What do you want?

Gemme · 12-31-2009, 08:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Bit

Oh. My. Gawd.

I've never seen a better description of Gryph, and our relationship.

I'm betting Ryan is very much like him... May you have what you want, Gemme. It's totally worth the wait!

*and here I thought I wouldn't have anything to say in this thread!*

I think you may be right about Gryph and Ryan being cut from the same cloth.

Sachita · 01-10-2010, 10:16 AM

This morning I was thinking about my past pursuits in finding a relationship. I don't really look, per se but I do open myself up to it. In the past I'd post these lengthy online personals and when ask what I wanted I's have this long list.

I've learned over the years that no matter your list there are always exceptions to the rule and your needs change based on circumstances. I know that what I want today is different then what I thought I wanted 5 years ago.

We all want honesty, trust and loyalty. They shouldn't even have to go in a list. Funny how often we all put them there any way.

I'm a little torn right now. On one had I want to open myself up to the universe and let whatever happens happen. To trust that if I love myself, trust that they best circumstance will happen that the right partner will come into my life.

On the other hand maybe I should be more proactive and constructive with finding a partner. That if I want to manifest this reality I need to know exactly what I'm asking for but can I really do this? Do I even know what i really want? lol

I am an attractive woman- strong, independent, intelligent, articulate and a loyal partner. I think there are many of us here with these same qualities. I often wonder why so many are single. I know its not easy when you're a subculture within a subculture- BF, but damn, it just seems like the biggest mountain, at least for me.

Stitch · 05-07-2011, 03:53 AM

- Someone who no matter how busy their live is, makes time for me in some way or another
- Honesty and respect
- Someone who realize that "success" doesn't always have to have a monetary value.

msW8ing · 05-07-2011, 10:50 AM

All the things everyone else has listed..and..someone who understands that friends/family/debt/trials and tribulations of all sorts will always come and go..but in the end bottom line is when the dust settles it will always be them and I left standing side by side to take on any and all challenges...when all is said and done it is "us against the world" Doesn't sound complicated does it? You would be amazed. A 100/100 relationship..I give 100% and they give 100%.

Stitch · 05-08-2011, 04:05 AM

I wish my most recent ex could have realized that.

boitanner · 05-08-2011, 10:31 AM

This says it all

http://youtu.be/05qcA4KPI0k

Sachita · 05-08-2011, 10:42 AM

ok a year later and a lot wiser...

I want an intelligent, conscious human being who knows who they are without getting caught up in labels. Someone that enjoys the dynamic and makes me feel like I'm the only girl in the world. Someone that LOVES gardening and cooking. Someone's who's idea of a perfect day is sitting on the porch watching our fur babies play, watching and teaching grandkids about life. Someone that doesn't have to think about doing the right thing.. it just happens. Someone who wants to work at being healthy and strong enough to spend the rest of our golden years together.

Random · 05-08-2011, 10:44 AM

I want trust, honor, loyalty, honesty, intellegence and laughter.

I want someone who sees me for who I am... beautiful, ugly, strong, weak.. Might not like all of me, but loves all of me and wouldn't change a thing.

I want conversations that last for days
I want to like someone so much that I have to go find them if I haven't seen them in twenty mins, just to see their face and say hi...
I want someone secure enought to know that one day I will miss them and then the next day tell them to go away...

I want the security of knowing that if I'm alive in twenty years, they are going to be charging up my rascal and finding my other shoe...

I got lucky... or did I? Did I luck out or did I say what I wanted and get it?

T4Texas · 07-19-2011, 08:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Sachita

I know that what I want today is different then what I thought I wanted 5 years ago.

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I feel the same way. I think we all change as we get older as to how much we are willing to tolerate, expect in a person or desire in a partner. I have had to come to terms with how much I gave back as a partner and sadly it often wasnt enough and the reasons for at least two breakups. It's hard to be honest with yourself, but necessary if you intend to keep moving forward.

