Our Answers To Big Questions

The_Lady_Snow · 02-08-2011, 08:20 PM

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Yes, my love, I can see and understand that. I've attended many wakes - Puerto Rican's wakes are no different from Irish wakes - lots of food, liquor and reminises and jokes. What the closest of us to the 'dearly departed' will never regain, is the love and warmth, and yes, the bad aspects of them we will miss...

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Do you know why we eat after funerals?

cinderella · 02-08-2011, 08:23 PM

Because we can...? We're still alive and able to do so. Not so much for those we've buried.

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Do you know why we eat after funerals?

Soft*Silver · 02-08-2011, 08:42 PM

I am going to guess we eat after funerals out of necessity.

I am going to go back to the agrian time to pre-industrial where towns were popping up and neighbors pulled together. Deaths were a family matter, the dead kept at home, bathed and clothed and presented at the house. Relatives were given notice to come see and pay their respects. Sometimes it was a long buggy drive. People came hungry. Locals brought food to help feed the kin and friends. They also chipped in and took care of the farm chores too. Feeding horses, collecting eggs, milking cows. These things all had to be done. Animals dont care if someone died. An udder is full and needs expressed. People chipped in and helped out with that too. We just dont have something similar to that in today's lifestyle to follow suit like we do with eating. People still come from far away and need fed....at least, thats how it all started.

Sweet_Amor_Taino · 02-08-2011, 09:30 PM

My big question? I am falling for a beautiful mature lady.
She is smart and attentive. Oh and did I mention Sexy as all heck I need to wear my

hat because there is fire in the house. LOL My question is will she want me as her guy for keeps?

The_Lady_Snow · 02-09-2011, 11:31 AM

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Originally Posted by Sweet_Amor_Taino

My big question? I am falling for a beautiful mature lady.
She is smart and attentive. Oh and did I mention Sexy as all heck I need to wear my

hat because there is fire in the house. LOL My question is will she want me as her guy for keeps?

I hope so tickets are bought!! Good luck and congrats!!

little man · 02-09-2011, 12:54 PM

i wonder if this is drived from sin eating in other cultures?

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Soft*Silver · 02-09-2011, 01:07 PM

and we do this today, in America, in the body and blood of Christ...at communion...a small ritual revolving around a funeral

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Originally Posted by little man

i wonder if this is drived from sin eating in other cultures?

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ravfem · 02-09-2011, 11:27 AM

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Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

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Do you know why we eat after funerals?

it's funny, i was just talking about the rituals surrounding death & funerals recently.... when i was young, the body was brought to the house (and in the case of my uncle, a soldier who died in Vietnam, a soldier came with the body and stayed there at the house, beside the casket the entire time).

Everyone, whether they knew the family or not, brought food. So much that a lot of it was thrown out eventually.

i think that some of it is that, at least in the culture i grew up in, you offer food at any & all occasions, happy or sad, as a way to socialize, show respect, love & either sympathy or congratulations. i remember more than one occasion when a family member would say something like, "i have to fix something to take with me before i can go over there", and also, "did you see that so&so didn't even bring a store bought cake?!" It just wasn't done, especially store-bought stuff!

my granny fed us til we couldn't eat another thing & then kept trying to push food on us... it was her only way of showing love.

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