Who Would You Like To Tap???

Andrew, Jr. · 12-27-2009, 11:15 PM

Weatherboi,

Thank you for your kind words.

Andrew

NotAnAverageGuy · 12-27-2009, 11:31 PM

Oh yeah Sharon Stone

Softly · 12-28-2009, 09:32 AM

Tim Curry - especially with his clown make up on xoxo
Clea DuVall
Michelle Rodriguez
Andrew McCarthy back in the 80's
and Robert Downey Jr (Less Than Zero threesome?)
Woody Harrelson + Juliette Lewis (as Mickey / Mallory

)
Jessie Spano (before Showgirls) <3<3

daisygrrl · 12-28-2009, 09:50 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Softly

Andrew McCarthy back in the 80's

I had the biggest crush on him because of films like St. Elmo's Fire & Mannequin. And, I also had a crush one of the other 'Brat Pack'--Judd Nelson (the "bad/naughty boy" in Breakfast Club). As far as dudes go, though, my uber crush has always been Steve Martin...the wit, the charm, oh my!

Other crushes include:
* my Sweetie, of course!!!
* intellectuals, artsy, & power-suit types
* my femme crushes on this site know who they are!
* Oh, and, Valerie Bertinelli, Angelina Joli, Silas Howard & Wanda Sykes are hawt in my book...

Softly · 12-28-2009, 10:14 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by daisygrrl

Judd Nelson

oh gosh I forgot about him.
I'd tap it - twice

about a year ago I was at a gay club here in Philly and Jane Lynch was there promoting something...anyway I got a picture with her and when she put her arm around me I got tummy butterflies. she is way sexy!

Daddy rarely comes on here so I am posting hers:
Alicia Silverstone
Drew Barrymore
and some hot model from VS ads lol
(pretty good taste if I say so myself!)

WILDCAT · 12-28-2009, 10:22 AM

Just so folks realize:

When a man (or anyone says) says, "I'd like to TAP that"... or "Hit it", they are primarily, no specifically talking sexually about fucking a woman (or man!) - and as in a damn good banging from behind, at that. That is it. Tapping or hitting that "ASS". Sexual object. Nothing more, nothing less.

Not that sex is wrong!

Have fun! I wouldn't want to have this as part of our history here worded like this, but it is freedom of speech! And when June asked for interpretation and the "spending the night" was acceptable as the "compromise in understanding" - just realize the replies will be come from various interpretations as well as the current social knowledge of what this means then - and for the readers of this site as well.

I am feeling offended by this thread start, but that is just me. It looks like some of you weren't sure what that "expression" actually referred to. Thus, I just wanted to share that in case it does in fact matter to you.

Thanks. (You should still have fun if this is your thing, though - really.)

WC

BullDog · 12-28-2009, 10:34 AM

To tap does seem to mean slap or fuck in the ass, or stick a penis in, at least according to the Urban Dictionary. From my perspective it sounds pretty derogatory towards women (actually probably towards anyone but seems to be primarily aimed at women- treating as a sexual object). It doesn't seem that is how people are using it here, but I don't think I am a big fan of the phrase.

I am not that interested in discussing crushes on heterosexual celebrities, but if others want to, no biggie to me. The Hollywood standard of beauty isn't really mine.

The threads I really can't stand are the What's the Least/Most Butch/Femme Thing You Do.

daisygrrl · 12-28-2009, 10:46 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BullDog

I am not that interested in discussing crushes on heterosexual celebrities, but if others want to, no biggie to me. The Hollywood standard of beauty isn't really mine.

I think that is one of the reasons why the thread has coolness potential: to expand the normalized view of beauty/sexiness by recognizing the fabulosity of notables that may not appear on "People's 100 most gorgeous celebrities" (such as undervalued writers, musicians, ect.).

Softly · 12-28-2009, 10:35 AM

–verb (used with object)
14. to penetrate, open up, reach into, etc., for the purpose of using something or drawing something off; begin to use: to tap one's resources.

it's not always hittin' from behind.
just sayin'

NJFemmie · 12-28-2009, 10:36 AM

.....

daisygrrl · 12-28-2009, 10:42 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Softly

–verb (used with object)
14. to penetrate, open up, reach into, etc., for the purpose of using something or drawing something off; begin to use: to tap one's resources.

it's not always hittin' from behind.
just sayin'

Exactly.

Slang Definition 1

Slang Definition 2

daisygrrl · 12-28-2009, 10:39 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by WILDCAT

Just so folks realize:

When a man (or anyone says) says, "I'd like to TAP that"... or "Hit it", they are primarily, no specifically talking sexually about fucking a woman (or man!) - and as in a damn good banging from behind, at that. That is it. Tapping or hitting that "ASS". Sexual object. Nothing more, nothing less.

Not that sex is wrong!

Have fun! I wouldn't want to have this as part of our history here worded like this, but it is freedom of speech! And when June asked for interpretation and the "spending the night" was acceptable as the "compromise in understanding" - just realize the replies will be come from various interpretations as well as the current social knowledge of what this means then - and for the readers of this site as well.

I am feeling offended by this thread start, but that is just me. It looks like some of you weren't sure what that "expression" actually referred to. Thus, I just wanted to share that in case it does in fact matter to you.

