How do you nurture yourself?

LeftWriteFemme · 01-08-2011, 08:23 PM

I had a really rough afternoon, so I gave the dog and I a spa treatment, trimmed nails, shaved our legs and I dyed my hair. I can't make the world spin kinder, but I have learned to be kinder to me.

Jesse · 01-29-2011, 05:00 PM

We are well into the first month of the new year and fast approaching February and I found myself sitting here thinking about all of the changes I have made recently for the better.

The big news in my world is that I am no longer a smoker! I never thought I would be able to utter those words, in fact I never even tried to quit, because I just knew I couldn't do it. Well, I was wrong. The day came on January 5th, 2011 that I said,"I'm done smoking now." I put them down and have not looked back. I can already sense my health improving in the physical sense, what I had not counted on was the emotional improvement that came from not smoking. I feel really good for the first time in a long time.

This year, I am doing things for me that I have always wanted to do and this was the first big step.

The second thing was I joined a gym and am working out again to get back into shape. I am living my life for me, not for anyone else and I am happy!

What are you doing for you this year?

socialjustice_fsu · 01-29-2011, 05:29 PM

How do I nurture myself?

Yoga. This practice requires one to slow down, get focused, stretch, release, meditate and brings balance to this life.

It is a whole lot better than xanax, sleeping aids, alcohol...well, wine after yoga is really a super combination.

TheMerryFairy · 04-17-2013, 11:01 PM

Self-care and positive thought/energy

Self- care is more than a physical ritual, really. Yes I drink herbal teas and take care of my skin/body with healthy food but I also meditate, spend time outdoors, make fun whatever I do, I dream and follow my gypsy soul passion.

I spend time with friends, community and I try to experience and learn as much as I can about other cultures.

I choose to be happy.

Rockinonahigh · 04-17-2013, 11:34 PM

What I do to care for myself is for the most part choose to be happy,another thing I do is keep negetive people out of my life as much as possable,I also allow myself to have things I want without guilt.I went through some therapy to beable to finaly release whatever was holding me back from injoying my life.I have always taken care of everyone but me,now I can relax then have some fun.

Kätzchen · 07-18-2015, 01:36 PM

I try to take good care of me, most days. But I find that getting enough rest (sleep) and finding time or making time for quiet time -- reading a book I have put aside, or wandering outdoors for a walk by myself, or even pampering myself with a long bath and giving myself a pedicure and manicure or trimming up my hair just a skosh -- is something that aids my sense of "doing something good for me" kind of thing.

I also like it when home life is relatively quiet because my work day can often be quite hectic. So coming home to a quiet household is precious, to me.

I also, because it has always been like this for me, seek out others who are quiet like me, ensuring somehow that notion that centers itself on the quiet side of the spectrum.

But I also practice mindfulness, and I try to be mindful of myself and others in my life. It's not always easy to do, so when life seems to complicated or I feels stressed out by life itself, I just commit to make time for me. To make sure I feel like I am getting what I need, making sure I can meet my own perceived needs. That way, I am not wanting for much and it helps to know I can meet my own needs.

When I can't meet my own needs or wants, then I just have a long talk with myself and find a place in my mind where I feel things can be okay.

Thanks for the forum topic to share, Jesse.

Corkey · 01-29-2011, 05:30 PM

I sleep if I'm not feeling well.
Wood work when I feel creative
Take photos when I'm happy
Workout when I feel really good
Snow shovel when it needs it
Cook when hungry
Love my wife like there is no tomorrow.

sylvie · 04-21-2011, 07:42 PM

nurturing myself:

this is something quite new to me, actually..
over the years i've taken care of everyone but myself..
and learned at the beginning of this year that it's important to take care of me too... so this is something i've been working on, lots..

i've a high need to take care of people - so putting myself on that list was a difficult task... but taken very seriously..

i'm rewiring my healthy eating plan - taking new steps each week to put myself on the path for a healthier lifestyle and healthier ME!

napping..
good night's sleep..
daily exercise..
treating myself to a hot relaxing bubble bath..
painting my fingernails & toenails..
finding ways to destress, constantly!
quiet time with a good book
reading the newspaper first thing in the a.m..
getting outdoors and enjoying the fresh air, LOTS..
hiking, walking, swinging at the playground, skipping rocks on the water, star gazing, so many little things that bring me joy & peace..
and mostly, laughter! lots & lots of laughter!

All ways of nurturing myself ♥ and it feels GOOD, to make time for these things...

Turtle · 04-22-2011, 11:22 PM

Taking a hot soak in the tub

sleeping in

going to the farmer's market, taking my time getting fresh produce and flowers

reading something that feeds my soul

meditating

going for walks and looking at the moon

conversating with good friends ;-)

cinnamongrrl · 04-17-2013, 03:41 PM

Reading...nurtures my brain

Yoga...nurtures my body and emotional well-being

Hiking... nurtures my soul

Tuff Stuff · 11-01-2015, 05:51 PM

Sometimes I will just shut it all out,sitting alone and by myself.I've been told when i do this i look spaced out..but believe me,that's when i'm at my most awake.It's just that i'm thinking really hard,coming up with my next plan,my next best idea..bare with me and try not to interrupt.

