Relationships - What things do you want & need?

Soft*Silver · 12-25-2010, 03:02 PM

I have learned so much about myself this year!

I learned I need to be the Dominant in a relationship.

I learned I need to be in a female run relationship...meaning regardless of what gender I date, *I* am the one who leads in the dance

I learned I need to be the lead in bed too. And I need to be with someone I can reciprocate sex with. While I have enjoyed my time with Stone Butches, I know to be sexually satisfied, I need to be the one giving. And if *I* feel like it, he can give back.

I learned I need this to be a 24/7 in and out of bed

I learned I am not shy sexually and certainly not submissive. Assertive doesnt even begin to define what I am in this realm and trying to be anything different (a role I was taught to play from childhood) just wasnt working for me

I learned that I am still coming into myself and am single for this reason. I dont want to mull it over while engaging with the energy of another person.

Blaze · 12-25-2010, 04:09 PM

I am at the 3/4 part of my life.
I really don't have expectations anymore.
I do want to have the freedom to do what makes me happy.
As I would give you the same respect to have happiness.
I don't want to have a list anymore, to much paper work to keep up with.
I would like the respect part of the relationship to be there.
I guess basically what I'm saying is when the right person comes along.
It's most fitting to say both will be different, and it's up to the both of you
to establish a well balanced relationship. You can't change anyone, nor expect them to change, because it's what you want.
As relationships grow, we to change, and sometimes the change is together, other times there changes that are apart.
If you grow apart, it's okay, because we all move at our own pace. Only then will you know if you can go on together or it's time to seperate.
Which ever it is. The love and respect will always be there. Because no only were you lovers, but you are best friends, and friends are there no matter if your up or down.
Once again, no more expectations in my life... Live hard, live fully, open your eyes...........

12-25-2010, 03:02 PM	#1
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,592 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,894 Times in 4,062 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	I have learned so much about myself this year! I learned I need to be the Dominant in a relationship. I learned I need to be in a female run relationship...meaning regardless of what gender I date, I am the one who leads in the dance I learned I need to be the lead in bed too. And I need to be with someone I can reciprocate sex with. While I have enjoyed my time with Stone Butches, I know to be sexually satisfied, I need to be the one giving. And if I feel like it, he can give back. I learned I need this to be a 24/7 in and out of bed I learned I am not shy sexually and certainly not submissive. Assertive doesnt even begin to define what I am in this realm and trying to be anything different (a role I was taught to play from childhood) just wasnt working for me I learned that I am still coming into myself and am single for this reason. I dont want to mull it over while engaging with the energy of another person. __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

12-25-2010, 04:09 PM	#2
Blaze Senior Member How Do You Identify?: With my drivers Lic. Preferred Pronoun?: Gentleman.. Depends on the Situation. Relationship Status: Last Rodeo, what a ride, many sunrises & sunsets to be had... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: where a realtor had me sign the dotted line Posts: 1,901 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,466 Thanked 5,456 Times in 1,450 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I am at the 3/4 part of my life. I really don't have expectations anymore. I do want to have the freedom to do what makes me happy. As I would give you the same respect to have happiness. I don't want to have a list anymore, to much paper work to keep up with. I would like the respect part of the relationship to be there. I guess basically what I'm saying is when the right person comes along. It's most fitting to say both will be different, and it's up to the both of you to establish a well balanced relationship. You can't change anyone, nor expect them to change, because it's what you want. As relationships grow, we to change, and sometimes the change is together, other times there changes that are apart. If you grow apart, it's okay, because we all move at our own pace. Only then will you know if you can go on together or it's time to seperate. Which ever it is. The love and respect will always be there. Because no only were you lovers, but you are best friends, and friends are there no matter if your up or down. Once again, no more expectations in my life... Live hard, live fully, open your eyes...........