Thanks. (You should still have fun if this is your thing, though - really.)

WC

Thanks, WC, for your post. I knew that "tap" meant "sexual intercourse"; and, I appreciate your observations about the possible objectification that this thread may promote.

I wasn't offended by the thread because I have read the thread initiator's posts for about two years now and because this thread is in the "fluff" category. That being said, I know that not everyone will be reading this thread from the same standpoint. And, I also think that it's great to bring awareness to the political implications of phrases that are flippantly used.

Like Gemme, I don't really participate in sharing much information regarding my sexual inclinations; but, I wanted to contribute to this thread because I felt like I knew the good intentions behind its creation and because I think each poster can clarify his/her/hys/ze's appropriation of the term "tap". For instance, I chose the act of "crushing" (a playful affection and thinking someone's "cute" or "sexy"). And, perhaps, even a dialogue here--or elsewhere--about "tap" may prove beneficial (like the discussions on the slang use of "gay").

Just a few thoughts, here.

Respectfully,
daisy

Hudson · 12-28-2009, 11:02 AM

I think it's interesting that when this EXACT thread was started on another butch/femme site by a WOMAN it took off like hotcakes and was a fun-spirited place where just as many women/femmes shared their opinions as butches/men. This thread, in my opinion, can in no way be sexist or objectifying to women when women are welcome to and are participating. I think most everyone who knows Andrew or has read his posts knows he's not coming from a place of disrespect.

And for the record, not all men subscribe to a 'Hollywood standard of beauty' nor do they all merely look at a woman (or her body parts) and think they actually want to fuck her without knowing a thing about who she is, how she thinks, what makes her tick, etc. I find the assumption that men pr women (butches or femmes) reduce women (or men) to body parts or mere sexual acts extremely offensive - much more so than a fun and fluff thread where people name their fantasy taps.

For the record, feel free to objectify me. I'm not fragile. And I'll probably objectify you right back.

12-28-2009, 10:34 AM	#7
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12-28-2009, 10:35 AM	#9
Softly Member How Do You Identify?: femme Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Seattle Posts: 655 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 465 Thanked 701 Times in 253 Posts Rep Power: 3646036	there are many definitions! xoxo –verb (used with object) 14. to penetrate, open up, reach into, etc., for the purpose of using something or drawing something off; begin to use: to tap one's resources. it's not always hittin' from behind. just sayin'

12-28-2009, 10:36 AM	#10
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12-28-2009, 09:32 AM	#3
Softly Member How Do You Identify?: femme Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Seattle Posts: 655 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 465 Thanked 701 Times in 253 Posts Rep Power: 3646036	Tim Curry - especially with his clown make up on xoxo Clea DuVall Michelle Rodriguez Andrew McCarthy back in the 80's and Robert Downey Jr (Less Than Zero threesome?) Woody Harrelson + Juliette Lewis (as Mickey / Mallory ) Jessie Spano (before Showgirls) <3<3

12-28-2009, 10:22 AM	#6
WILDCAT Member How Do You Identify?: Very PROUD BUTCH LESBIAN! Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: PA Posts: 679 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 796 Thanked 551 Times in 238 Posts Rep Power: 761791	Just so folks realize: When a man (or anyone says) says, "I'd like to TAP that"... or "Hit it", they are primarily, no specifically talking sexually about fucking a woman (or man!) - and as in a damn good banging from behind, at that. That is it. Tapping or hitting that "ASS". Sexual object. Nothing more, nothing less. Not that sex is wrong! Have fun! I wouldn't want to have this as part of our history here worded like this, but it is freedom of speech! And when June asked for interpretation and the "spending the night" was acceptable as the "compromise in understanding" - just realize the replies will be come from various interpretations as well as the current social knowledge of what this means then - and for the readers of this site as well. I am feeling offended by this thread start, but that is just me. It looks like some of you weren't sure what that "expression" actually referred to. Thus, I just wanted to share that in case it does in fact matter to you. Thanks. (You should still have fun if this is your thing, though - really.) WC

12-28-2009, 11:02 AM	#13
Hudson Member How Do You Identify?: FTM Preferred Pronoun?: He/Him Relationship Status: Truth is stranger than fiction. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Atlanta, Georgia Posts: 434 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 160 Thanked 574 Times in 210 Posts Rep Power: 365377	I think it's interesting that when this EXACT thread was started on another butch/femme site by a WOMAN it took off like hotcakes and was a fun-spirited place where just as many women/femmes shared their opinions as butches/men. This thread, in my opinion, can in no way be sexist or objectifying to women when women are welcome to and are participating. I think most everyone who knows Andrew or has read his posts knows he's not coming from a place of disrespect. And for the record, not all men subscribe to a 'Hollywood standard of beauty' nor do they all merely look at a woman (or her body parts) and think they actually want to fuck her without knowing a thing about who she is, how she thinks, what makes her tick, etc. I find the assumption that men pr women (butches or femmes) reduce women (or men) to body parts or mere sexual acts extremely offensive - much more so than a fun and fluff thread where people name their fantasy taps. For the record, feel free to objectify me. I'm not fragile. And I'll probably objectify you right back.