In other words...i'm drowning you out on purpose,but for a good reason...to listen to my own inner voice,my own thoughts.

Then,I come back..rejuvenated..of course,a hot cup of black coffee can give me a similar buzz.

Relax,the world will still be there,waiting for you...

homoe · 11-01-2015, 05:54 PM

every day I tell myself I am good, I am kind, I am important!

cinnamongrrl · 11-01-2015, 07:03 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by homoe

every day I tell myself I am good, I am kind, I am important!

don't forget...I'm good enough, I'm smart enough...and gosh darn it! People like me

homoe · 11-01-2015, 07:05 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by cinnamongrrl

don't forget...I'm good enough, I'm smart enough...and gosh darn it! People like me

OMG it's Stuart Smalley!

01-08-2011, 08:23 PM	#1
LeftWriteFemme Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Daddy's good girl Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Jersey Posts: 16,642 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,529 Thanked 12,285 Times in 5,184 Posts Rep Power: 21474869	I had a really rough afternoon, so I gave the dog and I a spa treatment, trimmed nails, shaved our legs and I dyed my hair. I can't make the world spin kinder, but I have learned to be kinder to me. __________________ Clicking on these dragon eggs will take you to my new erotic novella: Dragon Bait .........Hope you enjoy it! ________________________________________________ Please take a look at my work Click on flashing smilie to see my website To look at my Daddy/girl erotica book Click on pompom girl to see Elbows on the Table, Palms Flat

01-29-2011, 05:00 PM	#2
Jesse Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Transguy Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Central West Coast of Florida Posts: 5,204 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 34,866 Thanked 17,780 Times in 3,940 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	We are well into the first month of the new year and fast approaching February and I found myself sitting here thinking about all of the changes I have made recently for the better. The big news in my world is that I am no longer a smoker! I never thought I would be able to utter those words, in fact I never even tried to quit, because I just knew I couldn't do it. Well, I was wrong. The day came on January 5th, 2011 that I said,"I'm done smoking now." I put them down and have not looked back. I can already sense my health improving in the physical sense, what I had not counted on was the emotional improvement that came from not smoking. I feel really good for the first time in a long time. This year, I am doing things for me that I have always wanted to do and this was the first big step. The second thing was I joined a gym and am working out again to get back into shape. I am living my life for me, not for anyone else and I am happy! What are you doing for you this year? __________________ “You’re so hard on yourself. Take a moment. Sit back. Marvel at your life: at the grief that softened you, at the heartache that widened you, at the suffering that strengthened you. Despite everything, you still grow. Be proud of this.”

01-29-2011, 05:29 PM	#3
socialjustice_fsu Member How Do You Identify?: Feminine Preferred Pronoun?: She, her Relationship Status: It’s all good. Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: The gulf waters are sapphire blue and the beach sand is white as snow. Posts: 607 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,866 Thanked 2,155 Times in 439 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Ironic this thread is up today. How do I nurture myself? Yoga. This practice requires one to slow down, get focused, stretch, release, meditate and brings balance to this life. It is a whole lot better than xanax, sleeping aids, alcohol...well, wine after yoga is really a super combination. __________________ If you are going through hell, keep going. Winston Churchill

07-18-2015, 01:36 PM	#6
Kätzchen Member How Do You Identify?: As a Brick House (Femme) Relationship Status: Busy (involved with a special someone here at home) Join Date: May 2010 Location: In a small community Posts: 16,277 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,276 Thanked 33,638 Times in 10,730 Posts Rep Power: 21474868	I try to take good care of me, most days. But I find that getting enough rest (sleep) and finding time or making time for quiet time -- reading a book I have put aside, or wandering outdoors for a walk by myself, or even pampering myself with a long bath and giving myself a pedicure and manicure or trimming up my hair just a skosh -- is something that aids my sense of "doing something good for me" kind of thing. I also like it when home life is relatively quiet because my work day can often be quite hectic. So coming home to a quiet household is precious, to me. I also, because it has always been like this for me, seek out others who are quiet like me, ensuring somehow that notion that centers itself on the quiet side of the spectrum. But I also practice mindfulness, and I try to be mindful of myself and others in my life. It's not always easy to do, so when life seems to complicated or I feels stressed out by life itself, I just commit to make time for me. To make sure I feel like I am getting what I need, making sure I can meet my own perceived needs. That way, I am not wanting for much and it helps to know I can meet my own needs. When I can't meet my own needs or wants, then I just have a long talk with myself and find a place in my mind where I feel things can be okay. Thanks for the forum topic to share, Jesse. __________________ “The way someone treats you is not a reflection of your worth: It’s a reflection of their emotional capacity,” — Jillian Turecki. ”Without justice, democracy dies,” — Jess Michaels (Epstein survivor). ”The planet can provide for human need, but not human greed,” — Dr Jane Goodall.