05-07-2011, 10:50 AM	#4
msW8ing Member How Do You Identify?: multi-faceted gem, femme, submissive babygirl if the chemistry is there. Preferred Pronoun?: lady Relationship Status: working on myself Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Lewiston, Idaho Posts: 920 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,700 Thanked 2,497 Times in 654 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	All the things everyone else has listed..and..someone who understands that friends/family/debt/trials and tribulations of all sorts will always come and go..but in the end bottom line is when the dust settles it will always be them and I left standing side by side to take on any and all challenges...when all is said and done it is "us against the world" Doesn't sound complicated does it? You would be amazed. A 100/100 relationship..I give 100% and they give 100%. __________________ *Don't judge me by my past..I don't live there anymore* A lady who knows the ropes..will never be bound. ~Mae West

05-08-2011, 10:31 AM	#6
boitanner Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch/boi/gnome Preferred Pronoun?: Gnome Relationship Status: Single Join Date: May 2011 Location: Eureka Springs, AR Posts: 44 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 20 Thanked 46 Times in 27 Posts Rep Power: 463064	This says it all http://youtu.be/05qcA4KPI0k __________________ boitanner little lonely boi http://i10.photobucket.com/albums/a106/Mom2kk/005-2.jpg

05-08-2011, 10:42 AM	#7
Sachita Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Alpha Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Goddess Relationship Status: Completely in love Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Southern Virginia Posts: 3,225 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,564 Thanked 8,992 Times in 2,247 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	ok a year later and a lot wiser... I want an intelligent, conscious human being who knows who they are without getting caught up in labels. Someone that enjoys the dynamic and makes me feel like I'm the only girl in the world. Someone that LOVES gardening and cooking. Someone's who's idea of a perfect day is sitting on the porch watching our fur babies play, watching and teaching grandkids about life. Someone that doesn't have to think about doing the right thing.. it just happens. Someone who wants to work at being healthy and strong enough to spend the rest of our golden years together. __________________ You either like me or you don't. It took me Twenty-something years to learn how to love myself, I don't have that kinda time to convince somebody else. ~ Daniel Franzese

05-08-2011, 10:44 AM	#8
Random Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: back in the land of trees and snow Posts: 2,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,017 Thanked 5,327 Times in 1,378 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I want trust, honor, loyalty, honesty, intellegence and laughter. I want someone who sees me for who I am... beautiful, ugly, strong, weak.. Might not like all of me, but loves all of me and wouldn't change a thing. I want conversations that last for days I want to like someone so much that I have to go find them if I haven't seen them in twenty mins, just to see their face and say hi... I want someone secure enought to know that one day I will miss them and then the next day tell them to go away... I want the security of knowing that if I'm alive in twenty years, they are going to be charging up my rascal and finding my other shoe... I got lucky... or did I? Did I luck out or did I say what I wanted and get it? __________________ ~Volunteer~ "It gets in your blood"

01-10-2010, 10:16 AM	#2
Sachita Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Alpha Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Goddess Relationship Status: Completely in love Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Southern Virginia Posts: 3,225 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,564 Thanked 8,992 Times in 2,247 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	This morning I was thinking about my past pursuits in finding a relationship. I don't really look, per se but I do open myself up to it. In the past I'd post these lengthy online personals and when ask what I wanted I's have this long list. I've learned over the years that no matter your list there are always exceptions to the rule and your needs change based on circumstances. I know that what I want today is different then what I thought I wanted 5 years ago. We all want honesty, trust and loyalty. They shouldn't even have to go in a list. Funny how often we all put them there any way. I'm a little torn right now. On one had I want to open myself up to the universe and let whatever happens happen. To trust that if I love myself, trust that they best circumstance will happen that the right partner will come into my life. On the other hand maybe I should be more proactive and constructive with finding a partner. That if I want to manifest this reality I need to know exactly what I'm asking for but can I really do this? Do I even know what i really want? lol I am an attractive woman- strong, independent, intelligent, articulate and a loyal partner. I think there are many of us here with these same qualities. I often wonder why so many are single. I know its not easy when you're a subculture within a subculture- BF, but damn, it just seems like the biggest mountain, at least for me.

05-07-2011, 03:53 AM	#3
Stitch Member How Do You Identify?: Sweetest Soft Butch you don't know yet Preferred Pronoun?: She, Hy, Relationship Status: Solo Artist Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Vancouver, Canada Posts: 191 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16 Thanked 305 Times in 111 Posts Rep Power: 2008424	- Someone who no matter how busy their live is, makes time for me in some way or another - Honesty and respect - Someone who realize that "success" doesn't always have to have a monetary value.

05-08-2011, 04:05 AM	#5
Stitch Member How Do You Identify?: Sweetest Soft Butch you don't know yet Preferred Pronoun?: She, Hy, Relationship Status: Solo Artist Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Vancouver, Canada Posts: 191 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16 Thanked 305 Times in 111 Posts Rep Power: 2008424	I wish my most recent ex could have realized that.