How do you "come down" from a bad day?

cuddlyfemme · 01-22-2011, 08:38 AM

definately music! i also like spending time with my kitties and petting them

CrankyOldGuy · 01-22-2011, 08:48 AM

martini's and mafia wars

hpychick · 05-03-2011, 12:41 PM

that I would be posting in a thread like this....but here I am, posting, trying to find some light at the end of the tunnel, trying to get through today without breaking down and crying

when I wake up
when I get dressed
on my way to work
during my workday
on my way home
when I walk my dogs
when I'm talking to friends who are trying to help me get through this
when I'm talking to my kids, who try to console and comfort me
when I sit here staring blankly at the screen
when I try to eat
when I get my bath
when I get dressed for bed
as I fall asleep

I'm realizing, even though I'm the one who ended it, it's not easy at all. (Somehow, I've always thought it would be less painful.) It hurts like the dickens. It hurts more than I thought it would. Even knowing all that I know, all the reasons it won't work, all the reasons it could never work - it still hurts, and I still want him, and I still miss him every moment of everyday, every night when I could hear him snoring. I still miss the silly texts, and the corny jokes, and wake up phone calls over his breakfast, I miss him jetting into an office or a hallway, or outside for a quick smoke so he could call me just to tell me he was missing me and needed to hear my voice, to tell me how much he loved about me.

Walking away or running away, depending on how you look at it - it's harder than you think. Maybe soon, it will feel liberating. Maybe soon. But will it be soon enough?

How do I come down from a bad day? I just want to know how to get up.

Medusa · 05-03-2011, 12:48 PM

I have the luxury of going outside anytime I want here at work for a little fresh air and sunshine and I did just that as soon as I got here this morning and saw my inbox.
It's amazing what a few deep breaths can do.

I will also add that when I am driving home between work and home, I sometimes put my phone on silent and turn off the radio if I'm feeling a sensory overload that day so that I can have 10 minutes of "quiet time" before I get home and start my list of "to do's".

The_Lady_Snow · 05-03-2011, 01:03 PM

Music!

Quiet Time

A walk

A good ol fashion cry, hot shower, & soft wooby

Sparkle · 05-03-2011, 01:10 PM

A long hot shower.

A nice meal.

Quiet. (no telly. no internet. no phone.)

Retreat to bed with a good book and a cuppa tea.

A long walk with my dog, even when I don't feel like it; its good for both of us and that can be motivation enough.

Spending an evening with my best Femmes always lifts my spirits.

A mindless film or trashy tv show marathon.

Daydreaming online: cruising chi-chi villa rentals in Sicily, "planning" a 'round-the-world trip, looking at pretty shoes...

Linus · 05-03-2011, 01:33 PM

When the world is too much, I let K know. I turn off all my gadgets, get a cigar, a cheesy sci-fi novel, a good beer and sit outside watching the world go by with the puglets. On the rare extreme stress day, I grab my bike and just aimless bike around thinking of nothing.

I rarely have issues with stress these days because I've landed in a job that lets me do what I need when I want and that flexibility has done wonders for my stress. Compared to where I was 15 years ago where I worked 6-7 days a week, 12-16 hours a day at a small firm my life and work life is far more relaxing and easier to address.

01-22-2011, 08:48 AM	#2
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05-03-2011, 12:41 PM	#3
hpychick Member How Do You Identify?: Feminine with a hammer Preferred Pronoun?: Girly Stuff Relationship Status: Jesse's Girl. She asked! I said yes! Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Minneapolis! Or as I like to call it - Many Happiness! Posts: 1,364 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,387 Thanked 1,417 Times in 499 Posts Rep Power: 15817345	I never thought... that I would be posting in a thread like this....but here I am, posting, trying to find some light at the end of the tunnel, trying to get through today without breaking down and crying when I wake up when I get dressed on my way to work during my workday on my way home when I walk my dogs when I'm talking to friends who are trying to help me get through this when I'm talking to my kids, who try to console and comfort me when I sit here staring blankly at the screen when I try to eat when I get my bath when I get dressed for bed as I fall asleep I'm realizing, even though I'm the one who ended it, it's not easy at all. (Somehow, I've always thought it would be less painful.) It hurts like the dickens. It hurts more than I thought it would. Even knowing all that I know, all the reasons it won't work, all the reasons it could never work - it still hurts, and I still want him, and I still miss him every moment of everyday, every night when I could hear him snoring. I still miss the silly texts, and the corny jokes, and wake up phone calls over his breakfast, I miss him jetting into an office or a hallway, or outside for a quick smoke so he could call me just to tell me he was missing me and needed to hear my voice, to tell me how much he loved about me. Walking away or running away, depending on how you look at it - it's harder than you think. Maybe soon, it will feel liberating. Maybe soon. But will it be soon enough? How do I come down from a bad day? I just want to know how to get up. __________________ *~~greeting the world one cup of coffee at a time~~* http://www.waterfyi.com/wp-content/u...nn-300x168.jpg

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01-22-2011, 08:38 AM	#1
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