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little man · 11-09-2009, 04:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Words

I agree that in many cases, it's for our own benefit that we want/expect others to ID one way or another. I have to say though that one of the reasons I prefer to know how someone IDs is that I don't want to offend them by referring to them in a way that makes them uncomfortable and I would imagine that that's fairly common. So, in a way, it can be a no win situation. Ask them how they ID and make them feel pressured into IDing one way or another, or not ask them, and possibly insult them by assuming?

Make sense?

perhaps best to ask for pronoun preference?

D-Money · 11-09-2009, 04:30 PM

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Originally Posted by little man

perhaps best to ask for pronoun preference?

ah, but there are SOOOO many other gender/orientation/sexuality/identity assumptions that are made besides that!

little man · 11-09-2009, 04:44 PM

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Originally Posted by D-Money

ah, but there are SOOOO many other gender/orientation/sexuality/identity assumptions that are made besides that!

i try always to spell and pronounce someone's name correctly. i try to use proper pronouns. after that, i don't much care. i'm not going to refer to someone's other stuff unless i know them well. i guess i really don't care about all that too much....in so far as speaking with someone goes. if a friendship develops, then there will be opportunity for those conversations to be had.

Andrew, Jr. · 11-10-2009, 02:24 PM

I don't care for labels. Never have. The brain is the most important sex organ, not what is in my pants if you ask me.

Andrew

Jet · 11-10-2009, 02:36 PM

I like my label and I like using it to describe myself: Transgendered (and pre-T FTM.) For me, my label provides a sense of order, clarity and a solid identification of what I am. It also signals boundries of what I will and will not tolerate within my own community; discrimination being the first.

11-10-2009, 02:24 PM	#4
Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,249 Times in 2,216 Posts Rep Power: 0	I don't care for labels. Never have. The brain is the most important sex organ, not what is in my pants if you ask me. Andrew

11-10-2009, 02:36 PM	#5
Jet Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: .. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .. Posts: 3,471 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 292 Thanked 2,647 Times in 1,293 Posts Rep Power: 0	I like my label and I like using it to describe myself: Transgendered (and pre-T FTM.) For me, my label provides a sense of order, clarity and a solid identification of what I am. It also signals boundries of what I will and will not tolerate within my own community; discrimination being the first.