Confessions Are Good For The Soul

[sylvie]

i confess -

- i often wonder if i'm the milkman's child.. i am nothing like my family.
- i am really ticked off at my family right now..
- i read my magazines and newspapers from back to front & last section to first section...
- thought my confidence is building in many areas, and i'm feeling some worth, i still think i am a hideous disgusting creature.
- i fell off the wagon last week - but plan to hop on full force once again!
- bullyin' is SO not cool, in fact, brings out an anger from deep within, even when the bullyin' is directed at someone else...

[proximitywithoutintimacy]

I confess...

... that I am isolating myself from a lot of people right now.

... that I wrote my homework assignments on my hand so I wouldn't forget.

... that my hand also says, "Angie is my platonic wife 4EVER."

... that Angie's hand says, "Jen is my platonic wife 4EVER."

[ravfem]

Originally Posted by sylvie

i confess -
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- bullyin' is SO not cool, in fact, brings out an anger from deep within, even when the bullyin' is directed at someone else...

i confess....

i kinda feel pity for bullies, i mean... they seem to be really miserable, you know? Sometimes i wonder about the mentality behind bullying...

Research indicates that adults who bully have personalities that are authoritarian, combined with a strong need to control or dominate.
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Further studies have shown that envy and resentment may be motives for bullying. Research on the self-esteem of bullies has produced equivocal results. While some bullies are arrogant and narcissistic, others can use bullying as a tool to conceal shame or anxiety or to boost self esteem: by demeaning others, the abuser him/herself feels empowered.

Researchers have identified other risk factors such as depression and personality disorders, as well as quickness to anger and use of force, addiction to aggressive behaviors, mistaking others' actions as hostile, concern with preserving self image, and engaging in obsessive or rigid actions. A combination of these factors may also be cause of this behavior.

It is often suggested that bullying behavior has its origin in childhood. As a person who is inclined to act as a bully matures, his or her related behavior patterns will often also mature. Schoolyard pranks and 'rough-housing' may mature into more subtle, yet equally effective adult level activities such as administrative end-runs, well planned and orchestrated attempts at character assassination, or other less obvious, yet equally forceful forms of coercion.
"If aggressive behaviour is not challenged in childhood, there is a danger that it may become habitual. Indeed, there is research evidence, to indicate that bullying during childhood puts children at risk of criminal behaviour and domestic violence in adulthood."

(copied from the bible that is Wikipedia)

[sylvie]

Originally Posted by ravfem

i confess....

i kinda feel pity for bullies, i mean... they seem to be really miserable, you know? Sometimes i wonder about the mentality behind bullying...

sadly, i am my own bully! but, working on changing that..

i'm very mean to myself, and was stuck on that stinkin' thinkin' that would drag me down more & more, but also only attracted the kinds of people that were also all too happy to join me on my quest..

as hard as that is to admit, it's true..
once i started to grasp the concept that people only do to me what 'i' allow them to, talk about a wake up call..

so, i'm punching MY bully in the big toe and telling her to frig off, cuz i'm better than that! =)
but i totally know what you mean, i often wonder about the reason for bullying.. it makes me sad.. the anger is focused at my own bullying, but often wonder what kind of life those people have walked to get them where they are, to wanna do that to another human being..or if they're in a situation like me, to themselves..
sad, sad..very sad... =(

[dixie]

I confess...everyone keeps taunting me with donuts. I may just stop at the Krispy Kreme on my way to school and buy one or two (or a dozen)