanked 3,737 Times in 1,248 Posts Rep Power: 16689910	le sigh There are truly delightful people on this site, and I really value the friendships we are creating, a lot. I cherish those sweet warm connections. Well sharing erotic writing is fun, but I'm an Old school femme. And when I let someone into my heart, I love fiercely. When it comes to online romance, Nancy Regan and I agree, just say NO! I'm afraid I have learned not to trust people I don't really know, with my tender inner landscapes. Please, you know when it's starts getting close it's going, THERE. And for me it's proven unwise to be emotionally vulnerable to someone I've never met. But then again, I'm a very sensitive woman, who believes those parts of me are sacred. Actually my sweet wickedness, belong to my Papi, I'll save them for him, rather than being an online appetizer that gets passed around. <le sigh, rant over> So, I'm only dating in person, as in drive your car to my house, or meet me at the cafe. No more online romance for me, No dating sites, no craigslist, no adds ~ never again. Punto! Our paths will have to cross naturally, the old fashioned way. I'm sorry, I know I'm a buzz kill. __________________ *Moon cat madness*

12-16-2010, 07:50 AM	#19
asphaltcowboi Senior Member How Do You Identify?: butch Relationship Status: HAPPY Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: ..... Posts: 1,509 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,367 Thanked 3,297 Times in 1,042 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	there are so many beautiful femmes on here i have found alot of lust but have only found true love in friendship here. i have also met some new butch bros that are true friends __________________

12-16-2010, 08:30 AM	#20
daisygrrl Member How Do You Identify?: mouthy but adorable; kinky Gerbera Preferred Pronoun?: hey, cutie (or dudette) Relationship Status: xoxo Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: The South (Gooogia peach) Posts: 475 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,157 Thanked 525 Times in 223 Posts Rep Power: 1065210	I truly adore my friends here! So many fabulous people--how could you not love 'em?! xoxo __________________ You can’t change that system by just getting your own rights, tinkering with the engine and leaving. You have to take on the whole machine. --Riki Anne Wilchins Hold on to the lessons, let go of the pain. --Leslie Feinberg