Being Friends with an Ex - How Long

WolfyOne · 12-27-2009, 02:23 PM

I think relationships built on friendship first are the ones that stay with you even if the relationship fails. I've found in my years that sometimes being friends is all you were meant to be. Remaining friends after the break up may not always happen for one reason or another. In about 30 years, I've maintained friendships with all but 3 of my exes. Some of them took longer than others to keep. They may not all be close friendships because life has a way of keeping us all busy. Some I keep in contact with online, others by phone. R and I have talked about many of my exes and some she has even met. Some of them she liked while others shes said, what the hell were you thinking. I even had one that when we split the dogs up we had, got visitation rights. I'd drop my dog at her place for a weekend or week, so the dog still had time to play with her off spring. That was many years ago and what worked for me was great. It may not always work for someone else. Daryn, give her more time to make a new life and maybe she'll see things differently. It's always harder on the one that got dumped. I know, I've been at both ends.

Andrew, Jr. · 12-27-2009, 06:04 PM

Something that my late sister taught me that we all need to socialize with many. Everyone has something to contribute, no matter what it is. And nobody is an island. Just reach out.

Namaste,
Andrew

12-27-2009, 02:23 PM	#1
WolfyOne Magically Delicious How Do You Identify?: Gentle Butch Relationship Status: Single and content Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Minnesota Posts: 6,558 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 22,052 Thanked 15,391 Times in 4,138 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	I think relationships built on friendship first are the ones that stay with you even if the relationship fails. I've found in my years that sometimes being friends is all you were meant to be. Remaining friends after the break up may not always happen for one reason or another. In about 30 years, I've maintained friendships with all but 3 of my exes. Some of them took longer than others to keep. They may not all be close friendships because life has a way of keeping us all busy. Some I keep in contact with online, others by phone. R and I have talked about many of my exes and some she has even met. Some of them she liked while others shes said, what the hell were you thinking. I even had one that when we split the dogs up we had, got visitation rights. I'd drop my dog at her place for a weekend or week, so the dog still had time to play with her off spring. That was many years ago and what worked for me was great. It may not always work for someone else. Daryn, give her more time to make a new life and maybe she'll see things differently. It's always harder on the one that got dumped. I know, I've been at both ends. __________________ Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength; loving someone deeply gives you courage --- Lao Tzo

12-27-2009, 06:04 PM	#2
Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,249 Times in 2,216 Posts Rep Power: 0	Something that my late sister taught me that we all need to socialize with many. Everyone has something to contribute, no matter what it is. And nobody is an island. Just reach out. Namaste, Andrew