01-29-2011, 05:30 PM	#7
Corkey Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Human Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Very Married Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Where I want to be Posts: 8,155 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 47,491 Thanked 29,268 Times in 6,637 Posts Rep Power: 21474860	I sleep if I'm not feeling well. Wood work when I feel creative Take photos when I'm happy Workout when I feel really good Snow shovel when it needs it Cook when hungry Love my wife like there is no tomorrow. __________________ "Many proposals have been made to us to adopt your laws, your religion, your manners and your customs. We would be better pleased with beholding the good effects of these doctrines in your own practices, than with hearing you talk about them". ~Old Tassel, Chief of the Tsalagi (Cherokee)

04-17-2013, 11:01 PM	#4
TheMerryFairy Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Pansexual/Sapiosexual femmey dyke who likes to crossdress now and then Preferred Pronoun?: She/her OR ze if I'm crossdressing Relationship Status: Floating and walking My path, happy in life. Join Date: Dec 2012 Location: On my Merry Fairy way! , Canada Posts: 3,630 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,727 Thanked 8,694 Times in 2,987 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Self-care and positive thought/energy Self- care is more than a physical ritual, really. Yes I drink herbal teas and take care of my skin/body with healthy food but I also meditate, spend time outdoors, make fun whatever I do, I dream and follow my gypsy soul passion. I spend time with friends, community and I try to experience and learn as much as I can about other cultures. I choose to be happy.

04-17-2013, 11:34 PM	#5
Rockinonahigh Senior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: makes no diffrence,I know who I am. Relationship Status: single,maybe looking if the right person comes along. Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: shreveport,Louisiana Posts: 4,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,682 Thanked 14,933 Times in 3,938 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	What I do to care for myself is for the most part choose to be happy,another thing I do is keep negetive people out of my life as much as possable,I also allow myself to have things I want without guilt.I went through some therapy to beable to finaly release whatever was holding me back from injoying my life.I have always taken care of everyone but me,now I can relax then have some fun.

04-21-2011, 07:42 PM	#8
sylvie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Mr Mtn's babygirl Preferred Pronoun?: girly, she Relationship Status: fiercely protected ♥ Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Moving home in OR with Him VERY soooon !! Posts: 2,548 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,834 Thanked 7,501 Times in 1,850 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	nurturing myself: this is something quite new to me, actually.. over the years i've taken care of everyone but myself.. and learned at the beginning of this year that it's important to take care of me too... so this is something i've been working on, lots.. i've a high need to take care of people - so putting myself on that list was a difficult task... but taken very seriously.. i'm rewiring my healthy eating plan - taking new steps each week to put myself on the path for a healthier lifestyle and healthier ME! napping.. good night's sleep.. daily exercise.. treating myself to a hot relaxing bubble bath.. painting my fingernails & toenails.. finding ways to destress, constantly! quiet time with a good book reading the newspaper first thing in the a.m.. getting outdoors and enjoying the fresh air, LOTS.. hiking, walking, swinging at the playground, skipping rocks on the water, star gazing, so many little things that bring me joy & peace.. and mostly, laughter! lots & lots of laughter! All ways of nurturing myself ♥ and it feels GOOD, to make time for these things... __________________ my Mantra: i am letting go of angers, continuing to find forgiveness, welcoming inner peace & deserving of it all. my facebook weight loss page: http://www.facebook.com/asyllyjourney

04-22-2011, 11:22 PM	#9
Turtle Senior Member How Do You Identify?: A mixity Preferred Pronoun?: whatever Relationship Status: chillin Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: in a really really cute little place Posts: 2,144 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,442 Thanked 4,528 Times in 1,219 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I nurture myself by Taking a hot soak in the tub sleeping in going to the farmer's market, taking my time getting fresh produce and flowers reading something that feeds my soul meditating going for walks and looking at the moon conversating with good friends ;-)

04-17-2013, 03:41 PM	#10
cinnamongrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: cleverly disguised as a responsible adult* Preferred Pronoun?: wild woman Relationship Status: No, thank you. Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Home in NC..gonna dig in like a tick this time… Posts: 7,665 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 15,247 Thanked 27,604 Times in 6,959 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	Reading...nurtures my brain Yoga...nurtures my body and emotional well-being Hiking... nurtures my soul

11-01-2015, 05:51 PM	#11
Tuff Stuff Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Woman Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Married Join Date: May 2013 Location: California Posts: 695 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 904 Thanked 1,315 Times in 505 Posts Rep Power: 9408454	One with myself Sometimes I will just shut it all out,sitting alone and by myself.I've been told when i do this i look spaced out..but believe me,that's when i'm at my most awake.It's just that i'm thinking really hard,coming up with my next plan,my next best idea..bare with me and try not to interrupt. In other words...i'm drowning you out on purpose,but for a good reason...to listen to my own inner voice,my own thoughts. Then,I come back..rejuvenated..of course,a hot cup of black coffee can give me a similar buzz. Relax,the world will still be there,waiting for you...

11-01-2015, 05:54 PM	#12
homoe Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: ..... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: 30 minute ferry ride from Seattle Posts: 38,565 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 20,811 Thanked 33,548 Times in 14,914 Posts Rep Power: 21474890	every day I tell myself I am good, I am kind, I am important!