Questions/Issues/Wishlists for BFP

[~Bo]

Originally Posted by June

Honest to Pete, Bit.

If we're going to do that, I'd like one on the Dear thread that says:

"DO NOT COME IN HERE AND VENT ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP DRAMA, WE DON'T CARE IF YOU THINK THEY'LL NEVER COME ON THIS SITE!"

or

"THIS POST ISN'T AS THINLY VEILED AS YOU THINK IT IS. ARE YOU SURE YOU WANT TO HIT THE SUBMIT BUTTON ON THIS POST?"

Who is Pete?

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by ~Bo

Who is Pete?

Your long lost brother.

Merry Christmas!

[~Bo]

Originally Posted by Gemme

Your long lost brother.

Merry Christmas!

Oh swell........now I gotta buy another Christmas gift. I hate when relatives pop outta the woodwork.

[~Bo]

Originally Posted by June

Oh, hai Cousin Bo! I like shiny stuff and gift certificates.

Oh damn.......another one.

[Bit]

I believe the reality of a website like this is that it's going to consistently draw new people, and there is nothing visible to the majority of people to say that the two specific threads for age-play have different rules than all the rest of the website. In effect, that means these two threads have invisible rules.

It seems only fair to find a way to let people know that it's different, and since many people navigate from the front page or from their subscriptions (without going through the formal forum pages that list all the threads) it seems to me the only way to be transparent and fair about the rules is to post them right there on the threads themselves. That's why I made the request.

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by Bit

I believe the reality of a website like this is that it's going to consistently draw new people, and there is nothing visible to the majority of people to say that the two specific threads for age-play have different rules than all the rest of the website. In effect, that means these two threads have invisible rules.

It seems only fair to find a way to let people know that it's different, and since many people navigate from the front page or from their subscriptions (without going through the formal forum pages that list all the threads) it seems to me the only way to be transparent and fair about the rules is to post them right there on the threads themselves. That's why I made the request.

Maybe someone could draw up a rules post and regularly repost it? Arwen does that with the 9 Words Poetry thread because folks come in there and just write 9 words and leave, without bothering to read anything else to see what the rules are for the thread.

Sadly, in just about every thread that has rules of conduct or whatnot, most people don't seem to bother to look around and find out how to post and what is and is not acceptable but just go and throw whatever they think the thread is about up. The gaming threads are notorious for this and is why I don't frequent them as much as I used to. I am very much a 'play by the rules' kind of person and it's not worth the irritation to me so I just don't go in there so much anymore.

[Medusa]

It's possible with several caveats.

There are modifications that will force users to read popups based on what (I THINK, so don't hold this in concrete) Forum they are in so we would have to put the Daddy/Girl thread in a forum by itself in order to do that (and that's provided that we can find a modification that will work with the version of software that we are running).

I will look into it but also will encourage people to use their judgment when posting photos. Just because there is not a neon sign above a thread flashing rows and rows of "rules" does not mean that there is not some responsibility on the poster to pause and ask themselves if what they are about to post is a good idea or if it might have ramifications to the other members or site owners.

Hell, we have folks who have been a member of this site for over a year who have never read the TOS.

[Bit]

Originally Posted by Medusa

It's possible with several caveats.

There are modifications that will force users to read popups based on what (I THINK, so don't hold this in concrete) Forum they are in so we would have to put the Daddy/Girl thread in a forum by itself in order to do that (and that's provided that we can find a modification that will work with the version of software that we are running).

Why does it have to be a pop-up? Won't pop-up blockers disable it?

Would it be possible to just add to the banner that's already there? It already says it's for threads not meant to be searchable, so could it also say "do not post pictures of actual children in these threads"?

I confess I haven't gone to the forum page to see which other threads are in the Inner Sanctum, and that I'm assuming anything potentially troublesome enough to have been placed in that forum probably shouldn't have kids' pics in it anyway. Maybe I'm wrong... but if not, wouldn't it be easier just to add some text to that banner than to hunt down a whole new gizmo?
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You know.... it doesn't seem logical or self-evident to me that there would ever be any repercussions from posting pictures in a thread, especially pictures that already came off the internet. This has been a huge (and troubling!) education to me. I wouldn't think that a newbie to a thread would even know that we could have any kind of trouble or ramifications over whatever pictures they might post. I sure didn't know, and I've been around a while.

[Admin]

Bit~
It doesnt *have* to be anything, but we clearly need something.

It may not seem logical to you why we are so strident about photos on this site so let me explain a few things:
(in list form because Im super disorganized right now, not meant to be preachy or anything)

1. Many people do not understand Daddy/Girl, Mommy/boy, or age play. For those people, logging into a website and seeing someone who claims to be a "Daddy" talking sexually to someone who is using "babytalk" or who appears to be a child will raise red flags.

2. Photos of children, even if hosted on another site, are problematic when mixed with chat from grown adults who appear to be encroaching on sexual behavior. Even flirtations mixed with photos of children can make us look like a site full of pedophiles and Im SO not down with that.

3. We certainly arent picking on the age threads with these guidelines either. We don't allow nudity to be posted anywhere on the site, even if it's hosted on another server. This is mainly because our server has guidelines and we will quickly be classified as a porn site if we have lots of photos of naked sex organs all over the place.

Just the other day, we had to ask folks not to post photos of human corpses on this site.

We may at some point have to ask folks to refrain from posting other types of images.

The bottom line here is that we have to do what we have to do to keep this site safe and operating. Our operation is often in the hands of the people who post here, meaning that we could be shut down by our service provider if people post things that are illegal, questionable, or legally troublesome.

I'll clue you in on a little something-something: There are folks out there who would like nothing better than to see this site go bye-bye and are willing to comb this site for hours a day just looking for something to report to our hosting provider, or something to start ugly rumors over, or something to just cause headaches for the Admin and Mod team.

While people like this often have my pity for a life that is so obviously lacking in love and positivity, I don't intend to make it easy for them to play out their ridicululousness. This is why we have to make boundaries and ask folks to help us keep the site well lit.

Doesn't mean we can't discuss kink, sex, irreverant issues, hot topics, etc. Just means we have to exercise some care and responsibility when doing so.

I think we can do that.

Thanks,
Admin

Originally Posted by Bit

Why does it have to be a pop-up? Won't pop-up blockers disable it?

Would it be possible to just add to the banner that's already there? It already says it's for threads not meant to be searchable, so could it also say "do not post pictures of actual children in these threads"?

I confess I haven't gone to the forum page to see which other threads are in the Inner Sanctum, and that I'm assuming anything potentially troublesome enough to have been placed in that forum probably shouldn't have kids' pics in it anyway. Maybe I'm wrong... but if not, wouldn't it be easier just to add some text to that banner than to hunt down a whole new gizmo?
~~~~~~~~~~~~~

You know.... it doesn't seem logical or self-evident to me that there would ever be any repercussions from posting pictures in a thread, especially pictures that already came off the internet. This has been a huge (and troubling!) education to me. I wouldn't think that a newbie to a thread would even know that we could have any kind of trouble or ramifications over whatever pictures they might post. I sure didn't know, and I've been around a while.

[Selenay]

Originally Posted by Medusa

Hell, we have folks who have been a member of this site for over a year who have never read the TOS.

We have TOS?