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Old 01-17-2011, 06:11 PM   #1
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How many people will be in each group? Does anybody have objections to it being more than five? I found that most of the work was in actually choosing the songs. Burning a couple extra didn't take much time and I'd LOVE to get as much new music as I can! What's the feeling on this?

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the number of people per group will depend on the number of participants
my personal preference is for smaller groups

smaller groups = more possible group options and therefore anticipation about what group you will end up in

smaller groups = mystery and intrigue over all the swaps you missed out on therefore it's more likely one would join the next swap

6 days left to sign up

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● QueenofSmirks
● Gemme
● Ebon
● Logicaly
● tonaderspeisung
● Suebee
● Daywalker
● Diva
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Old 01-17-2011, 07:19 PM   #2
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the number of people per group will depend on the number of participants
my personal preference is for smaller groups

smaller groups = more possible group options and therefore anticipation about what group you will end up in

smaller groups = mystery and intrigue over all the swaps you missed out on therefore it's more likely one would join the next swap

6 days left to sign up

the swap list thus far:
● QueenofSmirks
● Gemme
● Ebon
● Logicaly
● tonaderspeisung
● Suebee
● Daywalker
● Diva
● rainintothesea
● ALovelyKiss

Bigger groups equals more music!
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Old 01-18-2011, 06:27 PM   #3
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sure discovering something new or rediscovering something long forgotten is a fun aspect of mix swaps
but it's not the only aspect

like you said - most of the work is making the mix
some people spend hours, days, months even; collecting the perfect set of songs
it's self expression and revelation in about 80 minutes

i like to spend time with a mix listening for what's being shared besides music
it's a great way to get to know someone

this swap is under the community, groups and relationships category
i'd like to approach this swap kind of like a 3rd grade write a letter to a pen pal and get to know a BFP neighbor so to speak
groups of 3 at the most

of course i'm open to group input for 5 more days
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I can see the benefits of both ways of doing it but I'm with Sue. I don't think we're going to have so many folks sign up that it would be extremely tedious to do it as one big group. I know that I'd like to share and learn from everyone on the list.

I initially became interested in this some time ago, but I couldn't participate then. Once I saw the cds that my friends were getting, I really REALLY wanted to do this. So, I'm all for all in.
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Thank you for being receptive toward group needs;
whether we have small or large groups of participants.

I have a question though:

How much time will we be allowed to put a compilation together?
I just began my last (final) semester of studies and I would appreciate
a heads up regarding a time deadline. I'm thinking I could have a music
compilation put together by the first or second week of March.

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sure discovering something new or rediscovering something long forgotten is a fun aspect of mix swaps
but it's not the only aspect

like you said - most of the work is making the mix
some people spend hours, days, months even; collecting the perfect set of songs
it's self expression and revelation in about 80 minutes

i like to spend time with a mix listening for what's being shared besides music
it's a great way to get to know someone

this swap is under the community, groups and relationships category
i'd like to approach this swap kind of like a 3rd grade write a letter to a pen pal and get to know a BFP neighbor so to speak
groups of 3 at the most

of course i'm open to group input for 5 more days
Perhaps you could simply send a PM to those who have signed up so far and ask their preference. I think everyone should have an input on this.

I put an awful lot of work into my last mix - and that's because I wanted to share something of myself with my cd. But it IS an awful lot of work, and it IS an exchange. To take all that time for an exchange with two other people..... I'm sorry, but it's not really something that would interest me.

Looking forward to seeing the preferences of others.

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My preference is to participate in a smaller group.
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the number of people per group will depend on the number of participants
my personal preference is for smaller groups

smaller groups = more possible group options and therefore anticipation about what group you will end up in

smaller groups = mystery and intrigue over all the swaps you missed out on therefore it's more likely one would join the next swap

6 days left to sign up

the swap list thus far:
● QueenofSmirks
● Gemme
● Ebon
● Logicaly
● tonaderspeisung
● Suebee
● Daywalker
● Diva
● rainintothesea
● ALovelyKiss
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I put an awful lot of work into my last mix - and that's because I wanted to share something of myself with my cd. But it IS an awful lot of work, and it IS an exchange. To take all that time for an exchange with two other people..... I'm sorry, but it's not really something that would interest me.
i understand where you are coming from but i'd like this swap to be more than an exchange
i'd like it to be about making connections
not best friends for life, soul mates or crazy stuff like that
but a real world human connection
maybe this is all naval gazing philosophy but it is why i volunteered to organize the swap

you put a lot of work into your last mix
i received a copy of your mix - it was great
i just played it again
the work you put in showed - cover art, song flow, the way certain instrumentation flowed from one track to another - really great
as i type this and your mix is playing i know a real human is reading this on the other side of the data bits hurling through space
a real human connection
i think that is lost on the larger swap groups full of mass thank you/ reps to anonymous screen names

id like this swap to be an opportunity to make more connections like that

i propose that the swap groups remain small and everyone is free to pm and make arrangements to swap with people they are not grouped
this will build personal investment in the swap and foster the human exchanges i'd like this swap to achieve





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● QueenofSmirks
● Gemme
● Ebon
● Logicaly
● tonaderspeisung
● Suebee
● Daywalker
● Diva
● rainintothesea
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i understand where you are coming from but i'd like this swap to be more than an exchange
i'd like it to be about making connections
not best friends for life, soul mates or crazy stuff like that
but a real world human connection
maybe this is all naval gazing philosophy but it is why i volunteered to organize the swap

you put a lot of work into your last mix
i received a copy of your mix - it was great
i just played it again
the work you put in showed - cover art, song flow, the way certain instrumentation flowed from one track to another - really great
as i type this and your mix is playing i know a real human is reading this on the other side of the data bits hurling through space
a real human connection
i think that is lost on the larger swap groups full of mass thank you/ reps to anonymous screen names

id like this swap to be an opportunity to make more connections like that

i propose that the swap groups remain small and everyone is free to pm and make arrangements to swap with people they are not grouped
this will build personal investment in the swap and foster the human exchanges i'd like this swap to achieve





the swap list thus far:
● QueenofSmirks
● Gemme
● Ebon
● Logicaly
● tonaderspeisung
● Suebee
● Daywalker
● Diva
● rainintothesea
● ALovelyKiss
● Fancy
Just a thought on what I've highlighted above: the big advantage of a swap is that we don't HAVE TO make all those arrangements with each individual to exchange our cd's.
My girl came up with a suggestion tonight when I was discussing this with her: a small group for those who prefer that, and a larger group for those who would prefer that. It would be nice to hear from everyone as to their preference.

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the fact that we don't have to interact with each individual is really my whole point

i'd like swap 2 to be an opportunity to wave to your neighbor

the only extra arrangements necessary are a quick - hi, wanna trade too?
smaller groups just give everyone an opening to say hi to each other


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● Daywalker
● Diva
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Smaller groups ~ my attention span has a mind of it's own.




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I officially made my way over here to this thread I am in like I said on the other post. Just got done reading everything thats been said I understand the reason for small swap groups but I am also willing to do bigger ones or even 1 on 1's with anyone who wants more swaps.

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